My husband of 10 years left without me to go to a reunion. I asked him to stop at a mall to pick something up on the way out of town. He said there was no time. It was a 40 minute delay..I asked him to stop there on our way out of town he said no..I had to pick up the item befor 5pm or loose it so I went to get it and when I returned home, he was gone. When I called him he said that I could not control him so quit trying.
2007-10-26 08:28:28 · 18 answers · asked by nodak n 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We were going to the reunion together. the open house was in the evening and we had time to go to the mall. I received a call from a store clerk telling me she found what I was looking for and would hold it until 5pm
2007-10-26 09:25:50 · update #1
Maybe it is just me , but i don't understand how you asking him to pick something up for you is trying to control someone? I mean i may not know all of the details were you demanding? Rude? I just don't get it. You ended up picking up the item anyways so why was he like this?
2007-10-26 08:37:22 · answer #1 · answered by ~NIKKI~ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
We would have to know more then this to be able to say much. This didn't sound controlling to me.Most reunions don't have a set time that you have to be there. Taking the time to stop and pick something up should have been no big deal. There was just something you needed to get and he refused to help you. Was he hoping to meet someone there and was afraid they would be gone before he arrived?He sounds like he has a problem to me but we don't know what else is going on.
2007-10-26 08:42:04 · answer #2 · answered by Ava 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, no offense, however that line: "so that he can do what i would like him to"... It seems like you're trying to manage him. Regarding the work crisis, persons have bad days...Unhealthy matters happen. The pleasant thing so that you can do is to be touchy about his emotions. In case you had a job and some thing bad happened and also you came home upset, would you want your husband to inform you to recover from it? Individuals get annoyed after they suppose like they've a gigantic hassle and others overlook it as petty. And you have to understand that if he has to do your chores and it takes up his time then he has reasonably of a proper to *****. And he wishes to appreciate that you simply have got to go out with you buddies from time to time. How you came to the conclusion that your husband doesn't want you to have acquaintances seems a bit exaggerated. You're making him out to be a cynical character. You both have to study tips on how to see each and every others' perspectives due to the fact right now you are handiest focusing in your possess...And that is selfish.
2016-08-05 22:35:48 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like you are more demanding than controlling. You said yourself that he was going to a reunion, so you knew he was busy so you should have went out and picked up the item yourself in the first place. It was YOUR item wasn't it?
2007-10-26 08:33:47 · answer #4 · answered by ~Sara~ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It doesn’t sound like you’re controlling to me… it sound like your husband is being an *ss… when I travel with my family… if my wife needs to stop for something… we stop. Not a big deal… even if it’s for a reunion. I had lot of friends in my past… but that is my past… my wife and family are the here and now… they are priority. If they weren’t important to me… what was the reason for getting married?
2007-10-26 08:48:42 · answer #5 · answered by kib_edward 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are confusing issues. You DID need the item picked up, but he also DID need to be somewhere and couldn't pick it up.
So you had to pick it up yourself. That's fair.
However, if you are planning his schedule all of the time, then you need to back off. My now ex-wife always attempted to control my every move and it was a total suckfest.
If you're not careful, you will stack many bricks of resentment into a wall between you and he.
2007-10-26 08:36:02 · answer #6 · answered by Avatar 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say you were controlling. Seems to me to be a perfectly legitimate request.
So...whose he in such a rush to see at the reunion? Hmmmmmm? Ever give that some thought because my money says this is the start of a bigger problem down the pike.
You watch. This won't be the last time he tosses the 'controlling' remark in your face.
2007-10-26 08:36:01 · answer #7 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
He was going to a "REUNION", so yes, you sound very controlling. You were probably mad because he didnt take you to the reunion. What was the point to try to ruin his reunion?
2007-10-26 09:07:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the reunion had him in a wierd state of mind. He was thinking about his old days and you just pushed a button.
I would forget it unless he continues on with the attitude.
2007-10-26 08:33:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
there are a few questions came to my mind after reading your comment/question. First of all it sound to me you waited almost the last minutes to ask your husband to pick up something for you. secondly, why could you pick it? And how would you react when he knows that you're going to your reuion and he waited the last few mintues to ask you to pick up something for him? truthfully, its sound like you're mad at him because he didn't take you to the reunion.
2007-10-26 08:44:12 · answer #10 · answered by Thomas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋