Me & my live in boyfriend have been dating for about 8 months. We moved in together shortly after dating. He is a great guy. I have 2 boys, 4 and 1 yrs old. So, we don't have alot of alone time. It just seems like we've gotten into such a routine of going to work, picking up the kids, coming home, eating, then going to sleep. Same stuff, different days. Most weekends, we just hang out at home and do pretty much nothing. In the beginning, we had so much fun together, even if it was just watching a movie. I guess my question is, what can I do to get out of the everyday routine of life. I feel like we've been married for years. If I'm already "bored" now, I'm afraid of what the future holds. I know every relationship looses it's "newness" , but it's still hard. Any advice? Thanks.
2007-10-26 07:43:33 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Advice one...be glad you have someone to share your life with and that will take on those two boys like he does.
Advice two...plan a vacation for just the two of you for the weekend. Family members friends have them share the overnight stays with the boys so you two can get away.
Advice Three...Make one night out you and your boyfriends night. Get a permanent onces a week baby sitter. (There are plenty of high school girls out there achin to make some money) and take that night out go to dinner, go dancing sit under the stars and cuddle and talk. You have to make it different. Dont complain to much you might not have that one day and miss it.
2007-10-26 07:56:29 · answer #1 · answered by youcandoit 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yeah this happens alright. Is there ANY possible way you can get a babysitter on a night that works for yall even if its just on the weekend? Yall need some alone time too having the kids 24/7 can be stressful. Put the kids to sleep and have a movie night and add some drinks in the system that is always fun. Whatever you do ther has to be some efford from both, so you should talk to him about too he may just feel the same way. Good Luck Hon!
CurlySue
2007-10-26 07:57:37 · answer #2 · answered by CurlySue 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Never stop dating! You need to go out together on the weekends and such. Try to make plans together during the week sometimes too. Break the old habits don't just hang out and watch TV etc... Try new things together. Can ya'll take up a new hobby or sport?
2007-10-26 07:57:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It happens to everyone in long relationships.. you have to suggest other things to do.. no time with kids around? well when they go to sleep have a very hot sexy night especially on weekends, have the kids play all day that way they will be tired for the night.. and then show him a good time. :) make it fun and exciting again.. sneaking and freaking as they say. lol or just plan to watch television under a nice warm blanket. Last but not least get a babysitter to watch the kids and go out on the town!!
2007-10-26 07:54:23 · answer #4 · answered by hershey 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
All relationships loose that newness but the *two* of you have to work together to get out of that "rut". Does he have kids also? Why don't you set up that every other weekend you have a sitter (or a family memeber) to watch/KEEP the kids overnight) and have a date night, could be dinner or/and a movie something for just you two to re-group and remember why you're going through this journey called life together. Take turns picking places...change it up & be creative! It's funny how when we get bored we start questioning things...does there always have to be fireworks? If you think yes, I think you're more in love with the "thought" of love then actual love. Please know--Every couple goes through this--it's not always easy and anything worth having takes a great deal of work to keep. Stay positive & communicate with that hunk of yours! :)
2007-10-26 07:53:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The first thing to do is have a "date" night once a week or so. Decide if having one once a week is feasible, if not, then try for every other week. That one night is for you and your boyfriend only! Even if it just means going for dinner and a movie or dinner and walking the mall or maybe even a whole night with no kids. Whatever you can afford!
Make sure that you take time each day to hug and kiss on your man!
2007-10-26 07:50:19 · answer #6 · answered by Debi 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Can the grandparents help watch the kids... and have a date night. Go to the movies, go bowling. If there's a concert, even if you don't like who's singing, go and have fun together. Try new things and enjoy his company. And after the kids go to bed at night, cuddle up for a movie at home or play a game together. Savor the moments!
2007-10-26 08:08:18 · answer #7 · answered by jwalkr_83 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go back to doing the things that you used to do in the beginning. go out on dates, make plans with each other, put the kids to bed early one night so you can have some alone time. on the weekends go to the mall or to a movie, plan something to do as a family, if you have a babysitter make plans for the 2 of you to go out. you have to go back to the things you were doing in the begining. make him adore you like he did at first. make a date in the bedroom, talk rub him down and allow him to do the same, bring him flowers home one day. do some of the things that he used to do as a reminder to him. let me know what happens
2007-10-26 08:15:02 · answer #8 · answered by really loved 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gosh my husband and I have been married for over 2 years, no kids, and I love our routines. It makes me feel good - but then I enjoy being predictable.
Maybe you and your boyfriend should strike up a hobby together, or everybody go for a walk around the neighborhood each night, or give each other full body massages. There are simple things that can really help!
2007-10-26 08:05:59 · answer #9 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your spouse should pick 2 days out of the week and spend them together outside of the house go to a movie or out to eat it wouldn't even hurt to get a room and get your love thang on lol... Maybe you just need to spend some alone time together to get back what both of you are missing from each other.
2007-10-26 08:08:08 · answer #10 · answered by Spacious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋