i'n having a maijor issue with my boyfriend, i left my phone at home yesturday, well i know that he goes through my phone which i have no problem with, but someone is playing a sick joke on me and sent me a picture of my ex husband and ben
found it and thought that i keep it one there because i'm not over him. I had NO idea it was on my phone!!! i told him why would i keep a picture of him on there when i know that you look through my phone everyday", and he said it's just an excuse, that i new it was there. i would never lie to him and i didn't know it was there, he's so mad at me, how do i talk to him and make him believe me. I love this man more than i have ever loved anyone!! the thought of losing him kills me
2007-10-26 07:58:47 · 33 answers · asked by yamahaviper_00 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well just be a good little gf and make sure you continue to tell him every person you talk to, where you go every second, what you are thinking... and then he'll probably still find something to be mad at you for.
Do you think that's how a good relationship is supposed to be??? Him looking through your phone is okay with you? First off if he's such a great person he wouldn't do that and second he would believe you when you told him you didn't know.
2007-10-26 08:03:51 · answer #1 · answered by girlnextdoor409 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just the fact that he looks through your phone daily should tell you that there are other problems here that are not being addressed...Why doesn't he trust you..Maybe someone else sees this issue and sent the picture as a sick joke to your over controlling mate just to let him know that he is being an ***-hole anyway...Sure you may love him but that may not ever be enough
2007-10-26 08:13:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i'm sorry to hear that your going through something like this. If you say that someone sent you the picture then the message will reflect the number as well as the time that you received the picture. Problem solved, you can explain that someone sent it to you and who that someone is. I do have to say that I don't understand why he goes through your phone everyday? Does he not trust you? I think that that's an unhealthy habit...you should tell him he either has to trust you or choose not to be with you. You shouldn't have to have him going through your phone on a daily basis.
2007-10-26 08:05:37 · answer #3 · answered by Vee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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All pictures have the e-mail address, date, and time of those who sent it so if you have nothing to hide then show him that info then write that information down to try and track who did it. All men know that women constantly talk more and take pictures on their cells then review them everyday so if you're true, it will prove on that day off.
Just to help you, your first response of "why keep his picture if you look through my phone everyday" wasn't a good one because he can think you probably forgot to delete it after saving it somewhere else. You allow him to check it so he is welcome to think like he is. A better response would be "Obviously he's jealous so I should have changed my e-mail address when we broke up"
He loves you so change it and show him. I know, I see others complaining of the trust issue but it's your phone and YES, some men are insecure about that stuff BUT it's no different than a burnt woman. You love him so just do the above to reassure him and it should all be gone. Best:)
2007-10-26 10:29:10 · answer #4 · answered by Octoro 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With love comes trust. Your boyfriend apparently doesn't trust you enough to believe you about the picture. Why on earth is he checking your phone every day? It's your phone today, what else will he try to control tomorrow? I'm not saying that you should give him any reason not to trust you but actually it doesn't look like you have to. Do yourself a favor and find someone who you don't have to worry about things like this with. He probably doesn't even want you to have male friends. Think about your future, do you want to spend it with someone this controlling? I wish you the best.
2007-10-26 08:17:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, Look through your phone to see if there's any way that you can prove it came from someone else. Then (or) tell him he should trust you, and have him witness you deleting the pic. Ask him if there's anything you can do to prove it wasnt you, or to make him feel better. If he really cares, he should let it go within a week or two. If not, than he wasnt putting as much into the relationship as you were.
2007-10-26 08:07:21 · answer #6 · answered by Lestat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's like this, there is nothing to hide and he has really no right going through your phone period, so with him doing that, he is insecure about something. just explain to him that someone sent it to you and show him the date it was sent. you had to know it was on your phone because you are notified of new messages everytime you get one,you could have just over-looked it. just tell him that if that is who you wanted to be with then why are you here with him, feel me? sometimes men play these games to have a reason to go and do what they want to do, and you also have to look at it as is this his way of trying to let you know he is seeing someon else. baby don't let loosing him kill who you are, there are plenty of people out there and he is not the only one, i am married as well and my husband don't go through my phone and i don't go through his and we have a beautiful relationship, if someone calls him so what, i just don't tolerate the going out of the room to talk business. i give him respect and he gives me respect, even though we share a plan don't give either one of us the right to go and snoop, that is how things get started and it is your fault that you allowed him to start doing so. so i guess now is the time to stop it. you can't make a person believe you, if he don't then to hell with it life goes on, if he is that insecure of your EX-HUSBAND then how is going to act if he see you talking to another male person. think about that baby
2007-10-26 08:09:21 · answer #7 · answered by really loved 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Things like this make me laugh. Husbands/wives/girl and boyfriends all scrolling through one another's phones to see what's what because no one trusts anyone. Ever think there may be a reason as to why?
For 24 years my wife has never gone through my wallet or trouser pockets nor have I gone into her purse. Ever. Why? because there's nothing there either one of us needs and we have implicit faith in one another.
Don't YOU wish you could have a relationship/marriage that lasts 24 years? By the looks of things you'll be lucky if it lasts until the end of this week.
2007-10-26 08:04:19 · answer #8 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well it seems like a touchy subject, I guess look at the situation from both sides, and tell him that you will delete it. actually show him you are deleting it, and calmly tell him you are very sorry that sort of thing had to happen. I guess for the most part relax, because you have too work together to get through this be up front and honest and just let him know! try to keep your calm in even if he seems angry.
I hope this Helps!
Good luck too you!
2007-10-26 08:05:59 · answer #9 · answered by Paul M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you allowing this to even happen? It is of no concern of his what is or isn't on YOUR phone. Instead of letting him play these control games with you, just tell him to leave your personal life alone. Don't be so desperate! Desperation is a bad adviser when it comes to relationships. Everyone deserves respect - and if you're not getting it from him, look elsewhere. It's not much of a loss.
2007-10-26 08:23:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋