Is My Wife An Alcoholic?

Question

My wife likes to drink when we go out 3 or 4 times a week, but she more often than not gets drunk.

The other night she drunk so much she was crawling around on the floor when we got home. When she went to work the next day I had to go pick her up because she had the shakes and felt dizzy.

I take care of her when it happens but it worries me that she always has to drink so much.

Answer 1

I don't know whether your wife is an alcoholic, but asking that question misses the point. The question is, does her drinking affect your life? If it does -- and it sounds like it does -- I highly recommend you find an Al-Anon meeting in your area. Al-Anon is a 12 step group for family and friends of alcoholics. It saved my life. I hope you find help. Good luck.

Answer 2

it sounds to me like she is an alcoholic and here are some signs:

Signs Of Alcoholism

1) The person begins to miss work or is less successful at work.

2) The person seems angry or sad a lot.

3) The person hits or physically abuses members of the family.

4) The person emotionally abuses members of the family.

5) The person has blackouts (cannot remember what he or she did while drunk).

6) The person has hangovers (feels really sick the day after drinking).



And these are The Seven Key Signs of Alcohol Dependence :

1) The person develops a tolerance for alcohol. This means that it takes more and more alcohol to feel the same level of intoxication.

2) The person has withdrawal symptoms. This means that they feel sick when there is no alcohol in their body. These symptoms include nausea, sweating, shakiness, and anxiety.

3) The person often drinks more than he does or she had originally intended to drink.

4) The person attempts to cut down or to stop drinking but all attempts on their own are failures and they just continue to drink more and more.

5) The person spends a lot of time and effort making sure he or she can get alcohol.

6) The person gives up opportunities for social, recreational, and professional activities because of their drinking.

7) The person continues to drink despite having physical and psychological problems because of the drinking.

I hope that u found this information helpful and please remember that the only way she can get help is if she wants to do it herself.

Answer 3

If that is the only way that she can have fun then she might have become dependant on alcohol.

Also, her going to work and having to leave because of drinking is the sign of a problem. Having the shakes and feeling dizzy would mean that she was very hung over.

Why don't you try not going to the bar for a while. Putting her in that situation is what is enabling her to drink. Try doing something different.

If she insists on going to the bar she certainlly has a dependance problem. If she is fine doing other things, then I would think that the problem is that you go to bars far too often. Some people can go into a bar and have one drink. Others go and can't stop drinking.

Depending on how long you have had this routine might also dictate how dependant she might be.

She has to be the one to see the problem. You can help though by doing other things aside the bar and if she doesn't want to do those things check out al-anon
http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/english.html

Answer 4

If she's drinking that often in a week, I'd definitely think she has alcoholic issues. You should drink because you enjoy the tastes, not to get drunk...that's what I've been told in the past. Does she have alot of stress in her life, problems that she hasn't confronted yet?
I would sit down and talk to her about it. Tell her how it pains you to see her like this and ask her why she's doing it to herself. Alcohol can be great when it's used for having a good time and hanging out with friends. But when it turns into a need or ritual then it has dangerous consequences.
My hubby was depressed and drank alot. He now realizes how much it changed him and decided to make a difference. He now only does when we're being socialable. If your wife keeps this up, she will with no doubt damage her liver. Talk to her and tell her your concerns and worries. If she loves you, she'll be willing to listen.

Answer 5

If she is drinking to get drunk 3-4 times out of the week then I think she is beginning to have a problem. I have alot of experience with alcoholic's and I think you should really talk to her about it now before it gets too far. If drinking is starting to interfere with her normal work life then she may be starting to recognize that there is a problem also. Start going places when you go out that doesn't serve alcohol to help her out. Good Luck!

Answer 6

Yes. Yes. Yes she is.

I am SO sorry you are going through this! I know first hand how hard it is.

Your wife needs medical attention and help for her addiction. She is slowly killing herself. She cannot function in her daily life.

You also need help in dealing with it. I know you "take care" of her, but there is a very fine line between taking care of someone and enabling their behavior. I encourage you to go to Al Anon or to see a counselor/doctor immediately.

The sad reality is that she may not see anything wrong with her behavior. An alcoholic (or any addict) must be ready to get and accept help. You cannot make her do it. What you can do is tell her of your concern and that you do not want to see her die because of it. Urge her to go get help.

Good luck and God bless

Answer 7

Yes it sounds like to me that she is an Alcoholic. Help her get into some counseling or see if there are things around the house that are making her stressed out that make her want to drink.. Good Luck!

Answer 8

Does she feel unable to control her drinking? Does it negatively affect her work more than the one time? Does she think shes an alcoholic? All these are questions that, if there is a "yes" answer to them, point to her being an alcoholic.

Answer 9

Yes. It will get worse without serious help. Even if you are in a social setting - drinking to excess every time is a sign of alcoholism. It usually goes hand-in-hand with depression.

Answer 10

She as lost control ,and needs to regain it! But she will need help from you also , tell her that this is not a healthy way of living and it's also degrading for her especially when she needs to crawl around. Take a picture of her and show her when she is sober, maybe she will realize what she is becoming! good luck !