Marriage & Divorce - 15 October 2007

i work 3 jobs - work from home full time - babysit 3 days a week for afterschool kids - also work friday, saturday & some sundays at a furniture store - keep a spotless house, dinner's made almost nightly, etc.....my husband has the nerve to ***** about me buying a new book or buying my daughter a red bull drink. While he hasn't changed anything about what he does daily, he still buys his $5 cigs and sodas, eats out nearly every day, buys rc cars that sit on a shelf, has a harley that sits in the garage but has a payment for. I can get him to see that everyone is giving up and sacrificing, except for him. this has gone on for a long time but it's getting worse - any suggestions on how to handle this situation and get him to see that he's being unfair and selfish?

2007-10-15 05:36:16 · 19 answers · asked by fosmom 3

my husband gets mad when i talk to my friends on the phone or even my family. He always complains if i go do anything with anyone besides him. Hes a truckdriver and he wants me to talk or text on the phone all the time when hes over the road. I dont wnt to sit on the phonelike that, but when i tell him that he says ,you dont care to talk on the phone with your mom or your friends. I dont even talk to my friends that much anymore since i been with him, is he controling?

2007-10-15 05:28:43 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband told me he didn't love me any more just 5 weeks after our 2nd daughter's birth. Now he left me. We live abroad and I'm planning to go home to stay with my family for some months. I sometimes think it would be better not to come back again, but I don't know if that's fair for the children. Do I have the right to try to be happy far away from him and not letting him see the children? Am I a bad mother?

2007-10-15 05:26:13 · 9 answers · asked by guille 1

My bf broke up with me after 4 years b/c he was suddenly unhappy and I took the break up badly. I also asked him back but he told me to not have hope, he wants to be single, and told me to find another man.

I haven't contacted him since and I just want to know if he might one day call back. In a way, I keep blaming myself that i drove him away when i kept pestering him to come back during those weeks after we broke up. I should've stopped contacting him the minute we broke, that way he may actually have time to clear his thoughts, I guess I kept wanting to know the final decision that it just made him seal the deal. I feel like it's all my fault. HAVE I LOST MY PRIDE OR DIGNITY BY ASKING HIM TO RECONSIDER? He probably feels like he has "won". I want to know if other people's ex's called back or wanted them back. For me, if he calls back, I will not pick up. Has anyone experienced something similar whose ex said the exact same thing but end up calling or coming back?

2007-10-15 05:24:54 · 19 answers · asked by Svetlana Z 1

My bf broke up with me after 4 years b/c he was suddenly unhappy and I took the break up badly. I also asked him back but he told me to not have hope, he wants to be single, and told me to find another man.
I haven't contacted him since and I just want to know if he might one day call back. In a way, I keep blaming myself that i drove him away when i kept pestering him to come back during those weeks after we broke up. I should've stopped contacting him the minute we broke up, that way he may actually have time to clear his thoughts, I guess I kept wanting to know the final decision but it only made him seal the deal. I feel like it's all my fault. HAVE I LOST MY PRIDE OR DIGNITY BY ASKING HIM TO RECONSIDER? I really regret asking him to come back and I feel embarassed that I stooped so low. How can I stop feeling this way? If i don't do anything for his bday or call him, do u think he will still think I am not over him? I also want to know if other people's ex's called or came back?

2007-10-15 05:15:32 · 15 answers · asked by GirlinTrouble 1

they are giving you the impression that you can trust them and in the end they rayed your feelings and sometimes they want you to be bad to them if you are giving them too much trust.what do they want?and why when you like someone and someone doesn't give you the same feelings?

2007-10-15 05:08:54 · 4 answers · asked by truth set free 1

My husband and I have been married for 3 1/2 months. I love him with all my heart, but I'm feeling I'm not enough for him. He rarely talks to me when he gets home from work and makes no action toward having a romantic relationship with me. I tried talking to him about my need for affection last night and it turned into a huge fight. He says I'm not giving him enough intelligent coversation and so he's given up trying to talk to me. He said he thought I was someone that wanted to make a differnce in the world and now he feels I'm not; I'm a teacher.

I'm heartbroken. I have been trying to take an interest in all his activities and interests, but I'm not doing enough apparently. He says he loves me, but he also references how bad things have been lately. I didn't know how bad off things were until we talked last night. I barely slept I'm so upset and am now missing work over this. And it's possible that I'm pregnant. I wouldn't have let this happen if I had known. Help please.

2007-10-15 05:04:41 · 11 answers · asked by ? 4

Everytime they have to go to a party for my ex or his wife or any one else, they moan and groan about it for a week in advance. So I get the message that it is just a pain in the rear for them to go to these parties. I don't want to be just another "obligation" that they have to get out of the way. So I told them "I just don't like all the attention." Now they are acting like I am a nut. Also, they end up spending a fortune everytime they take me to dinner, etc. $200.00 bottles of wine and I don't even drink. A card would do just fine for me. I know that they love me and other than this birthday thing, we have a great relationship. How do I get them to understand?

2007-10-15 05:02:19 · 9 answers · asked by Collinwood 2

My husband and I are starting marriage counseling soon. He is military facing deployment in the near future. Lots of possibilities and positives/ideas but I dwell in the negative. Others closest to me say I should leave him, yet offer no alternative solution. They address him as being the problem rather than there being problems with the relationship. I feel consumed by something dark, like i am the void rather than falling into it, I know i love but do not feel what I have come to associate with love. which is real? what is truth? what is emotional abuse? there is so much bad in our past. I fear telling the counselor. will she tell me to leave him too? i have nothing if i leave (friends resent me for choosing him, won't go home either), and i love him? will she offer judgement rather than solutions? he opens up and then shuts down. I have walls, inability to trust. no understanding or consistancy. Is this worth saving? we approach life as opposites. compatibility: a need or a want?

2007-10-15 05:01:34 · 6 answers · asked by cav71006 1

It annoys the shitt out of me!!! Does it annoy you? Are you a relative that asks this question??? Why dude? Why?

2007-10-15 04:59:28 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous

I divorced my husband some years ago, I am now very happy with someone who has taken on my son and my son has called him dad for the last 4 years. We have a baby son together and now my son who is 8 years old has decided that he would now like to change his name to be the same as his brother and dad, but I need to know what I have to do to have this done legally.

2007-10-15 04:57:34 · 15 answers · asked by kaz100jay 2

My husband gets angry when I bring up a friend. For example I was going to take some of my old jeans to my friends' daughter she is about my size now and my husband was instantly angry. I could hear it in his voice. Then a day later he asked me if I wanted to go to a three day class with him, I would have went, but we are in the process of moving and I figured since we are trying to save money, if I did not need to be there I would just go to work. Again when I asked if I had to be there he said no, so I said probably not and the angre came out in his voice over the phone again. I do not know what to do to get to the root problem, if there is one or where to turn now. I do not want a divorce I want to stay married I love him, just needing some advice on what should be done to make our relationship run more smoothly.

2007-10-15 04:54:32 · 10 answers · asked by outgoing pincess 1

Me and my partner have been together for 5 years but we had a split after 4 years. My partner and i were in very different places and wanted different things out of life. In that time my partner got into huge amounts of debt having the life he wanted. We promised to not share money as he owes alot more than me and we shared money before and it caused arguments. However i think we are both in the same place now and have the same dreams and goals. He currently budgets himself but every week he goes over, spends more than he can afford and forgets about bills he owes, basically he is terrible with money and always has been, the only difference is now he actually wants to get it right. im thinking to accept he is terible with money and go all in to take control of this and do this idea. We put all money in together and whatever is left we half....does this work and am i wrong to want to take charge, i just feel its the only way we can have a healthy future together.

2007-10-15 04:51:32 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

I found out he is in a website looking for girls and saying he is separated. Three month ago he started to go out all the time and didnt want to talk to me.And know he is saying he is willing to change and he is acting very nice with me and not going out anymore. This weekend he said if I dont get pregnant quick , I dont have to be surprise if I found out he is dating another woman. I feel really bad. I asked him if he is already looking for another woman and he promise me that no!!! But I found out already his ad in a dating website. What should I do!

2007-10-15 04:49:46 · 24 answers · asked by Estrella 2

My husband and I have been together for 10 years. We have a 3 year old son. Our relations have deteriorated beyond repair: there are no more feelings left besides sadness for the lost years (at least on my part); I am not even angry any more...our relations continued through cheating (on his part), moving across the country (I followed his job moves and was able to find jobs everywhere we went), his multiple job losses, infertility treatment, his affair, his "business game" and the loss of most of our savings...and now his other "dream": he wants to become a cop in NYC and he is not exactly 22 years old anymore...I couldn't handle it anymore and filed for divorce...I can afford to support my son, but am I making a mistake? I am so miserable and unhappy...I trully believe I will be better off on my own...

2007-10-15 04:49:44 · 21 answers · asked by Alla 2

He doesnt want ANY THING to do with me. Won't even try to kiss me...nothing. We havent had sex in 5 months!! Now, he did have a heart attack in May, but he was doing this long before that. He's 43, and I'm 36. We will be married 3 yrs. this month. Im so sick over this. He works ALOT! He DOES work, I know that. He comes home maybe 2x a week, cause he works far away. Then when he comes home, its not even a Hi. Ive tried talking to him......and thats a joke. What would be the signs of an affair? Thank you

2007-10-15 04:49:08 · 25 answers · asked by Cheri S 1

2007-10-15 04:47:24 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

I wonder if it is harder for the man or woman, with custody of the kids, to date. What are the differences in dating for both when they decide to get back to dating. What issues do they face that are similar or different

2007-10-15 04:46:33 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

All I keep hearing about is that couples should be getting married. To improve our society, and now tax breaks for married people.

My partner and I have been together 12 years we had a 3 year old son, my son knows his parents love each other and more important than that, we love him. We are not married, and none of us ever have been. I refuse to accept that marriage is best, and will not spend on average £11,000 for a piece of paper to confirm my love to my partner.

I would rather invest that money into my sons future, for college or what ever he decided to do. Surely with the divorce stastics at all time high, should we really be all that quick to get married. Does marriage really make you more solid as a couple. i am not totally against married but i personally would only consider marriage if my son said it made a difference to him. My only concern is that should anything happen to 1 of us, the other is not consider a next of kin, or legal partner.
anyone agree??

2007-10-15 04:46:33 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I have been together for 8 years (married 6 ) Not always an easy road for us; we have both had issues. Wth him, it has been his alcoholism (he has been clean 2 years now), and emotional detachment and smoking. With me, my low self-esteem, sharp tongue and anxiety. When I met him, he was a mess emotionally and physically and now he has lost 30 pounds and looks and feels better than ever. I loved him then and still do. Sometimes I say I wonder why but then why would I still be here otherwise?
Now that he looks very attractive women hit on him more than ever. I have never had a horrible issue with it; I take it as a compliment. One thing I knew I could always trust him in is that he wouldn't cheat. However, he recently said he he has feelings for a co-worker; he gets butterflies around her and wants to get to know her. He come home crying and determined to tell me even though he was afraid I might leave. What should I do? I told him forget her; it's a silly crush.

2007-10-15 04:42:35 · 13 answers · asked by em 2

What would you change if you could change one thing about your man? and what differance would it make

2007-10-15 04:39:46 · 4 answers · asked by me1234529 1

I have been married for 13 yrs and just recently my husband moved out for no reason what so ever. He has not given my a reason as to why and he won't talk to me about it. We have 4 wonderful kids and they are hurting as well can someone give me some advice on what i can do to change the out come of this i don't want to go through a divorce and have to put my kids through that. Please just give me some type of advice or hope that i can work this out.

2007-10-15 04:39:05 · 4 answers · asked by darpadilla 1

I have custudy of my daughter. Her mom keeps telling her that when she turns twelve, in the state of Texas, law says she can go live with her

2007-10-15 04:32:49 · 10 answers · asked by Veronica V 1

He will not let her take any of her clothes or her sons clothes(he is not the father). He is harassing her and her parents. Her parents had things stored at thier house and he will not let the the parents posessions leave his house. Need help.

2007-10-15 04:32:08 · 20 answers · asked by roger p 2

WHO HAS MORE COMMON SENCE???

Clean/Friendly Answers only

2007-10-15 04:28:49 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous

He said he has been staying at his mother's house to help her, she lives 20 miles away, I drove past at night a few times and he is not there. He will not come clean and tell me where he is, but I know in my heart he's not out doing anything good. When is enough enough?

2007-10-15 04:28:39 · 29 answers · asked by itsjust me123 2

I just want to know, even if you've never cheated how often do you check out other women and to what extent? Just thinking they are hot or thinking about having sex with them? Also, do you do it when your wife is around? If you had the chance to cheat with one of these women would you do so? Also do any of you not do it?

2007-10-15 04:25:49 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous

Two years ago one of my inlaws got mad b/c my husband and I ran off and eloped. This person got so mad that they left threatening phone calls on my personal phone number. She eventually apologized (although the father never has apologized for supporting her) but I changed my # since then and I still do not want them to have my personal cell # or my home #. I feel that if they need to get in contact w/my husband they can call his personal cell #. The thing is they call him on his cell ALL the time and my husband just always neglects to call them back. it may be weeks until he gets back w/them. I know that it is my husbands own responsibility to call his own family back but I guess I want to know- -- if I am obligated to give his family my phone numbers?? I have forgiven his family since they have tried to destroy our marriage earlier--but i do not trust them. I will only occasionally go to gatherings w/them. (Note: they were not like this prior to our marriage)

2007-10-15 04:24:25 · 6 answers · asked by yo 1

hung out with a guy this past July 4th. dont know what got into me, but i got drunk and had sex with him...then we hooked up again the next day. I got his #, but he told me he wasnt looking for anything serious. I never called him. just had a lot going on, and while the sex was good, that's all there seemed to be. So i added him to myspace last week (just got a page). He wrote back saying we should get drinks sometime. Well i ended up going to house yesterday and watched football. I had my period so i really didnt think anythign would happen. Stupid me though got drunk. I dont even know if we had sex. All i know is that we went from the couch to the bed. I asked him if we had sex, he said no because we had no condom, there was blood everwhere and he couldnt get hard. I was wearing a tampon, i know he must have put it in tho because i'm sore. I am worried the tampon got shoved inside...or maybe i took it out? How will i know?

2007-10-15 04:18:03 · 11 answers · asked by gally g 1

My bf broke up with me after 4 years b/c he was suddenly unhappy and I took the break up badly. I also asked him back but he told me to not have hope, he wants to be single, and told me to find another man.

I haven't contacted him since and I just want to know if he might one day call back. In a way, I keep blaming myself that i drove him away when i kept pestering him to come back during those weeks after we broke up. I should've stopped contacting him the minute we broke, that way he may actually have time to clear his thoughts, I guess I kept wanting to know the final decision that it just made him seal the deal. I feel like it's all my fault. HAVE I LOST MY PRIDE OR DIGNITY BY ASKING HIM TO RECONSIDER? I am moving on but I just want to know if other people's ex's called back or wanted them back. I know i need to move but my question is has anyone experienced something similar whose ex said the exact same thing but ended up coming back? Thanks

2007-10-15 04:16:55 · 12 answers · asked by GirlinTrouble 1