She says she'll go to make me happy, to be more "attractive in my eyes." However, I don't want that. I want her to go because it's important to her. I don't want to force anything on her, or make her feel bad.
I just wish she had some degree of vanity! What should I do?
2007-10-15 05:51:33 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Keeski, brutally true!
2007-10-15 06:43:43 · update #1
Go to the gym..... You wanted her to go now she is going. When the endorphins kick in from exercising your wife will start feeling better and she will enjoy it. Just because she is going for the "wrong reason" doesn't mean it is a bad thing. Good luck and enjoy getting healthy together.
2007-10-15 05:57:10 · answer #1 · answered by Len 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Be supportive. If she goes at first for you, she may find herself going more for her. She may see other women in the gym and want what they have as well, she may decide she likes the way she looks and doesn't want to change anything. I'm not sure if she's let herself go or if this is you being TOO vain but go and workout together if for no other reason, then to be together hanging out!
2007-10-15 05:58:57 · answer #2 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean by "finally agreed"? If you never brought it up, how would she know you wanted her to go? If you kept bringing it up, why are you surprised that she's doing it "for you"? Take what you can get. If you want her to go because of "her", then maybe she will never go. If you're ok with that, tell her that you love her as she is, that you don't care if she goes to the gym or not - and never bring it up again. That should do it.
2007-10-15 05:59:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want her to be proud of her apperance.. its probably gonna take more than her going to the gym. As a girl, going to the gym doesn't usually make me feel sexy.. it makes me feel like I'm slowly getting to a distant goal. If you want to make your wife feel sexy, get her new hot clothing (no sweats allowed!), a make-over, and a hair cut/color. This will instantly boost self confidance and make her know what she can look like. Then, take her out so she has someplace that will make her feel good, a club (jazz, bar, whatever), a theater, opera.. some place that she has to dress up to go to..
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2007-10-15 05:59:05 · answer #4 · answered by sugarcookie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i go to the gym a lot and lemme tell you i've seen couples coming together like 3 or 4 times , tops, and then nada.
the gym is a sacred place like the shrink's office or a meditation room. you go there, work out and want to be left alone.
i would go alone and report back about all the gorgeous girls i see there.
2007-10-15 05:59:30 · answer #5 · answered by sarah kay 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm assuming you probably bugged her quite a bit and now that she's going you feel bad. Let her come with you and as she works out, and feels better, perhaps she will take more pride in her appearance.
2007-10-15 06:00:22 · answer #6 · answered by Lesleann 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this might be a good thing... my husband and I work out togetehr in the back of our house three times a day weight lifting and other stuff it is more fun when you have somone to do it with you might actually find that it helps you become closer... just encourage her to do better and be excited for her when she gets stronger and littler
2007-10-15 05:57:40 · answer #7 · answered by oh_jo123 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she feels she doesn't need to empress anyone because she already "Hooked" you....LOL j/p you should let her go to the gym w/u and eventually she will enjoy working out to look good and feel better!
2007-10-15 05:57:48 · answer #8 · answered by SexyEyez89 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we have to go because we want to. If she is starting to go "for you" then start with that, once she has been working out and notices that clothes fit different and she is feeling better she may start to then go for her,
At least starting out she is starting to go which is the hardest first step.
2007-10-15 06:06:44 · answer #9 · answered by Scrappers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make her sloppy *** hit the gym.. I mean honestly no one wants a woman or a man who doesnt care about how they look..
2007-10-15 06:24:22 · answer #10 · answered by Mrs.Drew 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋