what do you lot think about arrange marriage??????

Question

is it right which one would you pick arrange or love!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 1

LOVE for me.

Answer 2

I think that it should be any person's right to choose their own partner and that everyone should get the opportunity to find love. However, I also think that if a person chooses to undergo the arranged marriage than that is their right also. I don't think that anyone should be pushed into arranged marriage (for instance by a parent or tradition). I have already found love and marriage and I couldn't be happier. But I have heard of situations where an arranged marriage turned into love. So, whose to say what's right or wrong?

Answer 3

I went through arranged marriage which lasted 5 years. However I am not against it because what destroys marriages is the attitude and expectations that one or both partners have before and during the marriage. The same attributes that destroys any none arranged marriage.
However most modern day arranged marriages in the Christian world are more like dating services and participants have a choice.

look at http://www.familyfed.org/bfd/Five%20Love%20Languages.ppt

It's based on a book “The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate” by Dr. Gary Chapman.

I believe the book will help couples with the marriage attitude but both partners have to read and act on it to have a successful marriage.

Answer 4

Well, you can always fall in love with money.

After playing the dating game for several years, I think arranged marriage is the way to go; parents have more experience and knowledge, and by arranging a marriage, there's no messing around with potentially dangerous or troublesome people.

I know a lot of people think 'love' is a great thing, but you can love anybody if you try. Marriage is more about security than love, anyway.

The problem is, you're asking this in an American forum, and most people in America, while willing to give up their freedoms from search and seizure, freedom of speech, and right to gather, won't give up any rights when it comes to scratching their psychological itches.

Answer 5

It is a tradition amongst Sikhs, Muslims (but this cannot be forced other than by familial pressure) and even some Christians. I do not think that is a neccessarily bad thing it can work very well, I have had friends that have met their arranged spouse and have fallen in love with them. I understand that sometimes it goes horribly wrong and that the practice needs addressing in regards to the modern Western way of thinking but with divorce rates so very high amongst those that choose their spouses rather than have them arranged then are we right to meddle or question.

Answer 6

Well it is a very hard thing to answer. I mean arranged marriages in some cultures are mandatory, and if not done will damage your families name.

However I believe we should all be able to pick the person we'd like to marry. Having said this it's good to make a well thought out choice. I mean keeping your religion, values, and goals in mind. No one else will understand you and your parent which is very important other than someone with the same beliefs and culture.

Answer 7

I think it is not as bad as people make it out to be. I mean aslong as you trust your parents, or the people who are arranging it. I would not mind either, i mean if i found the right person then obviously id go for love marriage, but say if i didnt i would not mind arrange marriage, as although its arranged marrage, it does not mean you dont get to meet the girl/boy, so if i was having an arrange marriage i would meet the girl a few times, get to know her, then decide if we were compatible! You dont have to say YES to the first person you are arranged with! As long as you meet them a few times first, then its not a problem! So both are fine with me!

Answer 8

I think it depends upon the person. For some people, an arranged marriage is about partnership and growing to love and trust each other. It can be a much more meaningful love, without so much pain and drama.

I would prefer to marry out of love though. I like the intense passion and knowing that he is my soul mate.

Answer 9

I am against arrange marriage, but i have heard from people that have had arrange marriage and feel in love with their partner. So it really depends on the people. But i would go with Love.

Answer 10

I personally don't feel that it is healthy to marry someone you don't love and hardly know, but I know that many cultures still believe that arranged marriage is the right thing to do, so I won't knock any cultural beliefs by saying it's wrong. I just would never do it personally. I would always marry for love and let the rest work itself out.

Answer 11

Arranged marriage is one of many traditions that serve no purpose in the modern world. They are an extension of racism, which is indeed an extension of narcissism.... Why do I say narcissism? "Only stay with your own kind." Arranged marriage has nothing to do with the feelings or desires of those involved. In other words, it is destructive and sick, usually based on greed and control more than anything. But of course, it is practiced most by people who are the most racist and isolationist in the world.