What I've notice is that tons of people get divorces these days, but many of them get a divorce for really dumb reasons and for things that can be worked out. God doesn't want us wasting our lives away getting divorces with our spouses, when even some of the hardest things we can work out. I want to know why some of you are going to get a divorce, and do you truly think that this is the best way to resolve the situation that you're in with your spouse. Thanks to all of those that share with me their personal lives!
2007-10-15 14:28:53 · 9 answers · asked by Aneres 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Quoting: "even some of the hardest things we can work out."
This is true, but marriage takes the commitment of BOTH people in order to thrive. If one spouse absolutely refuses to give or put in any effort whatsoever into the marriage - it's pretty clear that no matter how much the other spouse gives, there can be no lasting (and equal) partnership.
Unfortunately, sometimes it's not until after getting married that these selfish qualities of a partner show their true colors.
My husband wants to divorce me, because he thinks that our marriage simply won't work because we fight too much. I have taken all the steps I can, from trying to get him to go to marriage counseling, to talking with friends, everything short of beating him over the head with a bat to make him see that he is not putting forth any effort to make our relationship work. I can't save my marriage by myself - and if my husband refuses to, then there's only one way left, and that's out.
2007-10-15 15:08:49 · answer #1 · answered by dreamin delux 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who says God has anything to do with everyone's marriage? Not ALL marriages involve "God" or religion. Not every person on this planet beleives in "God". Just because YOU do doesn't mean the rest of us have to. Nope I'm not PLANNING on getting a divorce, I got one...Why? Because my ex was emotionally/verbally/mentally abusive and his temper was getting out of control to where he was getting violent. That is a good enough reason for me to leave a man thank you very much...but if YOU would prefer to stay married to a man who would beat the crap out of you go right ahead I'm sure "God" would be proud.
2007-10-15 21:50:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I got a divorce 20 years ago because he was cheating. That is not something that I feel can be worked out. I was not going to live my life like that. My father was a cheater and that was not for me. I was not going to spend my life miserable because I deserve better than that and so did my children.
2007-10-15 21:55:10 · answer #3 · answered by kim h 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm currently going through a divorce myself, and there is nothing that can be done to work it out. I fell out of love with him. I knew this on the day of my wedding day, and I still married him, so that was my fault. You can't make your heart feel what isn't there. There are many reasons I fell out of love with him, both his fault and mine, but it's what right, and I know this because I'm actually following my heart this time.
2007-10-15 21:44:08 · answer #4 · answered by Hazy Daisy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ban Marriages altogether, and there won't be any divorces, however, the poor lawyers will soon starve! the Vicar, Lumocars, Caterers, Wedding dressmakers, Jewellers and the Liquor suppliers will all starve!
2007-10-15 21:33:45 · answer #5 · answered by secret society 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, I agree with you, but sometimes you just can't go any longer and you must think, did God join us or did we join ourselves? I just recently put my husband out because he thought that my money was good for spending and taking care of us, but now that I need him to step up his isn't and I was tired of it. We got married in 2005. There is much much more but that's the just of it. I believe he didn't want to admit he made a mistake.
2007-10-15 21:38:19 · answer #6 · answered by IWTK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think many people get divorced for dumb reasons.
It is a traumatic, painful thing to go through.
It is best not to judge others. As the saying goes, judge not, lest you be judged.
2007-10-15 21:34:21 · answer #7 · answered by maxmom 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
u shouldnt make assumptions tat arent true...divorces are allowed for a reason......my spouse wont change...people dun change easily....and u cant make em unless they really want to...i know tat..and yes this is the best way and i dont regret it.... i ve moved on..and im glad....i ve finally got a chance to be happy and im even happier being single rite now....
2007-10-15 22:48:56 · answer #8 · answered by Sony 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you forgot to mention one big fact
todays generation are selfish and weak
they do not want to work things out
they are self absorbed
so why indeed even get married
since 50% of them end in divorce anyways
2007-10-15 21:34:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋