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2007-10-15 06:27:35 · 12 answers · asked by Lady M 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We let things get in the way of what really matters. I have a lot of marriage problems and I just left my husband Friday. I had a lot of time it seemed to think about what was really important to me. I realized that when I went into this relationship I was more driven to make things work because I was really in love with him. I realized that I still am and I went back to make things work. We are working together to make our house a happy home again. It just seems so much worse with amplified emotions and stress from life that it doesn't seem like it is ever going to get any better.
2007-10-15 06:34:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
a break down in communication - the stress of life getting in the way, there are a million reasons, spend a weekend in bed together recapturing the reasons you fell in love with each other in the first place - ship the kids away to a granparent -turn the ringer off on the phone and stash away the cellphones and computers no interruptions just the two of you and reconnect.
2007-10-15 13:35:24 · answer #2 · answered by nomo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever noticed, it's a lot easier to show your true colors around someone you love, that loves you, and knows everything about you? Someone you're married to and loves you is less likely to walk away from you if you show the darker side of you.
A person gets comfortable, and they start to let it all hang out.
It's unfortunate, that spouses also have the "inside scoop" on you. They know your short comings, and your weaknesses, and have more information than the average Joe if they DO need to come to blows with you. Sad, but true.
2007-10-15 13:47:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they fail to become one when they marry. They still see themselves as separate entities working towards what they want as individuals, instead of working on what is best for the marriage.
2007-10-15 13:31:50 · answer #4 · answered by mafiosu 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Daily life is stress.
We deal with that stress because our bodies are conditioned to deal with stress.
As we get older, our metabolism slows down, so we do not deal with stress very-well.
So we look for other ways to relieve our stress.
We end up verbally and physically attacking our husband/wife/kids/dogs/neighbors/relatives, to try to relieve our stress.
What we REALLY NEED TO DO IS: daily aerobic exercise. This pushes our metabolism up so we go back to handling stress a LOT better!
You never see unhappy people who exercise daily.
2007-10-15 14:07:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because there is poor communication and people don't want to give. A marriage is work and requires give and take for it to work. You also benefit if you can communicate well.
2007-10-15 13:39:57 · answer #6 · answered by Simmi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The WAR is really just small and large power struggles
2007-10-15 13:33:40 · answer #7 · answered by Johnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because some people are inherently selfish and childish and are more interested in "winning" than "compromising".
It's sad, really, how many people seem to have that mindset.
2007-10-15 13:41:46 · answer #8 · answered by Nandina (Bunny Slipper Goddess) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's crazy, there are so many happy marriages out there.
2007-10-15 13:36:55 · answer #9 · answered by Chloe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All's fair in love and war.
2007-10-15 13:31:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋