This is a question that my wife and I have discussed, and we have often expressed, that if one of us died, we would want the other to re-marry and be happy.
Just curious how you all feel.
2007-10-15 05:52:11 · 20 answers · asked by Bryan M 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, and I did two years ago to a great guy. My deceased husband died about 9 years ago----I didnt move on for two years and I became very,very lonely. You can be happy again, but you cannot expect your new husband to be like the deceased--and dont talk about your deceased husband all the time and compare him with new husband.
I think persons should remarry.
2007-10-15 07:33:44 · answer #1 · answered by skyward 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You bet! Now that may sound crass, but I'm in the middle of a divorce (so it's understandable, I'm sure). On the other hand, even if I was currently happily married (to someone else) I would expect my spouse and I to do what felt right. Some people can't remarry because their loss is so deep that no one ever could fill that void for them & they know it (like my mother for example). However, things can & do change over time, so if your heart heals and U happen to find a new love, why not? I'm sure you would be forthright and honest in revealing everything about you & the fact that U were once married to the love of your life. If he/she can't understand that, then maybe it's not such a good idea to marry that person. If your heart is ready for a new spouse & that person understands -- go for it -- for if it makes U happy, isn't that what your beloved would want for U?
2007-10-15 15:32:03 · answer #2 · answered by Andy K 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am 51, and I would not get married again. Not because of anything dramatic like "I could never love again!" while violins play. But after 15 years knowing my husband, I wouldn't love anyone again, even close to the same way, having spent the years of ages 36-51 with him, that will never happen again.
Not having kids, and financially, legal marriage doesn't make sense at a certain age. Companionship can be had, friends, but formal marriage is unnecessary. Most of the good men want younger women, so why bother?
2007-10-15 13:02:49 · answer #3 · answered by danashelchan 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would..... probably wouldn't feel ready to do so in a long time, but eventually I'd like to have a special someone to share my life with. Of course that doesn't mean replacing the partner who passed on.... but we do have the right to be happy. My mom has been a widow for 5.5 yrs and I know she will never re-marry, but I would like her to find a special person she could spend her life with, sh'es still young. But I guess to each their own......
2007-10-15 13:02:50 · answer #4 · answered by Lprod 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it all depends how old one is. i love my husband very much and i know he can never be replaced, but if i was still relatively young (when my husband passes away) then i would probably marry again. me and my husband have talked about this too. and we both agreed that we would want the other to be happy....after we pass. and being lonely and mourning is not the way to go.
there is nothing wrong about re-marrying. some people might think of it as replacing their spouse and that's wrong. i think of it as trying to be happy again.. like your spouse would want you to be.
just dont forget your spouse....cherish the love and memories you two have shared.
2007-10-15 13:00:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
If my spouse were to die before I did, if the right kind of man came along, and if I felt enough for him to marry, then I would. The same applies to him if I were to die first. I would want him to have the happiness and joy of marriage. I would not put any holds on him as to why he shouldn't grieve for me and then move on. He swears that there won't be any more after me-who knows?
2007-10-15 14:05:47 · answer #6 · answered by Special K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband died 6 months ago. Right now, I can't imagine being married to anyone else. That may be where it stays. I loved him very much and I can't see who could ever replace him. But, you never know. Things sometimes happen in a direction you hadn't thought.
2007-10-15 13:42:51 · answer #7 · answered by Simmi 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure. My husband is the nicest, most kindhearted man I've ever known besides my grandpa. I'm not sure there would ever be a guy could come close to him on any level. But it would depend on many things, and most of which I don't feel comfortable even thinking about.
2007-10-15 15:15:12 · answer #8 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good questions, it depends if you have kids and how old they are. I probably would not introduce a new woman in their life if they are young. I would want them to remember their mother. They would require more time and attention from the me and a new woman would cut into that time and they will resent her. Logically it won't work out. And emotionally it won't either, because the time I have spent with my wife are precious memories I don't want to erase.
2007-10-15 13:04:57 · answer #9 · answered by jimmy.parker06 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would want my husband to re marry if something happened to me but I also know that if something ever happened to my husband now that I could never replace him with anyone else EVER
2007-10-15 12:55:30 · answer #10 · answered by oh_jo123 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋