Is it OK to get a divorce if your wife got fat or refuses to have sex with you?

Question

I think it is. i didn't agree to marry a fatty or to hardly ever have sex. She whines if I whack one off in the shower too, I mean come on.

MIA: It's going to take something special to stop you getting the 10 points haha

Answer 1

Push her out the back door and let her roll down the hill.
Maybe she will hit a tree like Sonny Bono!

Answer 2

Hi,

Divorce is there for couples to come out of a marriage if they are unhappy and just can't work it out.

All your reasons here are really things that CAN be sorted out if you are willing to make the effort and she is as well.

Her weight seems to be the main issue here but maybe if you act more supportive, healthy eating, going to gym or a brisk walk together ect, the weight will drop off and she will get the motivation to keep going and this will boast your sex life.

Her self-esteem is probably at an all time low especially if you calling her 'fatty' to her face and I guess seeing you masturbate in shower upset her a lot too as she probably knows you distancing from her and this is causing her distress.

Sex to a woman or a man with a low self esteem is the last thing they want, especially if they feel put down and not loved and appreciated by their partners.

Maybe just play the more supportive role of a husband and see what happens, at the very least you can then say you tried.

All the best!

Lx

Answer 3

What an arrogant man you seem to be! I wonder if you would be happy if for some reason your wife had posted a question to us considering divorcing you?

You must have some idea when your wife began to gain weight, so maybe if you stretch your brain, you might remember a relevant event around that time!

I agree with one of the answers, if your wife is not wanting to get into bed with you, it is probably because she can sense your displeasure!!!

You are everything that is wrong with some men, you think that the world revolves around you and what dangles between your legs - WELL I'VE GOT NEWS FOR YOU IT DOESN'T!!!

Are you one of those men who once they are married, think "I've wooed, I've won, I'm done!"? In other words, I've got a wife, now I don't have to bother with the whole romance, caring, etc.!

I have news for you sunshine, women respond best to romance all through their lives (except maybe for 'ladettes' and I presume that you didn't marry one of them because I think they would intimidate you too much!)!

When was the last time that you even bothered trying to spend a romantic evening cuddled up on the sofa, with the lights down, maybe a bottle of wine and soft music? WITHOUT EXPECTING HER TO TAKE PART IN AN OLYMPIC MARATHON IN THE BEDROOM AFTERWARDS? Sometimes women just want to be cuddled with NO strings attached, to be told that they are beautiful and a special person! Men who get their heads around this fact, tend to be the happiest around, because evenings like this are seeds sown that bear fruit 100% - if you understand my meaning! Which I'm not sure you will!!!

Let's talk about lovemaking instead of sex for a moment...

Lovemaking is like having a banquet of ALL your favourite foods at one sitting! It feeds ALL the senses, touch, sight, smell, hearing and taste! It feeds the soul and spirit, because it is shared with someone who actually loves you and wants to give as much to you as you give to them!

Sex is like having a piece of toast, or an egg because you are hungry - it scratches your itch!

STOP BEING SELFISH MAN AND SET YOUR MIND TO WOOING ALL OVER AGAIN THE GIRL THAT YOU THOUGHT WAS THE MOST WONDERFUL WOMAN IN THE WORLD - OTHERWISE YOU WOULDN'T HAVE MARRIED HER WOULD YOU?

Or did you just do it because it seemed a good idea at the time, or you just wanted to have someone to warm your bed, cook your food, wash your manky pants and socks and not expect anything in return?

GROW UP AND BECOME A MAN AND PUT SOME WORK AND EFFORT INTO YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR WIFE INSTEAD OFDECORATING THE SHOWER, THAT IS SO PATHETIC!!!

Otherwise take the easy way out, ditch her - and it may well be the best present you could have given her! Why??? Because she will be free to find someone who truly loves her and appreciates her for who she is, not for shallow, wordly reasons!

Divorce is easy WORKING AT A MARRIAGE ISN'T!!!

Answer 4

why don't you talk to her and try not being as rude and horrible as you have here? maybe there is a reason she has put on weight like she is depressed or not happy in the marriage herself and there is no woman that walks this earth that would refuse to have sex with her partner if the sex was good, so maybe you need to look more at YOURSELF first because obviously you must have never cared for this woman much if you say things like that, you sound like a selfish person and are probably a selfish lover with a very small penis i feel sorry for the poor woman

Answer 5

i don't understand a unmarried individual who has a divorce tale like this. the closest to it is my mum became into abused for 9 years, ultimately controlled to head away my step dad and she or he took in straightforward terms the bare necessities. She did not also have a mattress for a 12 months. She had 5 infants at that factor, the eldest had already moved out and she or he receives jack excited by baby help. and that i've got a chum who after 3 years of marriage, had his spouse cheat on him.. yet he became into doing like sensible too her so it became into "honest". He have been given the homestead (which nevertheless has the internal maximum loan) with each thing in it. i understand extra people who've had a 'helpful' marriage than people who've had a 'failed' marriage. i think of your friends have been stupid to head into right into a marriage, while that they had no thought approximately what that's. once you mentioned "they replaced", what the hec did you and that they assume? no one individual or relationship continues to be precisely the comparable for his or her entire life. substitute is organic and inevitable. it is not each and all the ladies people's fault the two. i'm particular their husband performed their area in the breakdown of the marriage. a marriage isn't meant to end in divorce. If it does each and each individual is the two in charge for it. some large reward of marriage for a guy (and a woman) is to spend something of their life with the guy they love. They get to advance and alter with one yet another. They study new issues accepted. They conflict via stressful circumstances in the years which brings them out as extra proper extra helpful people. Marriage builds character. i've got discovered extra staying power and compassion in the two years i've got been with my fiance then what I truly have in my entire life. a robust marriage is sufficient and overflowing with reward and joyfulness and that's a captivating factor. How can some thing like that not be stable?

Answer 6

Wow! So as usual another person gets married and instead of honoring what you said at the alter you're ready to just give up? Work on your problems! That's what a marriage is! Help her loose weight and don't put her down! She's knows she has gained and is not having sex with you because she is ashamed! Can't you see that? Love your wife like you promised to do!!

Answer 7

Ummm.. why has your wife stuck around so long? God knows, she surely doesn't love you. Get a divorce, and then she's free to find someone so much more enlightened than you obviously are. I don't know what you will do though... not many women want a partner with your lovely attitudes.

Answer 8

It sounds like you wife has gotten tired of you or your marriage. She is unhappy............that is why she eats. You should try to communicate with you wife. She does have a problem that you are not aware of. Communication is the key to getting this relationship back on track. Let her know how you feel and encourage her to open up in every way.

Answer 9

I would say you will be doing her a favour if you divorce her, who the hell do you think you are, some Adonis I suppose. You and everyone who agrees with you on this should take a step back and see how imperfect you all are.

Answer 10

i would get a nice bottle of wine and sit down and tell her how u feel in a grown up way something like this. OK porkier its like this join a gym or wirer your jaw up ur a bit on the large size do something about it or your out on your fat ***. and as for sex i only want a b j three times a week till u loose the flap,if that does not work chisel her out and use her as a dog kennel

Answer 11

Sure it's fine. At your wedding, your marriage vows were "for better or worse, till death do us part, unless you get fat or refuse to be my sex toy or I become a selfish asshole," right?? Yeah, then you're good! By the way you sound like a very charming person. Good luck with that.