Marriage & Divorce - 15 October 2007

I stay at home...I clean and take care of my two little girls, but my husband is always gone. When I tell him about it he tells me it is all in my head. We dont have alot of time to talk but I just wonder if it is normal to be scared to leave. We have a good life except that he is never here. We have a roof over our heads. We always have food to eat and a little extra sometimes. I almost feel like it would be selfish of me to leave when nothing is really wrong. He isnt here and when I tell him he just iqnores it. I really dont get a brake and planned on putting the girls in day care for 2 days for about 2 hours to just get enough time to do the little things I dont really get to do. I think I am scared because I know it will be hard to leave and have to go to work everyday and put the girls in daycare everyday. Also is this normal?? Do other women feel this way???

2007-10-15 14:33:26 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

when a mother stays home with the kids? Should he help when he is home, or should it still be solely mom's job?

2007-10-15 14:31:34 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

Things have never been good in our two years of marriage, but recently my wife has started saying things like "I don't think its going to work out." I got into her email account and from what I can tell she has been talking to an old boyfriend for a couple weeks now via email and on the phone. I think she might be planning on meeting him one of the days that I am out of town. What should I do?

2007-10-15 14:30:15 · 49 answers · asked by Ben 1

What I've notice is that tons of people get divorces these days, but many of them get a divorce for really dumb reasons and for things that can be worked out. God doesn't want us wasting our lives away getting divorces with our spouses, when even some of the hardest things we can work out. I want to know why some of you are going to get a divorce, and do you truly think that this is the best way to resolve the situation that you're in with your spouse. Thanks to all of those that share with me their personal lives!

2007-10-15 14:28:53 · 9 answers · asked by Aneres 3

The situation is this: We live together. The initial understanding was that we were going to have at lease one child together. (He already has a daughter by another woman.) After almost one year of living together he says that he's sorry but he doesn't want to bring another child into this world. He did this knowing that I may leave. This man is not only the man I love and my finance but he is my partner. I don't know if I should settle and never have a child of my own or leave him and risk never having a partner or love like this again.

2007-10-15 14:19:55 · 18 answers · asked by xandra242002 3

2007-10-15 14:11:53 · 9 answers · asked by Lilly 4

Theirs a girl I have been dating for about 8 months now, the only problem is I have only seen her a total of 4 weeks since Im in the military and can only see her on when im on leave. I've known her for about 3 years now and she is a wonderful person. We have been talking about getting married when I come home again in december. This way she can move down here and the military will pay for our apartment and she can go to school while I finish off my enlistment. I have 21 months left. Should I marry this girl who I have a long distance relationship with?

2007-10-15 14:10:35 · 11 answers · asked by sk8ter2005 1

This was a really bad situation, but the circumstances were extenuating. I was involved with a longtime friend I knew from childhood. He liked me for years. Anyway, I told him I didn't want a relationship, then married someone else.

At the time I didn't know what was wrong, but I've had a medical condition most of my life that was undiagnosed. I was really ill, and I knew something was wrong but couldn't put my finger on it.

The friend had just come back from living in another province for several years. My condition affected my ability to function in every way. He was just putting his life together here, and I was so ill that mine was falling apart. I was afraid I would become a burdon to him and complicate his life, and I didn't feel he would really be able to help me.

When I met my husband he said that he would support me in every way and he has. If it wasn't for him I don't think I would have been able to put my life back together.

2007-10-15 14:04:39 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

Please share a story. Freely describe it. I got the time to listen.

Please do not put, "we have been married 10yrs and going strong" because that is not an answer to this question. Please do not say, "it is normal to disagree from time to time" because as you can deduce that that is not an answer to the question. What I am asking is about disagreements on important issues that have been resolved through divorce. I am doing a reasearch project on love.

Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.

2007-10-15 14:02:34 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband driving license was taken because the police smelled weed in his car, so now he have a DUI and he cant drive, well i just start driving two years ago and I'm still not that good of a driver. He is mad at me because he have to pay his cousin 100 dollars a week to take him to work because i dont have any license and i told him I will go and get them but now i can't find my s.s card so it is going to take at less two more weeks for me to take him to work, well he is very mad and he took off his ring and said he is leaving me and a whole lot of mean words. I love him but he needs to grow up and if this is the way he want it than so be it. The truth is I love him and I want him to love me but I dont think it's going to work can any one give me some advice on this bull?

2007-10-15 13:58:46 · 32 answers · asked by I can't get right 1

well im married for 2 and half years and im in need for words i dont know what to do cause its been like a month since i left to oregon wich i know live and i lived in az for 2 and half years but my wife its over there and im here we love each other but we want to spend a while with our familys and i want to be with her what should i do move back to az or move to other state with me and her or what i need opinions ?

2007-10-15 13:55:27 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous

My wife got mad at me yesterday because for the 1st time ever I told her to go visit her Mom without me .. I always go but wanted a day here at home alone ..to myself...we have been married less then a yr and not once have we been apart other then work..since I told her to go without me she said she wouldn't go and hasn't spoke to me won't even stay in same room ..except last night when she got out of bed to sleep away from me she told me what she thought about me ..and how i let her down by not going ...Honest I am getting upset more and more by the minute and starting to think if I want out of this marriage ... so can someone tell me how long should I let her treat me this way

2007-10-15 13:54:49 · 13 answers · asked by kevin p 2

i broke-up with my boyfriend 9 days ago..and confronted him with matching a slap on his face 3 days ago..i felt great after that for i know he deserve more than that because he is a great cheater and a big *** liar..but why do i feel incomplete and even suffering from sleepless nights and nightmares of him?!?is this just normal or im getting nuts already?!?

2007-10-15 13:50:02 · 12 answers · asked by BLeSSeDaNGeL 1

My husband I and go back and forth as to when we want to start our family. We both really want to have children and would love to start now except, I'm in school right now and am unsure as to if I can juggle motherhood and finishing up school. (I have about 2 years left) I'm 28 and he's 31, so I'm a little worried about waiting too long incase there are fertility problems. Finacially we're doing alright...(it could always be better though, right?) but my husband make enough to support the both of us, put me through school, pay the bills and mortgage...etc. and still have a decent amount left. Anyway how do you know it's the right time? Financially we can afford a baby, but there's a lot more to it than being financially ready. How did you all know it was the right time...or is there ever a "right" time? Thanks!

2007-10-15 13:49:09 · 20 answers · asked by JenJen 6

I am an un-happily married man. At work there is this single girl whom I talk to and we have become very good friends but nothing more. Whenever I leave home for work I feel bad because of an argument of something my annoyning, selfish and controlling wife has just said to me. But when I get to work and see my friend all of that goes away. I think she has an idea I'm not happy at home but hasn't asked too many questions. I value my privacy and she seems to respect that. She a wonderful person and I know we'll probably be no more that friends. My question is should I tell her how great she makes me feel or should I just keep my feelings to myself. Thanks.

2007-10-15 13:44:56 · 13 answers · asked by Nash M 1

Ive been married for 3 yrs, and ive got a daughter who is 18 months. My wife and i have stopped communicating and nit pick everyday!!. And we have not been sexually active since my daughter was born. What to do? Ive even thought of councilling.

2007-10-15 12:52:11 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-15 12:12:27 · 15 answers · asked by baby12860 2

like 3 mo. ago. We were attracted to one another. Things got so messed up because I was intoxicated, and he was sober and anyway we almost had sex and then he couldn't get it up. So after that we would see one another and he would blow me off. I really liked him. I wonder what he may think of me now. I guess I may want to talk with him. Is it a good idea, or is he an asshole for ignoring me for a while.

2007-10-15 11:48:45 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm a financially and emotionally stable parent and the mother won't allow me to see my child. I have many reasons for believing she is an unfit mother but aren't sure as to which would be relavent in my case. Any body have any experience or advise with this sort of thing?

2007-10-15 11:40:35 · 13 answers · asked by Alexandra F 1

Did it work out for you?

2007-10-15 11:40:09 · 11 answers · asked by pete the pirate 5

Ok..next month is my 4 year anniversary with my husband and I have planned a picnic in our living room for us. I was thinking his buddies could go out with him the 1st part of the day and when the sun is setting they drop him off. When he opens the apartment door he hears our songs playing with led lights lighting the hall way and the pinic on the living room floor. With all of dinner being heart shaped and his favorite bottle of wine. Silk rose petals are also lining the floor to the picnic. While apple pie is in the oven. Opinions please what would guys do if they were to walk into an apartment like that? I am debating rather or not to do this.

2007-10-15 11:23:32 · 21 answers · asked by victoriarose1982 2

ok I am just curious what do you see as romance? Mine is candle lit dinner with roses and nice bottle of wine... However some men tend to think that it is only a female thing to like that.

Better yet discribe what you would imagine as date of romance you will never forget. (do not be to graphic please).

2007-10-15 11:16:59 · 13 answers · asked by victoriarose1982 2

2007-10-15 10:58:10 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

phew....... split with my wife almost 2years ago theres 2 children involved i didnt handle the split to well resulting in them moving away .,.........now although things are better and i see my children regular ...every time my eyes open in the morning i just find an instant reply of the time my wife told me she didnt love me no more its so fresh so raw as if it happened just yesterday but sadly as i say its almost 2years ago

2007-10-15 10:44:36 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

My wife says I made her into a horrible person, by being so aloof, but not caring, by being at an extremely low emotional grade level, by being insensitive. She harbored tonnes of resentment towards me and says I made her depressed. It is so strange because I never knew anything was so wrong. I knew there were some problems but one day she wants a separation period. We are going to counseling now.
I want to rebuild this relationship as I value her but I don't know what is my fault or if some of it is her having mental problems. She really dislikes school, she thinks she is completely unattractive, she thinks people at school hate her etc. I didn't do this to her. I tell her she is beautiful all the time. The only thing is I know that I am emotionally distant to her and I do take blame for this part. What can I do ?? I don't want to start writing love letters or sending flowers because I just don't want to lead her on if she has problems.

2007-10-15 10:39:01 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am helping out a friend here, her husband does not want to sign the divorce papers is there some legal way to make him sign the papers, they have been seprated for one yr.
any help will do.

2007-10-15 10:37:15 · 5 answers · asked by cllns_nrmn 1

How do you learn to forgive someone who has hurt you so much in your past. Lets say it was someone you loved. In my case my ex and my daughters father. This person was the most abusive person in my life. Both physically and verbally. I tried working it out, but the relationship couldnt be fixed anymore. Everything pretty much turned into hate. I want to let go of that but its hard to forgive him. Any tips on where to start??

2007-10-15 10:21:38 · 21 answers · asked by *Cynthia* 3

I work full time & my husband is a student. In fact, he's in his last year , and herdest year of nursing school. He studies his butt off when he's not at school, which I of course want him to do so he can graduate. That being said, is it reasonable for me to expect dinner to be made when I get home from work? He's at school 3 days a week & even on those days he's home way before I am. Should I not be asking him to take away from his studying to cook dinner & cook it myself?

2007-10-15 10:17:17 · 28 answers · asked by autumn 5

is it as simple as more sex or is it something you do out of nature?

is it possible for a woman to provide whatever it is that you get from doing it?

how about porn, i am not against it but i think its something that should be watch together for some kind of stimulation because when a man does it all by himself and then pleases himself, it sounds kinda creepy like someone that watches for some sick twisted pleasure(if you have someone who will have sex with you)

for single men this is ok....

but if i want sex as much as you do, whats the private sessions about? i like porn, i would rather us make our own but if needed, i can watch them with you.

we have a healthy sex life, who still has sex 2x a day after 11 years, we do it all, have all the toys, talk about it all so why does he still take an hour in the bathroom???????

so, is this natural and normal or am i not meeting some kind of standard?

2007-10-15 10:15:14 · 20 answers · asked by badbitty101 2

I have been in a relationship for 7 years (engaged for 5) and I know the inevitable split is coming. I would prefer to avoid it because I still love him but he isn't trying anymore. I work 6 days a week and go to school 4 days and have limited time to spend together but I always try to make the best of that time...but he isn't. He's out late almost every night, I don't like the friends he hangs out with, he never cares about anything that I do unless it interferes with his plans. We have so much together like bank accounts, pets and other things. Is it time to give up or is there a way that I can snag his *** back to acting like an adult who is in a relationship?

2007-10-15 10:14:35 · 9 answers · asked by Amanda D 3