Honest answers please
2007-10-26 07:31:50 · 80 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sure its Okay..
There is a BIG difference between looking in the window, and buying the dress.
2007-10-26 07:34:55 · answer #1 · answered by Cletus_Maximus 5 · 3⤊ 5⤋
I do not think it is okay I think that there are men out there that think they need it or think their wife is uptight because she does not want him to go there but I think once a man marries he should stop with the strippers especially if he is getting lap dances there as well. I think it does more hurt then good no matter how sound your marriage is. Same thing goes for a married woman that would be doing the same. It is wrong in my opinion and I think a lot of people do agree with me it has nothing to do with insecurities or self esteem.
2007-10-28 15:51:57 · answer #2 · answered by Danielle 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I personally would be uncomfortable if my husband wanted(wanted being the key word) to make frequent trips to a strip club. I am very thankful that he is not even remotely interested in going to strip clubs.
But some women don't mind at all..or at least they say they don't!!
I think its all a matter of personal preference
2007-10-26 07:38:57 · answer #3 · answered by bethany b 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
NO. If you are getting pleasure/excitement from somewhere other than in your own bedroom with your own wife it will ruin your sex life with your wife. The women at strip clubs have 'perfect' little bodies. Real women don't (But are still beautiful) If you put yourself in situations with these fake women, soon your own wifes naked body won't turn you on anymore which eventually is going to hurt your sex life and then your marriage. I don't think it's worth it.
2007-10-26 08:17:38 · answer #4 · answered by nic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how you want your wife to feel. No woman in love with her husband should have to be put through that.If you want her to know that she means more to you than that then No. If you love her show her your a man of morals and respect. Would you be ok with a wife acting out in the same way with a an attractive naked man? Renting sexual pleasure for any reason when it a causes a woman you care for to look at you differently is not worth the price it can often cost a man that loves and cares for her to.
2007-10-26 07:51:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
A married man shouldn't be ogling other women. That's disrespectful to the wife. Men who do that are getting pleasure from the wrong places (even if it is just "visual pleasure" it's still out of place). Whatever happened to the sanctity of marriage?
The only naked woman a married man should be around is his WIFE. There should be no other naked women in his lap, or anywhere near him.
2007-10-26 07:41:54 · answer #6 · answered by Meredith 1 · 4⤊ 1⤋
It's an alarming form of porn. It shows that he objectifies women, and I would be concerned not only for the jealousy/infidelity aspects, but also that he is probably seeing you that way, too.
If he is NOT seeing you that way and especially if he is kind of a mama's boy and/or he has changed in the way he regards sex with you either while you were pregnant or after the babies were born (or if you don't have kids yet, and he is weird about that at all), it could be a sign of Madonna/Whore complex. Look it up on google if you don't know what it means.
That, among many other problems, was something I had to deal with with my ex-husband. Once, he brought me a hideously tacky and smoke-smelling piece of lingerie he said he "bought" for me at a lingerie show at one of those kind of clubs, and got mad at me when I wasn't all appreciative and wanting to wear it for him. (Who knows where it had been and what kind of germs were on it???!!!!!!)
I feel sorry for the women who think this the only/best career choice they can make, but the whole thing is disgusting and wrong, and I would NEVER in a million years put up with it again. Guys that want or need this kind of stimulation have a serious problem with either the brain in their head, the other one in their pants, or both.
2007-10-26 07:40:13 · answer #7 · answered by arklatexrat 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No! A married man should love and respect his wife enough not to flirt with temptation and lust for other woman. No self respecting woman with put up with this; and no man of real morals and values would entertain such a thought. And that is about an honest an answer that I can give!
2007-10-26 07:39:35 · answer #8 · answered by ceegt 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Do you want your wife to frequent strip clubs of the male dancers, just so you know they do way more than you will ever get from the females. Think of how you would feel with a male all over your wife. Not to be harsh but be considerate of your wife's feelings, and respect her. If you have a daughter, would you want your daughter in that sort of enviroment?
2007-10-26 07:37:06 · answer #9 · answered by stefanibrown74 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
no i do not.what they are looking at is not reality which makes the wife feel insecure and frumpy in comparison to these half dressed babes with nothing pointing south no curlers in their hair or panda eyes in the morning.not only that but anything that makes some one in a marriage feel in adequate and reduces their self confidence is not a good thing.one off to see what it is like a lot of men do but the problem is when it becomes a habit and turns perceptions of what a relationship should be like in the real world.
2007-10-26 07:39:19 · answer #10 · answered by kennedy537@btinternet.com 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Not if they are so unsure about it that they have to ask Yahoo?
Only if its OK for their wives to frequent strip clubs for dances with attractive naked women/men?
I guess there are no fixed rules, its what works for each married couple.
2007-10-26 07:38:55 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋