he cheated 2yrs.ago should I ask how she looks?

Answer 1

2 years ago? Let it go already! You either 'forgave' him and are still together, or didn't and spilt up. Either way, nothing can be done about it now.

Answer 2

It sounds like the affair is still eating at you. The questions behind your question is really "why did he cheat?" You just can't seem to figure it out, so you want to know if she was prettier. If she's not as good looking as you, you want to know if he really liked her personality. I can imagine how you feel. I was cheated on by a guy I was planning to marry, and had these same thoughts. Have you all had counseling? It may be easier to get answers to your questions when a third party is involved, because they know how to draw out the truth. If he is changed, don't worry about the why's. Ask God to restore your marraige, and he will do it and give you all the security you need. Best wishes.

Answer 3

The fact that you're asking this 2 years after the fact suggests you're still thinking about this and still feel hurt.

Asking how she looks will not make you feel any better and won't resolve how you're feeling. If you think she's better looking than you, you'll be upset. If she's not as good looking as you, you'll be upset (thinking "how could he have cheated on me with an ugly? What did she have that I don't?")

I say go for some kind of therapy and get over this before it takes over your life!

Answer 4

No, for what?

If she's prettier you'll be ticked & if she's ugly you'll be ticked...it's a lose lose here. Somethings are better left unknown. He cheated--he was the one in the relationship...your relationship has nothing to do w/ her anymore, correct? Leave the past..in the past! Forgive & forget! Just be happy you two have made it through this, thats what really matters. :)

Answer 5

Well the way I look at it she either looks better than you or worse than you (hopefully she doesn't look just like you ... that would be weird), either way it doesn't excuse what he did. Is sleeping with an ugly girl going to make you less mad or more mad? You are going to get the "he broke my heart for that!" effect. And if he says she was prettier than you you are going to have all of these raging feeling of inadequacy... is it Worth it? Feel confident and blessed and if you are going to forgive him, forgive him, don't keep bringring it up, it's going to hurt the both of you.... just don't FORGET what he did.

Answer 6

Before you ask him that, you need to find out if there is even the "right answer" to that question. Honestly you know either way he answers it, he is in trouble, for lying or for whatever.
Just don't ask, cause once you know, you will probably wish you didn't, and then feel worse.

Just a lil F.Y.I.....from what I have personally seen, most of the time, she is not as good looking as the girlfriend/ wife.

Answer 7

NO! NO! NO!....Why would you want to torture yourself like that?? What do you think you will gain by knowing how this woman looks?? All this will do is nag at you. I guessing that you and your mate has worked it out and are hopefully stronger than you were two-years ago. If you have truly forgiven him then you need to also forget about this incident as well and just move on. I hope this helped.



Stay Strong.
Stay Positive.

Answer 8

No, why bother with it. If you are trying to work on the relationship, then who cares what she looks like. It will only bring up more questions and stress. Just leave it alone and good luck.

Answer 9

if he cheated on you two years ago why would you want to know how she look sometimes it is not the looks that attracts one person to another it is sometimes personality.

Answer 10

What do care what she looks like? He's with you. He loves you. She was just a mistake that he's regretted all this time. You don't want to know what you don't absolutely NEED to know.