Today, I received an email from my Honey.
My guy is currently serving in Iraq...And should be back sometime next Spring.
But he sent me an email asking for my approval on the possible part time job offer when he gets back. The job entails driving Legal escorts to their customers and waiting a few hours until they're finished with their business.
He says that he'll only do it with my approval and that he'd be making a few grand-ish a week.
I definitely don't feel comfortable with it for the obvious reasons. Basically, these are prostitutes...Temptation in many ways, I guess.
That's alot of money to just "Drive" around escorts. So maybe he was mislead in that part of the deal.
What would you do or think of this?
Women and men's opinions appreciated...
2007-10-26 09:10:19 · 36 answers · asked by darkening_hope 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Trouble waiting to happen.
2007-10-26 09:13:06 · answer #1 · answered by wizjp 7 · 4⤊ 2⤋
It depends on the specific couple.
It's good that he asked you. Understand that's the first sign of respect because he could have just accepted the job. However, the job IS temptations-filled by nature. Try to get an understanding what exactly is attracting him to the job. Is cash the only issue for him or does he actually like the nature of the job?
If the latter, ask yourself where you want to draw the line. Is it okay if he was surrounded by prostitutes but no physical actions were taken?
Also, what are the consequences if you had said 'no'. Is he willing to sacrifice such a job opportunity if it means it'll hurt you? or will he explode?
Communication and understanding between yourselves is much more important than opinions from strangers, like myself.
Best wishes for you two!
2007-10-26 09:23:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask him what he is really thinking of you for? You must know first what his motives? To be trapped you and he would junked you later after having escorts or doing businesses to the clients so that your married to him will be justified for devorcing you? I heard that this kind of job is kind of flesh prostitution?
If he is really sincere to you and allowed you to take part time job why he can not let you another job with decency?
However, if he is serious enough and you see his intention to you is to work either way even in the company of temptations with the clients, grab the opportunity. As long as your husband would give you the 100 % approval and not junked you once he discovered a lot of things about you with other clients.
For me, I will grab the opportunity and enjoy at the same time with my clients. Who knows, you will enjoy too while having extra income while your husband is working faraway from you. Life with out him is lonely and sometimes you looks for your biological needs that you can hardly keep away from the temptations from other guys. If your husband understands your needs sexually while he is far from you that's why he approved this kind of job for you, then there is no good reason for you to refuse. WHo knows, You will enjoy too but you'll need to be cautious and be medically protected anyway.
Go for the job and good luck..
2007-10-26 22:38:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmm....very intriguing. As his girlfriend, I understand your hesitations. But I think it's important to note that just because someone is an escort doesn't make them a total skank. They provide their service for a price. And it's not like just ANYONE can be an escort. You probably have to be able to put up with a lot of BS. I'm sure a lot of them don't love their jobs. I'm sure they would be willing to "get frisky" with your boyfriend were he willing to pay for it. Look at it like any other job. Just because you are friends with a car dealer doesn't mean he's gonna be giving you a car. Just because you are tight with the tax man doesn't mean he's gonna skip your audit.
If you foresee yourself having a problem with this in the future (ie - being jealous and accusatory) then be honest with him about it now.
PS - I'm not surprised at all that an escort driver would make that kind of money. It's a pretty booming business. Always has been, always will be.
2007-10-26 09:18:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you honestly feel about it. It sure is pretty good cash but at times involved more than just driving. At times it is necessary to step in and help the woman out and/or beat up or heavy the John. Kinda like a mercenary job. Trust is obviously very important and an open mind when mates take on these types of responsibilities. But the cash is at times hard to resist and if people get to involved they can often move up to escorting other items, like drugs and laundered money for the people that are employing them. Best of luck to each of you and please do be honest with your fiance and tell him how you feel about this possible job opening.
2007-10-26 09:20:08 · answer #5 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him try it out, save up a couple thousand and then have him get a different job. Besides, these escorts probably have their FILL by the time they see your hubby again. And they are sluts and your hubby obviously loves you enough to ask your permission so I don't think you'd have to worry. Only thing is that if the escort is in trouble he may have to act like a body guard of some sort. I'd find out the details of what the job entails.
2007-10-26 09:16:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
First of all thank him for his service to our country. I really appreciate your sacrifice. I would definitely investigate this job offer, I would hate to see him get mixed up in something that was illegal Many times if the pay and benefits sound to good to be true, there's a reason. With his resume I'm sure he would be an asset to many companies. Best wishes!
2007-10-26 09:19:20 · answer #7 · answered by Gabfest 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's alot of money for driving. I would want to make sure the money part was correct, and know a little more about the hours he'd be working too. Sounds like it would usually be at night. See if he can find out more about it before you decide.
2007-10-26 09:14:02 · answer #8 · answered by makeloans2 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When you are in the service, away from home, etc. you get a lot of crazy ideas that will never pan out when you get back to "real life". Either ignor it or remain non-comittal if you can. When he gets home he may find out that isn't what he wants to do. No use in getting excited about it till he gets home. I wanted my brother to stand up for me as a "power of attorneyh" and get married to my now present wife. Not a good idea. I went home and got married in person.
2007-10-26 12:35:26 · answer #9 · answered by sweetpicker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hubby could not afford them on his wages even if it is a couple of grandish a week. Yes he could make that much as an escort driver, but then they are asking his weekly wage for an hour or two. They would never put out for him.
2007-10-26 09:17:59 · answer #10 · answered by bocasbeachbum 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I could just imagine being at a cocktail party with you and your husband.
"So, what do you do for a living?"
"Well, I was in Iraq, now I'm a driver for escorts around town."
"Sounds very, uh, interesting."
"yeah, see this scar? I had it during a 'discussion' with a deadbeat John last night"
LOL
2007-10-26 11:05:31 · answer #11 · answered by Zaferus 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋