So this man has been flirting with me for months, sets up a situation for us to be alone, and when I move in for a kiss he backs up and says "I have a really good woman at home and I don't want to mess that up"....WTF? So I bolted but after he flirted with me for months afterwards and even tried to arrange for us to be alone again, I got to thinking maybe what he was trying to telll me was that he wanted an affair, no strings attached. IOW, he didn't want to upset his kids and home lfe but yet found me very attractive. Or was he saying he'd changed his mind and wasn't interested?
What's your opinion?
2007-10-26 18:34:03 · 14 answers · asked by galadventurous 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Gee, I'd like to hear from some more guys. Anyway for the one of you who wanted to hear the detail of how he arranged for us to be alone, he asked me to wait for me at a certain location, made the area comfy and then came back a little while later. I know it was wrong but after drinking alone for a while I was anxious,,,,I had been thinking about him for 9 months. He's the only man who has floated my boat in the last 20 years, REALLY! Anyway, I guess I blew it when I moved in close (close to his lips) probably startled him a little cuz he's not a player. I fell in love with him when I first met him even though he's of a lower social class than me. My DH is well educated, makes good money but I've never felt for him like I love this other guy. It's been 2 1/2 years since that happened and I still dream and think about him. Love is cruel.
2007-10-26 20:59:04 · update #1
Men are dogs and are always looking for a bone....WHAT else?
Then they go home with the tail between their legs
2007-10-26 18:39:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
Maybe his and your idea of flirting are too different things. And being alone with someone doesn't mean they want an affair. Please, move on. Find a hobby that doesn't involve a married man. He already said no to your advances - if you were the man in this scenario, you could be charged with sexual harrassment (somehow I doubt women are treated the same in cases like this).
2007-10-26 18:42:03 · answer #2 · answered by Magaroni 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
my opinion will hit the roof, get lost, don't go there, do not be the home wrecker and for Pete sake be human to find someone that is single. That man will give you all the BS so he can get to your pants. If you have a little respect and dignity just worry about you finding a single man............take my word for it because my husband was in that position last year,and this married woman wont stop hassling me........
2007-10-26 19:47:36 · answer #3 · answered by islandgirl06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A couple things might have happened.
1) You might have misunderstood the whole "he sets up a situation for us to be alone" thing. I guess I'd need more details.
2) He wanted to make a move but suddenly had a last minute rush of morality and made the comment as a way to say "Okay, I thought I wanted this but I really don't"
Whatever the situation, move on, he's married and just not worth it.
2007-10-26 18:40:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
He wants to have an affair! plain and simple, he just wants you to know that he wants you to understand that your his mistress and nothing more, he's a very selfish man and hes thinking of himself only, not his family, wife or even you! You need to know that men like that are just on the pr awl for anyone who has no self worth or morals.
2007-10-26 19:18:17 · answer #5 · answered by mrtnz2006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is simply covering his tracks. Saying "I have a good woman at home" gives him the all clear in conscience to tell his wife later if he is caught that he tried to tell you. He wants you to be ok with it so he can have his cake and eat it too.
2007-10-26 19:18:30 · answer #6 · answered by Kimmi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably wants to have an affair but is getting cold feet and nervous, keeps rethinking it. Whatever happens, don't go for it. Don't be the girl that breaks up a marriage even if he's the one flirting.
2007-10-26 18:38:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
it could mean that.... you should ask him... or you could be thinking that he is doing all this but in reality he is not and your fantasy hastaken over reality...seeing that you have no remorse for a soon to be action, something must be very wrong with you then...seek mental help... and quick.. I can't wait till your husband cheats on you... let's see how you'll be
2007-10-26 19:25:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has a good little wife at home. One that loves him dearly, keeps his house clean, his kids safe, clean and fed, and warms his bed whenever he wants. That is a good little wife that he would not want to mess up.
He wants to have a fling with someone that knows it is nothing more than a fling and probably won't happen more than once or twice before he goes back to the "good little wife"
Tell him good riddance and keep looking
Good Luck
2007-10-26 18:40:48 · answer #9 · answered by mn lady 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I think he just wanted to see if he still had what it takes to attract women ...the dirty dog!! Playing w/ ur mind for his own kicks what an a**!!
2007-10-26 18:45:32 · answer #10 · answered by NONAME 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He wants to be sure you understand the rules and know your place. You will be the piece on the side and he will still keep his security at home.
2007-10-26 18:41:19 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋