If I was with a man who did not want children. I would go out and get pregnant?

Question

anyway and if he did not like it. I would just say there is the door go through it. It is my body and I will choose what I do with it you have no say in the matter, it would make no difference if I was married or not. No one tells me what to do

Answer 1

Well that certainly makes for a happy child. Evidently it is all about you and no one else.

Answer 2

Then you surely shouldn't be married! Marriage is a 50/50 pull and you don't want to share. You want only what you want. That also says you aren't ready for the baby and perhaps this is the same a man would see when he said no to it.

In order to have a baby you need to be willing to give..........and alot!!!! A baby and a marriage both come with alot of expectation. If you want to rule your nest your way, I suggest you avoid either of these!! Quiet possibly everyone else too.

And hun, a heads up........someone can always tell us what to do somewhere. We ALL have rules. Be it parents, society, or the law.

PS> TO FELLOW READERS:

I have now, also read a few of Fiona's questions, and I don't find her to be an idiot, just very opinionated. Here you almost perceive her as an immature child, but unopn understanding her issue I now more see she is anger'd and bitter at men as it was a man who hurt her in the worst way a woman could be....Her children were taken from her. By a man. Apparently their father. He as she feels, I have no knowledge what happened or not, took her children from her and also kept her from seeing them. If a man had done this to me I cannot say I wouldn't be as bitter and angry as Fiona expresses. I am not saying she is right or wrong, I just get the feeling we all perceive her a different way than whats really here. As in I saw a child, when it appears she is around 50. Sometimes when we look past a person, we see an answer. Loosing your children is a horrible loss and I am quite sure one time does not heal. I don't think what I now see here is of an immature child but of a very hurt woman. I also have to say.....in some of her post and there are MANY, she appears to not be an idiot at all but perhaps a very smart, educated woman....... Hmm, maybe I misjudged her? Either way I definately look at the post different now. I do not know the reasons behind her case but I do know it definately hurts her.

Answer 3

We women sure do have all the glory huh? We can get pregnant, without the consent of our spouse/bf, and MAKE him become a father. We can abort, as our lesiure, and do just whatever we selfishly come up with.

You're a disgrace. This is terrible, and more like the rantings of a 13 y/o child than a woman mature enough to handle the responsibilities of motherhood. There is no question here either, btw. I'm sure your far enough along in your development to know how to form a question.

I read here once about a husband who had a vasectomy without his wife's knowledge. She was crushed, because though they'd said no more children, she was entertaining the idea and his snip ruined her selfish lil plot. I felt he was well within his rights, after all reproductive rights should also be afforded to men, as they help conceive.

sad sad sad, people so selfish they would bring a child into the world in this way and for this purpose.

Answer 4

Why was this not discussed before you were married. If you want to have children so bad why did you marry someone who does not want children. It seems to me that would have been one of the first things to discuss. Yes, you can go out and get pregnant, but that is cheating, and no doubt your husband will leave you. It seems to me if your marriage has reached this point you should end it, and then find a man who wants children and establish a relationship with him. It is your body and you can do as you please with it, but if you continue with that attitude you are setting yourself up for all kinds of problems, and will have a child who does not have much future to look forward to. Since no one can tell you what to do, why are you here asking a question? Go do what you want and see what kind of life you create for yourself and any children you may, unfortunately, have - it's your life, but once you have a child it will no longer be your life to do as you please because you will now have a child.

Answer 5

With this approach to life, you are only setting yourself for rejection and hurt.
You seem to think that standing up for oneself is to be able to do whatever the heck you want, but it's not true.
When people do that, it's Anarchy. That's why there are rules in place, to make sure people can live with each other; respect each other.
Being one's own person, is making one's own decision based on one's own belief; It's also taking responsibility for oneself and when being in charge, for others. it's not disregarding others and their wish. But it's being able to see for oneself what's right and wrong.
This attitude, will not lead you to happiness.
On the contrary.
If you say to someone that you love them, you'd have to not only say it, but mean it and show it, by talking to them, listening to them, and be ready to make compromises.
Love is not selfish.
Nobody never ever does what they want, not entirely.
Whether you want it or not, you have to take into account what others think, how your actions might affect others.
If you marry someone, the chances are, having children is a subject you would have talked about and agreed about.
If later on, you want some more when your husband doesn't and you still go ahead, then it is disrespectful and selfish.
At least, finish the relationship and do as you please, but you couldn't just go get pregnant and impose your unwanted child to your husband.
What do you expect the life would hold for that poor creature to come in a family where people are torn over its birth?
Your approach on life is lacking in maturity and sensibility.
You seem to be full of anger and resentment.
Try anger management and maybe, speak to a counsellor.

Answer 6

Ok you sound wayyy too selfish and immature to even be having children. When you've grown up maybe you should think about having a child. Tricking someone or getting pregnant on purpose when the other doesn't want a child is disgusting, what about the child - doesn't it have the right to be bought into the world by two parents who want and love it?

Answer 7

But I'd bet that after you showed him the door you would still expect the child support check to show up on time every month.

I pity the man that ever marries or makes a baby with a selfish ***** like you.

Answer 8

No, no, the door is open for you, you're the one who's not happy. If you plan on having a baby with someone else and not letting your man know, then you are low. If you are planning on him being a part of this baby, I don't think he will be, since he doesn't want children of his own, so chances are he won't care much for other man's children. I think your proud attitude reveals justification on your behalf. Just be honest and let him go.

Answer 9

You're obviously not that bright, but you've got some spunk!
If you really want a shot at being happy without making everybody else around you miserable in the process, look for a guy that wants a family to settle down with.
I'm not saying that you can't raise a child on your own, but it would be much more enjoyable for your child to have a dad actively participating in the entire process.
So at least wait for your child's sake, if not for your own!
Good luck!

Answer 10

Then let's hope you never get married, because marriage is a PARTNERSHIP, sweetie.

And if you're this selfish and self-centered, I really hope you never have kids, because being a parent is about SACRIFICE and it sure sounds like you have no clue what it means.

Edited - I went and re-read some of your earlier questions. If you're not a troll (and making all this up), then thank goodness they took your kids. You sound like a real winner and your ex and the kids are better off without you in their lives.

Answer 11

you are so not ready for marriage. "Its my body and no one tells me!" you sound like a child. when you marry someone you should have already discussed this once your married its not just your life its the life you share. In regards to children then its three lives not just you princess. If children are a deal breaker for you you dont get married to someone that doesnt want them end of story. love honor obey its what you commit to on your wedding day