Last night i put on a sexy outfit and my hubby just kissed me and ignore it. My feelings got hurt Cuz i put the baby to bed and got all sexy for him just to be rejected. He blamed it on the baby saying he was awake when he was not. And lately we have been havin allot of problems. I don't know what to do. Im starting to think there are better things out there but i love him so much and we have a son together but i don't know if i can take being taken for granted. I want to take a break so he would know what he is losing but he don't got no were to stay. cuz we been fighting and he refuses to marry me cuz how his first marriage was. This is just a couple problems. He was a wonderful guy b4 and treated me like a princess now im like the maid. And i know he is not cheating on me cuz he works and comes home everynight. What should i do. I dont want to give up or lose him but how can i get him to wake up befor i do cuz were suppose to be a family.
2007-10-26 13:24:15 · 14 answers · asked by JennyP 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He knows i love him and i do show appreciation for him but he dont show none for me. I do everyting he askes me. B4 we use to be so good together . now he is like i don't exist and expects me to stay now that we have a kid. He told me once that noone will want me cuz i have a baby now. he was drunk but still. And he only drinks on the weekend. And he knows he can talk to me about anything we was like bestfriends but now its nothing. And i tried spicing things up last night and i told him it hurt my feelings and he said well tonight we will but now i don't want to cuz it wont be special and we will both expect it.
2007-10-26 13:40:48 · update #1
No sex `cause the baby is awake? Learn to be quiet, when he is a teenager chances are you`ll be going to bed before he does.
He ignored you because you are in a situation where you do everything he asks , so he feels that there is nothing left to gain. You`re a woman, do what my wife does and play hard to get sometimes. He is taking you for granted, to get his attention tell him that if he is not happy there with his new family, that he needs to rethink what he has. If this doesn`t work, start dressing real sexy (but not slutty) when you are out with him, and when the other guys notice you ( and they will) mention to him how the guys keep looking at you, and ask him if you have dirt on your face or something.
Just because you have a baby does not mean that no other men will want you, it`s in fact quite opposite, I am happily married, but I do notice women with their babies when they are out, and think "wow, who is the lucky guy?"
I guess what I am trying to say is , find a way to make him sit up and take notice of you for who you are
2007-10-26 14:04:39 · answer #1 · answered by I tell it like it is 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sound like maybe something is on his mind. Maybe he is stressing over something and he feels like he can't talk to you about it. Why don't you do the same thing but this time start giving him a backrub and start asking him how his day was. Pretend that you are not just trying to get into his pants. Let him know how much you appreciate everything he does and the work he does. Let him know what a wonderful man he is. Sometime s men need to hear things like that to. I have that problem once in a while with my b/f and when I do things like that and talk a little dirty to him and it seems to work. Good luck with that.
2007-10-26 13:33:15 · answer #2 · answered by anna_90242 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel and if you are sure he is not cheating on you, so, you have a lot of chance to work it out I would try something new to surprise him IDK maybe some toys maybe when he is working you can text him something kind of nasty so he notices you are thinking of having sex and if this doesn't work then go to the opposite side be so sexy but now you ignore him make him crazy and then stop so he is gonna be confused and he starts taking care of you if this doesn't work either talk too seriously to him and make him know how you feel
2007-10-26 13:33:59 · answer #3 · answered by sambabe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Assuming that you are attractive, and that you are fun to have sex with and not boring or prudish, then my guess is that he is having fear of commitment issues. He is emotionally afraid of being hurt again. You have both gone and put the cart before the horse, though, since you have a child out of wedlock, so you need to address this issue through communication or counseling or both. It won't get better on its own.
2007-10-26 13:43:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Anna, try simply going slow. don't just slap on the lingerie and act like hey baby let's do it. Put some romance into it, allow him time to relax and open up to you.
You both might also consider some joint counseling. That might help get anything that's bother you both out in the open.
Lastly, if you honestly feel he is The One, MARRY HIM!!
2007-10-26 13:47:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
omg welcome to my world lol could be he is stressed out at work or has other things on his mind... tell him as nicely as possible how you feel and would like it if tried to show you more affection.... its frustrating I know but just like us women sometimes are just not in the mood and I honestly dont thing he rejected you to be rude or incensitive... LOL i went to bed nude the other night and when my husband got home he kissed me and rolled over and went to sleep omg I was mad.. I know my husband has told me that sometimes he feels pressure to perform and when he has been at work all day all he wants is to come home and go to bed.... its not personal towards us :D:D
2007-10-26 16:49:33 · answer #6 · answered by ilymds 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See, this is what happens when you shack up with a guy, give your body to him without a committment, and play house. He's able to completely use and abuse you and you will stick around a put up with it. When you lay down with a man and play house you pretty much show them that you will do anything and they don't have to commit to you or respect you.
Learn from this and next time around have more respect for yourself. As for this guy... it's just the begining of the end.
2007-10-26 13:29:39 · answer #7 · answered by az_mommma 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Put back on the outfit and show you you can use the spell check. That will get him going!
Good luck.
2007-10-26 13:28:09 · answer #8 · answered by box of rain 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you had nothing to do with his first marriage and you don't want to hear what his ex did to him. And if he cannot prove to you that he wants to be in this relationship and make a go of it, you can arrange it to where he is your ex.
2007-10-26 13:33:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
RELAX... Don't spend so much time in your head analyzing this.... one day at a time... enjoy your beautiful baby... enjoy that he comes home at night... Enjoy a beautiful sunset....
Us women spend way too much time analyzing and driving ourselves crazy.... You've got it made.. ENJOY.
2007-10-26 13:41:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋