2007-10-15 05:55:10 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I lost my husband and I know how hard it is. You can move on and meet someone again. You being happy and continuing to live your life is the best monument that you can give to your late husband and your marriage together.
It is a testimony to how happy you were together. God Bless
2007-10-15 06:00:17 · answer #1 · answered by Len 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You will always love your ex husband. I am extremely for your loss. How long is a long time? Just because you will always love your first husband, does not mean you will not find someone else to love as well. It might not be in the same way you felt about your first husband, but love just the same.
When and if the time is right, it will happen.
One point of advice i might add, do not hold everyone up to the same standards that your ex had. You are not looking to replace him. If you do that, you will never find what you are looking for. Judge each man on his own merit. Good luck to you my dear!
2007-10-15 13:03:12 · answer #2 · answered by tammie h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my dad passed away when I was 11. He and my mom were only in their early 40's (if that). Since, my mom has had boyfriends, but nothing that turns out to be too permanent. She gets sick of these men quickly. She loved my dad so much that I guess no man she meets really adds up to what he was to her. She always finds thigns wrong with any man. She has a boyfriend right now that I really like and she really loves I guess. He is a nice guy. BUt I just dont think anyone will ever take my dads place. It will take time-b/c the man you loved so much has passed away. It makes me want to cry to hear this & I am so sorry for your loss. Time heals all pain and eventually you may find a new man you dearly love (maybe not like your husband) but you will be okay. And if not, then thats okay too. Thats what friends are for.
2007-10-15 13:11:37 · answer #3 · answered by Yellowtulips 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi hon...
I'm sorry for your loss. and i hope you can keep the good memories close to your heart.
you may or may not love again --
if you are having a hard time, maybe consider grief counseling, or a grief support group (check with the hospital to see if they can help you locate one?).
there are also a lot of grief support websites. I have listed Griefnet below.
i'd like to suggest getting out and doing things which you wouldn't ordinarly do. karate class? join the gym? take an art class? bowling?
maybe you could join a singles group (these are for singles to do things together -- trips, parties, picnics and dances, etc). Singles groups are about friendship and yes, sometimes people meet someone to date or marry, but others are just looking for friends and a little companionship.
You will always miss and love your husband, but i'm sure he'd want you to continue to live your life, now. take care and sending hugs and well wishes. xo
2007-10-15 13:06:40 · answer #4 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for your loss. I don't think that anyone can ever really answer a question like this. But, if you really want to love again and you want to give it another try and you need companionship than yes, I think you will love again. But I don't think you will ever love someone else like you loved your late husband. That being said, don't go into the dating world looking for someone to replace him. But go out there and try to focus on who this new person is. You'll never stop loving your late husband but that doesn't mean there isn't room in your heart for another.
2007-10-15 13:00:56 · answer #5 · answered by Phaylynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for your pain. I have been married 28 years, and I too cannot imagine my life without my husband...it hurts to just think about it.
If you are meant to love another man, it will happen. And, it will probably happen when you least expect it.
Please consider grief counseling. In the mean time, spend time with your friends, and learn to laugh and be happy again. Your late husband would not be happy if he knew you were miserable on earth without him. Think about how you would want him to be happy if you died before he did. Live your life as a testimony to how happy you can be, and how happy you will be when you see him again.
2007-10-15 13:04:57 · answer #6 · answered by nurse ratchet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With all the people in the world do you really think there is only one person that you can love? Don't try to replace him, just allow yourself to open up to someone else. It will be the beginning of a whole new life. Not your old life mind you, but a different life. What good will it do to keep on pine-ing for your late husband?
2007-10-15 12:59:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm really sorry for your loss and the pain that you have felt and are still feeling. I would assume the answer to be that when the time is right, and your heart and mind heal. Than yes you could probably love again. Don't ever give up, and don't look for love, it will find you. So much good luck, and happiness to you.
2007-10-15 13:00:25 · answer #8 · answered by donnalw3 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My dear husband died 9 years ago, I am now remarried to a wonderful guy---I was a widow for 7-1/2 years. I couldnt move on for 2 years after my deceased husband passed away---but eventully--I recame very lonely. Yes, you can love again--please give it a chance, you are missing so much....dont expect another to be just like your deceased husband, but the next husband can be great and wonderful in his own way.
One thing, if you havent dated in many years, be ready for a shock---dont jump in too easily and give your emotions and love away too soon---you may have to date for a while before you find the one right for you. God bless.
2007-10-15 14:22:47 · answer #9 · answered by skyward 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you're ready you might. The thing is that I don't think you'll ever stop being in love with your husband, I think your heart will open again if you meet someone you can love. Don't look for it, wait for it or anything, let God handle it. It's ok to still love your man. How would you ever stop?
2007-10-15 13:03:34 · answer #10 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋