Marriage & Divorce - 15 October 2007

2007-10-15 07:54:25 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I are swingers for 3 years now. A situation has evolved that I am not sure what to think of.

Although the people we play with are happy with both of us, my husband is such a spectacular lover that word amongst our social group and the club we go to has got out and the women are simply nuts over him. I am starting to think that some of the couples we play with are only there because she wants him and he is OK with me, but not hugely interested.

Trust me I get mine from these playdates - I am very happy. But I know I am not as good a lover as my husband and it makes me feel a little weird that these women think he's just awesome. Any advice on this?

Besides not swinging, as I'm sure many of you will say?

2007-10-15 07:49:37 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband left for Iraq. He wanted to join the national guards. I was completely against it. I decided i will stay by his side and since we are a married couple, we discussed him joining. i finally agreed because i wanted him to be happy and make his own decisions. Well, i found out that he lied to me before we agreed on him signing up and went ahead and did it anyway with out discussing it with me. I feel betrayed. When he arrives, i want to tell him thati feel this way. We are a marreid couipe and are suppsed to agree on life altering decisions like this. How should i word it to him?

2007-10-15 07:30:56 · 22 answers · asked by Baby Jack born 4/5/09 4

I just don't want them to take what I had before I even knew he existed. We live in IL. I only want what I brought into the marriage and half of our wedding gifts. We havent been married all that long.He can have everything else. We don't owe any money. I was not at fault. He left me for my ex-best friend.

2007-10-15 07:26:51 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

or is that going a little too far?

2007-10-15 07:21:49 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have a good friend who is currently going through some tough times and i want him to get the right answers.
He has a child with a woman that he currently lives with.The 2 are not in a relationship anymore.She has 2 other children, with other men.Both are currently not in her custody and are looked after by Children's Aid Society.

They have lived together for about 4 years. He wants out and wants out now. This woman is pretty horrible. Will not cook, clean or take care of her own children.1 of them has visitation with her but whenever that child is there, she just doesn't look after him or takes off and my friend is left watching the kid.

Their son is almost 3.Thing is he is uncertain about spousal support.She just started working herself. Also a family member of her's lives with them and does not pay any money.So he wants to know do you think he will owe her anything and what would be the proper and legal way so he gets custody of the child and keeps his money.He works fulltime.

2007-10-15 07:17:26 · 10 answers · asked by baby_sunshine_4eva 2

i did everything for him, anything he needed i gave, and the sexual part of the relationship was healthy and i gave him what he needed daily...well after i left the rose colored glasses came off and i saw him for what he really was...im 99.9% sure he cheated on me the whole 3 years...with 4 girls i know of...how could someone do this to you...someone who says they love you and want to marry you, someone you give you life to!!! im so lost...i feel like its my fault..i just dont understand how a guy does that for 3 years...im so glade i left but still..how could he

2007-10-15 07:16:05 · 28 answers · asked by *Lovely 2* 2

I have been with my husband for 3 years. his son was 18 months when we met he is now 3 1/2. I also have two daughters from a previous marriae, and my husband i have a 1 year old son together.
During this time I have helped my husband fight and win sole custody of his son. I am a stay at home mom so I am with my stepson all the time. The problem is i cant seem to create a bond between us. My husband works long hours so I am the main disciplinary person in the home for all the kids.
My stepson seems to pull away when i correct him or fuss. When his daddy is here he cant even step outside to take the trash out with out my stepson freaking out . he still cries everyday when his daddy goes to work. My stepson ignores me or cries when i ask him to do something.
He also goes to his moms every other weekend now.
My husbands parents spoil him so bad, give him whatever he wants, where in our house we cant afford to do that. he is bounced around alot between us, mom, and his grandparents

2007-10-15 07:14:11 · 8 answers · asked by Kimberly G 2

…refuses to see that her friend is causing undue stress on our marriage?

Some points regarding their relationship:
-he is an ex-boyfriend, and ex-boss
-he is her current boss who asked her back to work and she took the job after I explained I was uncomfortable with the situation
-I surprised her at work one day with lunch, walked in and found her sitting on his lap (2 yrs ago)
-when I was deployed to Afghanistan, her sister told me the night before I came home on emergency leave she went to the bar with him and other coworkers and didn't come home until 4 am. she lied about the situation but eventually came clean. Says nothing sexual happened (1.5 yrs ago)
-when she told him she was getting married to me, he didn't talk to her for a week (1.5 yrs ago)
-we tried hanging out, all three of us together numerous times, put simply we do not get along despite trying to for her

2007-10-15 07:12:25 · 37 answers · asked by jace 2

My husband and I have been married for 17 wonderful years. We have four beautiful children who are the focus of our lives. We are extremely happy, and I can honestly say that we have lived a fairy tale.

I have kept the home pregnancy test sticks from all of my pregnancies. They have remained wrapped inside a plastic sandwich bag since the night(s) we got the happy news. Two nights ago, my husband apparently discovered them for the first time. I caught him opening the bag, and taking each stick out and…tasting them.

I was both mortified and disgusted. After the third one, I shouted out to him, startling him. He dropped the stick, picked it up, quickly placed it back in the baggie, tossed it in the drawer, and ran out of the room like a CHILD!

Because of this incident, I can’t ever view him the same way again. Did I marry a monster? I am seriously considering filing for divorce. What should I do?

2007-10-15 07:10:03 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

I think I have been in denial and that we never should have gotten married. I was grieving for my grandmother who raised me and was like a mother to me when we met. I wish someone had prevented me from making a life decision. I feel like he is controlling my life and never wants me to make any choices on my own. He gets very angry and is too harsh to our kids. We disagree on everything except when he is trying to make up for some fight we have had. I wonder if the angry or negative behavior is going to get to the point where someone could get hurt. I feel like there is nothing of me left to give. There's no cheating here...although I have thought about it. I feel like everything has to be done his way or no way. He also wants us to move closer to where he grew up, and I really want to live where I grew up. I feel like I am always sacraficing things for what he wants. Part of me doesn't really see divorce as much different, because he is not around much and when he is, he is complaining

2007-10-15 07:09:26 · 12 answers · asked by dbirch99 1

okay my hubby and i have been together a little over two years and we have a 12 month old and im 21 hes 26 we both love each other but i have issues, jelously ones, that he wont help me with, such as until june when our cell phones got cut off he'd lie about who he talked to and messaged at work until he got caught, he doesnt understand why i dont trust him, i think until he can prove himself i have a right to be suspecious and look at phone records. i also dont like that he keeps gifts from his ex like a watch and his x box and our tv in our bedroom! he wont give them up he says if he sells them hell go out and buy another exactly the same and these are expensive items and we dont have the money for the exact ones! i guess i just want to know how i can trust him and not get so jealous! i try and do good for a while and then i get these thoughts and the only thing i can do is stop thinking altogether and that can only last so long. i also search his exs online bc im so crazy!

2007-10-15 07:08:05 · 56 answers · asked by Anonymous

We also found out that she pretended to be my husband's sister and we added her as a friend so for the past couple of months she's had access to personal info... I also declined her friend invite... I know how devious women can be, so I want to have an idea of what she could possibly be thinking. What should we do in this situation? And no we aren't allowed to see the kids because he doesn't give her enough money (her words).... but she says my husband ruined her life (by 'forcing' her to have the kids) but yet she doesn't want to give us custody, which we want

2007-10-15 07:05:07 · 26 answers · asked by antoinette m 2

I've been married to my wife for 5 years, and i just want her to know that shes the only one & the only beautiful woman ever. She is afraid all men are the same, but i'm not. Shes the only one for me. How do I show her she is, wat is a good romantic way.

2007-10-15 06:56:31 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am divorced with a 6 year old son, my ex is being a jerk to our son, I want to file for full custody. My question is my boyfriend has a history nothing violent, a couple DUI's from over 5 years ago. Will this come into play if I go to file for full custody? I want to leave my bf out of this but just to be a bigger jerk my ex is going to try and do something to screw up my new life.

2007-10-15 06:56:15 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

who do you think would win a no rules fight between a man and a woman that are equal strength? Who would win and how would they do it?

2007-10-15 06:56:06 · 6 answers · asked by Heidi 1

He thinks that just because we have two children and have been together for three years we edon't need to spend time together

2007-10-15 06:49:27 · 14 answers · asked by tazbabz 1

2007-10-15 06:32:40 · 31 answers · asked by kelly 1

2007-10-15 06:31:38 · 12 answers · asked by Everand 5

2007-10-15 06:31:13 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

each other?

2007-10-15 06:27:35 · 12 answers · asked by Lady M 6

is it right which one would you pick arrange or love!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

2007-10-15 06:12:47 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous

anyway and if he did not like it. I would just say there is the door go through it. It is my body and I will choose what I do with it you have no say in the matter, it would make no difference if I was married or not. No one tells me what to do

2007-10-15 06:05:10 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-15 05:55:10 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

This is a question that my wife and I have discussed, and we have often expressed, that if one of us died, we would want the other to re-marry and be happy.

Just curious how you all feel.

2007-10-15 05:52:11 · 20 answers · asked by Bryan M 6

She says she'll go to make me happy, to be more "attractive in my eyes." However, I don't want that. I want her to go because it's important to her. I don't want to force anything on her, or make her feel bad.

I just wish she had some degree of vanity! What should I do?

2007-10-15 05:51:33 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

Everything will be the same except we will be divorced. We have children and do own a home together. Does anyone know what the laws are in Illinois and would it effect our property if we sell later. I know this sound extremely dumb but it's something I've wanted for many years. I never wanted to get married but only went through with it to please both parents. I would rather be his common law wife or domestic partner then be "legally married".
any suggestions on how to go about this with out it being so expensive and overly complicated?

2007-10-15 05:47:55 · 13 answers · asked by peonies 2

whenever we go we have to deal with people?and they are not giving that kind of things?and sometimes you are so provoked that you want to fight to ask them to stop..what do they actualy want? is like you cant do this or do that or else people will talk against you.what can we do?but is not good to either to keep our feelings to...so how?

2007-10-15 05:47:23 · 4 answers · asked by truth set free 1

my dad told my mom he wants a divorce. the same night me and my girl had planns but i cancelled to go be with my mom. my girl got mad did i do anything wrong or is she being selfish

2007-10-15 05:45:49 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been married for 2-1/2 years and my wife has a son who is 14. Every time we go out in public he gets in the middle of my wife and I. If I am standing or walking next to my wife he just walks right between us. If we are at the store and I am trying to dscuss something with my wife he gets right in the middle. If I ask him to move he refuses and gets nasty. If I complain to my wife she never gets involved or tells me to grow up. I am very hot tempered and I don't always handle it correctly. Any suggestions on how I can handle the situation better before and after. I know this sounds like a little problem but it really hurts my feelings when he constantly gets in the middle.

2007-10-15 05:41:26 · 25 answers · asked by Bill 1