2007-10-15 10:58:10 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We have been married for 9 years, and we do fight a lot. Mostly about the sex. But I don't think it's normal for a guy to go so long with out it. He's still young. I don't know what else to do, where else I'm I supposed to get it.
2007-10-16 04:59:37 · update #1
We need a lot more info than that baby.
2007-10-15 11:00:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 1⤋
I don't think he is cheating on you. I am in the same situation. I am 18 and my husband is 20 and we hardly have sex either. I talked to him about it and he said that after a guy settles down, he doesn't feel like he has to all the time. They look at it as though you will always be together, and he would rather spend time just holding you or doing other stuff that is more memorable to him. You have to remember, sex is important to a man but they don't remember it like a female does. To them it happens, and it was great just not in the same way we do. If you honestly think he is cheating confront him about your concerns.
2007-10-15 18:05:41 · answer #2 · answered by KCH 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The idea of him cheating should not be the first thing that comes to your mind. You need to give us more details? Does he have a high stress job? Is he working a lot of overtime? Has he been ill?
It could just be that he is going through a phase that his sex drive is lower. You do know that you go through times that your sex drive is lower, and it will get worse as you get older. Well men have the same problem with their sex drives from time to time.
He may only need jump started again. Has the romance gone out of your life? Do you still have romantic candlelight dinners, wear sexy night wear, dance to radio music in the dark. Give him a reason to get his libido and he might surprise you.
Good Luck
2007-10-15 18:04:05 · answer #3 · answered by mn lady 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Definitely need more information. Just a lack of sex is not enough to answer the question. It could be anything from low libido to daily masturbation to cheating. Each of your ideas about how much is enough sex is needed to. Do you like it 3-4 times a week and he might be good with 1? We just don't know the answer with the information given. My first guess is he is not cheating, but that is just a guess.
2007-10-15 18:53:16 · answer #4 · answered by General Male Citizen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Same ages at my husband and I and we average about 1 time a week. Sometimes more and sometimes less. Less now than when we first started dating (of course) but it is mostly because we both work a lot of hours. Does he still act interested in you?? Ask him to put out and if he keeps declining and you do not see a reason ask him why!! Communication is the key!!
2007-10-15 18:10:02 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Due with baby#1 06/08/09♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Nice Lady. Do you fight? do you work long hours? do you talk to each other about things? is anything wrong besides no sex- are you best friends everywhere else? what is your relationship like? He's probably not cheating if he's completely devoted to you in every other part of your life. And are you listening to him, doing some of the things he likes too? doing things to make each other happy? Are you doing the work (both of you) that makes a marriage strong?
2007-10-15 18:03:23 · answer #6 · answered by borealtroll 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I hardly have sex, and I know he's not cheating on me. He's probably jerking off without you, and when you want sex he's tired, or doesn't feel like it. I hear it all the time. I wonder what he will do when I go get it from someone else.
2007-10-15 18:16:51 · answer #7 · answered by Sweet 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hardly like once a week or like never? Everybody situation is different give us some more details. Does he come home straight from work, does he talk on the phone in front of you, do he start arguments for no reason but to get out the house, do his friends call more than usual?
2007-10-15 18:14:31 · answer #8 · answered by askmeguru21 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When you did have sex more frequently, was it always the same way and the same place? if so, venture out. Take the initiative! Fine a safe but strange place and ask your husband to have his way with you! Even if he turns you down at that time, it will get his juices flowing knowing your that kinda girl! Be Bad!!
See Ya !! Gotta go find my girl....juices flowin lol
2007-10-15 18:20:43 · answer #9 · answered by david 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the only one who knows that. If you are having feelings like something is not quite right then most likely something isn't right. If he is staying out later then usual or making up excuses like car running out of gas or flat tire exc exc then he is probably having an affair. If he is coming home on time and is with you on the weekends then he could be having a problem with masturbating with porn. You need to talk to him about this.
2007-10-15 18:06:36 · answer #10 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well there is a really big possibility that he is. I am only 20 and my boyfriend of 6 years is 22, i know there is 10 year difference but we have sex at least 15 times a week so you should at least be at half of that. Don't play the fool.
2007-10-15 18:05:22 · answer #11 · answered by sillyme 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋