One that has done nothing but talk negatively & downgrade you in every given opportunity. We're both married to Brothers, that aren't extremely close (their choice). I'm just curious on how others handle this situation?
2007-10-26 05:57:01 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sorry the title don't sound right...it should read- How do you handle a married-in family member you dispise. lol!
2007-10-26 05:57:48 · update #1
I feel the same way sometimes. Except that she is my hubbby's brother's GF (not married).
I think that she is jealous of me because I have the things that she wants (financial stability, my man was willing to say "I do", etc). That is the reason the she picks on me a little -- to make herself feel better by making me feel worse.
It bothers me but my hubby keeps telling me that it will backfire and she will look bad instead of me. That's true. So now I just try not to worry about it and go about my business.
2007-10-26 06:07:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem. my sister -in-law can be a little witchy as well. We are married to the only boys so it is a little hard. for the most part I just ignore her and put up with her at family functions, other then that we don't have anything to do with one another. luckily I have a couple of great sister-in -laws that I enjoy spending time with so it makes those family functions a little easier to bear.
2007-10-26 13:05:15 · answer #2 · answered by crazeemama 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
first of all if you have a family member that you don't get along with you need to keep your distance and don't socialize with them if it makes you uncomfortable. That''s how you keep your marriage together and remain happy don't let this person steal your joy. Talk is cheap some people get off by speaking bad about others because they have low self esteem them selves so they got pick on somebody to make them feel good.
best of luck
2007-10-26 16:47:54 · answer #3 · answered by mmurray001 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You and your spouse should set bounderies, and expectations, of specifically what is acceptable and what is not, and anytime the family members crosses that boundary, than you both jointly take the necessary action. The main thing is you guys want to appear united in your front.
2007-10-26 13:21:15 · answer #4 · answered by Mrs.G-unit 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds as though you may be talking about your sister-in-law? Your husband's brother's wife? If the brothers don't get along then I'd imagine that you really don't have to worry about it. Just don't be overly friendly.
2007-10-26 13:08:23 · answer #5 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just ignore them. If they can't get to you, they'll stop. Besides, they're just making themselves look like an azz. You have to believe that other members of your family are capable of forming their own opinions of you & aren't necessarily listening to her rants.
Take the high road, they'll wind up on your side in the end.
She's probably just insecure and feels like she has to compete with you to get the family's attention. IGNORE HER - as hard as it may be, just let it roll off your back.
2007-10-26 13:02:35 · answer #6 · answered by Roland'sMommy 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Avoid contact. If you HAVE to attend a function he's at....say 'hello' and avoid for the rest of the time.
Very simple.
2007-10-26 13:03:36 · answer #7 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Stear clear of her and avoid her as much as possible, only see her when you have to. That is all you can really do.
2007-10-26 13:04:46 · answer #8 · answered by Kasja 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You avoid them as much as you can.
2007-10-26 13:01:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋