I have been in a relationship for 7 years (engaged for 5) and I know the inevitable split is coming. I would prefer to avoid it because I still love him but he isn't trying anymore. I work 6 days a week and go to school 4 days and have limited time to spend together but I always try to make the best of that time...but he isn't. He's out late almost every night, I don't like the friends he hangs out with, he never cares about anything that I do unless it interferes with his plans. We have so much together like bank accounts, pets and other things. Is it time to give up or is there a way that I can snag his *** back to acting like an adult who is in a relationship?
2007-10-15 10:14:35 · 9 answers · asked by Amanda D 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You have wasted 7 years, do you really want to waste another 7 on someone who has given up. I would try talking to him, maybe even counseling if he is receptive. However, you can't make someone love you.
2007-10-15 10:20:28 · answer #1 · answered by pennylanegal 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to have a talk with him and tell him how you feel. He might be avoiding you because you guys aren't the same anymore or maybe he feels like you've abandoned the relationship because of all your responsibilities. He may be looking to his friends for companionship.
2007-10-15 10:19:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, no. You can't make anyone be in love and you can't make anyone stay if they don't want to. I know that you're in love with him but I'd go ahead and start the process of breaking things off with him. Once you're not in his life anymore, maybe this will make him snap. He'll realize how much he misses you and took you for granted...maybe. Good luck.
2007-10-15 10:19:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try and work it out by confronting him on the problem is a good place to start, but yelling gets u no where. try and come to an agreement. or try and find out what he does when he goes out. ask him if you can come with when he goes out. nobody likes to be watched 24/7. u guys have history, but if he isn't interested in treating you well, then loose the dude.
2007-10-15 10:26:54 · answer #4 · answered by hot rod 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried talking to him? I assume you're asking what his "deal" is because you haven't. Take the first step.
Talk to him and figure out what is going on and work from there. It might be something simple or it could be a deal breaker, but you'll never know until you ask and try to find a solution.
2007-10-15 10:21:36 · answer #5 · answered by Brntte3078 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Amanda D, Sweety just move on, you can not truly change another person unless they feel the need to change ! You deserve a mature guy who is a gentleman !
2007-10-15 10:23:07 · answer #6 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You never got married so you had better start keeping track of your own money, like start another account with just you as signatory. If that doesn't wake him up, nothing will.
2007-10-15 10:20:06 · answer #7 · answered by Marcus R. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He may be too smart for you to "snag" him again.
2007-10-19 10:02:57 · answer #8 · answered by Miss Molly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's a guy.doesn't think of anyone but himself! LOL (not all of them are like that)
2007-10-15 10:18:06 · answer #9 · answered by 2good4u 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋