Ive been married for 3 yrs, and ive got a daughter who is 18 months. My wife and i have stopped communicating and nit pick everyday!!. And we have not been sexually active since my daughter was born. What to do? Ive even thought of councilling.
2007-10-15 12:52:11 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
there is surely something wrong with your marriage. you and your wife shouldn't have gone this long without sex. have you tried talking to her?
2007-10-15 12:56:55 · answer #1 · answered by Virgo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A small child can bring extra stress to any marriage. If your daughter is 18 mos and you did not have sex for that long there is a lot of anger and steam that builds up on your marriage for awhile now.
Counseling (by a qualified marriage counselor) is a very good idea and maybe the only way now to get out of the habit of nit picking at each other.
Good luck
2007-10-15 19:59:42 · answer #2 · answered by The_last_Amazona 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A conversation with your wife is the place to start. Tell her that you still love her and were wondering if there was anything that you could do together to make your marriage better. Tell her you miss her.
You are not nit picking over the real issue. She probably feels alone, undesired and tired and scared. She may even have some depression.
I know the baby is 18 months old but that doesn't mean she isn't overwhelmed with everything right now.
2007-10-15 19:57:39 · answer #3 · answered by New England Babe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your going through a rough spot. First, try not to nit pik her. What ever she says to you, ignore it and try to be nice. Try to create a friendly atmosphere at home. A little effort can go a long way and maybe she'll back off a bit.
Try to be "intimate" maybe the lack of sex is contributing to the tension. Be patient, I'm sure you'll see results in time.
Marriage can take some work.
2007-10-15 19:59:10 · answer #4 · answered by Earl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Counselling is the best options. You have to learn to communicate with each other and try and make the marriage a little better, one step at a time. Remember you have a baby, you want to give the best upbringing possible.
Once you open up with each other, everything will fall in place.
2007-10-15 19:58:02 · answer #5 · answered by Romi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen, Your marriage will only be as good as you and your wife make it. Do not be afraid to go to a therapist. Marriage takes alot of work.
Look at the last 3 years as chapters in a book. I think you are a man who doesn't want to quit and openly admits he needs advice. Good for you.
2007-10-15 20:00:00 · answer #6 · answered by JOHN 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try counseling. You guys have to learn how to stop nit picking and get along and consider the others feelings.
2007-10-15 19:57:47 · answer #7 · answered by moonchild 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one can say for sure, but it might be the stress of having a child?
Definitely try counselling. Things do get difficult sometimes. Better to try and safe it now then later.
Good luck!
2007-10-15 19:56:26 · answer #8 · answered by cherie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say u try a counselor or just sit down with ur wife and talk out your feelings with her and see how exactly shes feeling in order to make your marriage last in the long run
2007-10-15 19:56:09 · answer #9 · answered by B Ran 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If either one of you is not happy...I would say that your marriage is not working...I think seeing a counselor would be a good start to getting your marriage back on track...
2007-10-15 19:59:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋