Well, my husband and I have been together for going on three years now and we have 3 kids together. Recently things have gone down hill. He and I have recently become homeless due to a mild heart attact he had, he lost his job which meant we lost everything. Well, he went off and is staying with my dad and I am staying with my mother. Well, latley he has been hanging out with my 16 year old brother (my husband is 31) and going out on drives mostly all day. He and I have grown apart and I am starting to rethink my marriage. Hes never there for me. Hes always out and I never ever get a break. I don't know what to do because a part of me loves him and another just wants to walk away. I just don't understand how a grown man can just ignore his kids and wife. It just doesn't make sence. I guess my question is, is he cheating? And should I find something better?
2007-10-26 12:05:53 · 8 answers · asked by Lisa B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
marriage counseling, give it a try.
2007-10-26 12:09:22 · answer #1 · answered by John R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating is a no, he's lost his identity. The worse thing that can happen to a man is being a burden to his family. He needs some direction in his life or else he will get depressed.
2007-10-26 12:19:27 · answer #2 · answered by Dr Phil 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is hanging out with your brother then i doubt he is cheating at least not yet. Sounds like he misses being foot loose and fanny free and he has block you and the kids out of his head. You need to go talk to him about his behavior tell him you will not tolerate it any longer if he want to stay married to you. If he acts like he doesn't care tell him you are going to start dating i bet he will hear that. It might be to late for the two of you, so much damage has been done to your family.
2007-10-26 12:40:58 · answer #3 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt he is cheating, put yourself in his shoes. He has lost his job and cannot provide for his family, how would you feel. I think he should maybe make more of an effort and perhaps look for a job but you need to voice your thoughts to him. He cannot know how you feel until you tell him.
2007-10-26 12:14:01 · answer #4 · answered by Buggy Jean 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is just lost, things as he knows it have gone and he is not sure how to get it back, my advice is to speak to him tell him you still love him, and do it together, you both have kids to think about sort it for them?
2007-10-26 12:21:35 · answer #5 · answered by ashar/97 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a hunch that you are ignoring the real problems here.
Are the real problems related to substance abuse?
Deal with the real problems first.
Good luck.
2007-10-26 12:18:55 · answer #6 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be trying to escape his problems. Get counseling - if you can't afford it, ask your minister to help.
2007-10-26 12:57:11 · answer #7 · answered by frillyfroofroo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce him he's not a real man
2007-10-26 12:19:41 · answer #8 · answered by LivingMyLife 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋