I am not looking to be judged I am looking for advice. I recently left my husband because he was physically and emotionally abusive. On his day to have our son he took him and left and will not allow me to see him, which is apparently legal seeing as how we are still married. I have not seen my son in over a month. I am only seventeen and do not have money for a lawyer. I have spoken to the police and have let them know that I am concerned for my son because my husband has abusive tendancies and they have not been helpful. I have contacted womans battered shelters and other help lines no one calls me back. Please Help Me!!!
2007-10-26 09:07:45 · 20 answers · asked by Lil' Mamma 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hi this is lil momma`s husband,
Just to set it straight. I`m not abusive I have police reports were she has hit me several times. She`s cheated on me several times and I have plenty of profe I just wish she could just tell me she didn`t want to be with me. But of course I`m the bad guy. That`s the stuff she don`t tell you like she`s the one that walked out. And everytime She has not once tried to take konner. She doesn`t have a job a vehicle. I have a job I work for the county. I have a stable home, And everything my son need`s but of course his mother. I`m just saying I wish she could stop acting like a child and be a mother and do whats right for her son. Pretty much stop the high school drama and grow up. But I can`t change that. Like I said I`ve tried many times. But I guess It just wasn`t meant to be or we are to young. I`m 19 My whole world is now revoled around our son. And yes I do have a petition drawn up and divorce papers. But she has refused to sign the divorce papers. But I`ve gone against everything and tried to let her be with him. She was with him last sunday. We had plans to go trick or treating. I`m not a bad father I`m not a bad husband. I have not and will not hit a female I was raised you even thought about it you get hit.
Thankyou,
Casey and Konner
2007-10-26 21:15:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
How could he steal him? As the other parent, he is just as entitled to custody as you are.
I bet it was fun sleeping with him before you got knocked up, wasn't it? You sound just like my niece.... it's not MY fault.... I'm only 17... yes it is!
A woman's shelter, will take you in if you are leaving an abusive stuation. Not to provide you a free divorce atorney. Why didn't you call the police when he abused you? (Abusive tendencies? He either does or doesn't). If you really want out of this, you'll go to legal aid/community legal services.... every community has one. No, the police won't help you until you have a court order they can enforce.
Nobody can help you - you have to help yourself. You have to take responsibility for yourself and your future. This is your mess and you need to fix it. You're 17 married and have a kid.... welcome to the real world.
If you're only 17 how are you going to support your son? How old is your husband? Do either of you work?
Edit - i received a very polite, mature, email through YA purportedly from the husband defending himself. He asserts that he has divorce paperwork but she chose not to sign it. He also asserts that she saw the child last week and is taking him trick or treating.
In all fairness, Just thought I'd show that there are two sides (sometimes even more) to every story! I hope these two can get past this difficult time and communicate with each other so they can get this resolved. It seems they both love their child and that is what is important.
2007-10-26 09:39:31 · answer #2 · answered by Asked and Answered 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lil Momma most places have lawyers available for a half hour free constellation. Phone the help line in your area and see if there is such a service in your area. If the shelters don't return your calls then go directly to see them. Although they are suppose to be somewhat anonymous in location most people are aware of where the shelters are. Best of luck.
2007-10-26 09:13:33 · answer #3 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What? Lots of information required here. Does he work? Do You? How much of his money goes to raise YOUR child? How much of the child is HIS too? Did you even ask what he used it for? Do you run all the money in the house and ,make him beg for every dollar, after he gives you his paycheck? Do you have any idea what his motivation was? Do you care? Based on the short info here, I think you have too much cash laying around if $400.00 is that big a deal, that you should have opened a savings account, that you are pretty selfish about the allocation of household funds, that once you put it in the piggy bank it is now off limits to anything unless he says mommy may I,that you are so overreacting and lastly that he should take that birthday/anniversary present back get the money and shove it back in your face before he leaves.
2016-04-10 07:50:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me see if I have the facts. You are 17, married, and have a son. Husband left with son, it is his legal right, you call police and they will do nothing. First,The police will not get involved in this becuase there are no signs of abuse (husband not there). Second, you had better find the moeny for a lawter or get one to do it Pro Bono, I'll bet he is getting one. Third, why did you get married at this age. This whole things sounds like it is made up to me.
2007-10-26 09:44:55 · answer #5 · answered by bootsontheroad 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
First my heart goes out to you, second Legal Aid is what you need, call the DES office in your town and they can direct you to how you need to talk to, and you can also go and get him, from where he is, because you are still married, or you go to the nearest judge, and get an order of protection against your husband for you and the child, the judge will make him return that child or go to jail. Email me anytime been there done that, no judgements....
2007-10-26 09:18:51 · answer #6 · answered by eeyore6838 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he took your child why didnt you go to court and file a pention againt your husband. He took the child and left and you havent seen him do you know where he lives with the child. You have reported this to the police and everyone you could think of try going to the court and explaining what happen maybe they can help you. My heart goes out to you as well as your child and husband.
Best of luck
2007-10-26 09:13:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Now is the time to call upon your parents and his parents, your parents can get you to get your son back, and his parents can check up on your son and see how he is doing.
Keep calling the police and call your ex, God forbid, you do not want him to take your son to another state!!!!!
Call the police now, call your parents now, or go over there with a cell phone and get your son back and while you are going over there call 911 and they will have someone out there right away!!!!!!!
Better yet, call 911, give them the address of your ex, and then have someone take you over there, and get your son back!!!
You have waited to long for your son!!!!
2007-10-26 09:14:31 · answer #8 · answered by carriegreen13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he hasn't already did this go to the court house and file for temporary custody and legal separation doesn't cost much at least he will be summoned to appear on the matter and if he dosen't he will be in default and butt will be put in a ringer and you may get your son...
2007-10-26 09:23:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
contact legal aid and tell them what happened. If there is some sort of custody agreement between you too and visitation orders then he would be in violation of them. After going to legal aid go to social service or child welfaree. Tell them of the abuse you suffered through him and that your concerned about the welfar of your son. they should be able to help you especially due to your age.
2007-10-26 09:46:51 · answer #10 · answered by castira 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋