We also found out that she pretended to be my husband's sister and we added her as a friend so for the past couple of months she's had access to personal info... I also declined her friend invite... I know how devious women can be, so I want to have an idea of what she could possibly be thinking. What should we do in this situation? And no we aren't allowed to see the kids because he doesn't give her enough money (her words).... but she says my husband ruined her life (by 'forcing' her to have the kids) but yet she doesn't want to give us custody, which we want
2007-10-15 07:05:07 · 26 answers · asked by antoinette m 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
okay... she's getting support for 6 years now... hubby and i have been together for 4 years... i was NO where near when stuff happened... heard from OTHER people that she messed around on him... as for visitation, she claims he made death threats towards her and because of his past, they believe her... he's a completely different man now... he's in church, doesn't drink anymore... she tried to contact me prior to this and I tried to talk to her and she was telling me that he's good for nothing blah, blah blah... I've listened to a convo between them, she told him that unless he gave her MORE money he could get the kids for Christmas... I don't know, she's just doing stupidness and I'm just trying to make sense of it... OH btw, I just had baby last month and she's telling people we named our kids the same names as her kids which is a HUGE lie
2007-10-15 07:33:39 · update #1
She wants to add you as a friend on there so that she can keep tabs on you- she's being nosy. My husband and I had the same problem with his ex- we finally just deleted our accounts and told our friends that if they wanted to talk with us online just to send an e-mail.
If there is an order for custody or visitation then your husband is entitled to see his children and she is legally obligated not to interfere. If she is interfering with a court order for visitation then she is in contempt of court. Your husband can go to a lawyer and file a Petition for Citation of Contempt.
Child support and visitation/custody do not work interchangeably. For example, she can't deny visitation because he is not paying child support. He also can't quit paying child support because she is denying visitation.
If there is a child support order in place then your husband needs to find a way to pay that amount every month. If he is not paying it then he is in contempt of court and she can take him back to court on those contempt charges.
If he has been paying support then he needs proof- either copies of the checks from the bank or a receipt or something.
You guys need to take her to court and establish an order for support and custody. If you already have one- take her to court for a modification.
2007-10-15 07:42:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously, she's trying to get some kind of info about you from the website (I don't belong to any of those sites, so I'm not sure what info is available). Like Wifey said, she seems like a psycho who is cyberstalking you. I don't know if you can complain to the webmaster. But, you might want to take down your site, and put one up on another Facebook-type of site, or set up a new account without personal info or a real name.
BTW - if your husband is paying the court-ordered amount of child support, she can't prohibit him from seeing the kids. Child custody and visitation guidelines should be in the separation agreement. If not, you may want to hire an attorney to get the agreement amended. It will cost you a few thousand dollars, though, and an attempt at an amendment will open the child support agreement up to amendment as well (it may be increased substantially).
2007-10-15 07:13:22 · answer #2 · answered by Paul in San Diego 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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She will not want you even more. You need to show her that you don't need her and can live your life without her. She still cares about you I am sure. Maybe try "flirting" with other girls around her to make her jealous. I know its bad, but if i saw my ex flirting with someone else it would make me REALLY ANGRY. However, you still need to show her you care about her too. Show her what she's missing and remind her of it. Be confident and don't show your broken heart. Try ignoring her? Girls hate that. You want her to come to you. Once she does this YOU have all the power.
She will realize what you mean to her and she will hopefully come crawling back. (I am in the same situation as you, except I am the girl trying to get my ex back). Try not to be so clingy and give her space. But try to be around so she sees you, but don't talk to her much. Keep convos short and if you txt her, which you shouldn't, then also keep it short and bland. This will be hard to do because you just want to let her in your life again, but you can't. If you show her that you are desperate to get her back, she won't go for it. Make her come to you and REMIND her of all that she is missing out on. Hope this helps. And trust me, I know how you feel. Girls usually come around easier than guys so you should be lucky. ughh wish i could say the same.
2016-07-20 02:41:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this have been basically a common case of an ex befriending an ex, it could be diverse. yet given your situations and earlier correspondence he had together with her, you're very plenty interior your rights to be offended and slightly devestated. After what he wrote to her, he could comprehend thoroughly why this is significant you that they no longer keep in touch. It does sound like he's not over her. you're able to no longer could settle for being 2nd. as much because it hurts, i could supply the ultimatum. And if he can't cut back touch together with her, you're able to separate and circulate lower back into counseling. i be attentive to this is complicated because you have little ones, yet whilst he's not the ideal one there is not any reason to proceed being so unhappy. What he's doing to you is misguided. this is in comparison to you're basically jealous for no reason. in case you leave, according to danger he will finally see the easy. yet whilst no longer, he's not rather worth it besides.
2016-10-09 06:52:30 · answer #4 · answered by mccaleb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she doesnt want you to have custody or even let your husband see his own children then she obviously a word i dunno if i can say on here. But if shes been tryin to contact you then she is either a bunny boiler who is still interested in her husband or in his now new relationship with you and wants to check everything about you to see if you deserve custody or not. Or its a way for her to get contact with you as she may have had a change of heart. Only thing is with women they do usually tend to be the first one and like you said devious. So if shes that watch out keep an eye on her
2007-10-15 07:11:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you might be from Dramaville... The only reason for adding you would be to keep an eye on you and your relationship. the next thing you might hear will be about her and your hubby still fooling around. Whether or not it's true is irrelevant, it's just usually the next step after stalking. And trust me, what she's doing is stalking on a lower level. Just curious, why doesn't your husband take her to court?
2007-10-15 07:11:16 · answer #6 · answered by bustobabe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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Once you do that then you can start to worry about getting back together with your ex, other wise you will find that you are fighting about all the same things and getting no where. Do what it takes and I promise things will work out in your favor.
The funny thing is I came to the realization that I had to change a little too late. After I was kicked out and after I was about to lose the only things that truly mattered to me - her love. A funny thing happens when we truly love someone and lose them. We do what ever it takes to get them back. For me I had to drop bad habits that had caused not only our relationship to sour but practically every other relationship I had had in the past. Not only with women, but with friends, co-workers, family, you name it.
Which is why I say to you as my ex at the time said to me, the only thing you can do is change yourself. Work on yourself and improve on the person that you already are. Drop the negative things in your life that don't belong there and you will see all of your relationships start to take off to new heights.
2016-05-01 01:45:22 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Caes of can't let go. I feel for you and i feel for her. It is so hard to go on. Did you take her husband away from her? Did you ruin their life?
You know she is a step ahead of you. I am sure since you and your husband is all she has, some crazy stuff is and will roll your way. How laong has it been?
I feel people should get over something by a year 1
Maybe if you try to talk to her she will be able to let you go?
Sorry for your trouble
good luck.
2007-10-15 07:13:52 · answer #8 · answered by maria s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like she is keeping an eye on you. I am not familiar with how facebook works, but I would disinvite her from all your accounts. Also, your husband can take her to court of she isn't letting him see his kids. Talk to a lawyer about anything to do wth custody & slice her off all the facebook activities.
2007-10-15 07:10:43 · answer #9 · answered by fairly smart 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She probably wants to get someaccess to something. A lot of times people put things on multiple accounts and If one was to add all of those together she could possibly get access to your passwords, and account info. She might just be nosey and want to know if ya'll are still involved or not, or just want to know some crap on you.
2007-10-15 07:10:11 · answer #10 · answered by downbeatitalian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋