i broke-up with my boyfriend 9 days ago..and confronted him with matching a slap on his face 3 days ago..i felt great after that for i know he deserve more than that because he is a great cheater and a big *** liar..but why do i feel incomplete and even suffering from sleepless nights and nightmares of him?!?is this just normal or im getting nuts already?!?
2007-10-15 13:50:02 · 12 answers · asked by BLeSSeDaNGeL 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
how long will you be like this? that's up to you, let the anger go and move on with your life, there will be more pressing issues you will have to deal with, so you slapped him and confronted him(which him being an a s s gave you no right to put your hands on him, because i bet if he did that to you, you would have him sitting in a cell right now) but anyway, dont let him have anymore control over your emotions cause that's what it sounds like if you had to hit him and think he deserves more than just a slap..he may of been a jerk but i wouldnt waste any more time on him, life is just tooooo damn short ..good luck sweetie.
2007-10-15 13:57:27 · answer #1 · answered by sunshine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is normal for some and not for others. Your mind can not understand why he was so good that he became your boyfriend and then turned out to be the person which got his face slapped. Tell yourself that the good things you saw in him was all an act that he put on for you and what you saw in him when you slapped him was the real person. You may feel like it was your failure that caused the problems subconsciously, but find something to keep you occupied for a while and be glad that you found his faults now rather than after a marriage which would have ended the same way. Depending upon what he did and why you slapped him, he may be feeling worse than you are.
2007-10-15 14:07:55 · answer #2 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're not going nuts. You're in mouring. What so many people fail to realize that it doesn't matter if it was his fault, it doesn't matter if you broke it off with him, it doesn't even matter if you had every reason in the world - the point is, the relationship you cherished is over by one way or another, and you mourn that no matter what. You will continue to mourn this loss for a while. Don't doubt yourself. You are not mourning the loss of him, you are mourning the loss of a connection you thought you had. It will get better. Hang in there. Oh, and don't call him, don't see him, don't message him, no matter what, no matter how hard. It will only set you back.
2007-10-15 13:56:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
this is all quite normal really. your not going nuts, its all part of the grief cycle. your suffering from depression because u obviously loved this guy, and wanted a life and thought u had one. no one knows how long the grief process takes but i do know it is quite necessary in order to eventually move on. each person has their own time table when going through grief. the depth and duration of each experience is different for everyone. join a grief group and get to know others who have gone through this pain and u will see that eventually u will be able to reinvest in life and move on, but don't be in such a hurry to hurry it up, face the hurt head on, and realize it is normal when u loose someone u loved, even if they did not deserve your love.
2007-10-15 14:01:34 · answer #4 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This situation isn't the easiest one you'll ever have. The only thing you can do is find things to do to get your mind off of it. Go to a restaurant that has a bar in it with your female friends and have a margarita or two and have some laughs. Don't think about your ex bf at all for a while.
2007-10-15 13:54:14 · answer #5 · answered by Joe from WI 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
9 days ago - that is not time enough to even realize he is gone for good. Give yourself time and then get on with your life. Get back out into the world, see friends and realize how good you feel now that you are free
2007-10-15 13:57:34 · answer #6 · answered by mn lady 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It isn't normal, but you aren't nuts either. You just can't let go and move on. Reacting violently like you did is no way to get over someone. If you keep having trouble, see a therapist.
2007-10-15 13:56:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Everyone is different in their healing process
you had feelings for him and he hurt you
it is normal to feel the way you are feeling
It takes time admit you are hurting and
that he hurt you
you will look back on this as a lesson learned one day
2007-10-15 14:07:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its just an adjustment phase, move on to better things in your life, get into news that you wanted to do. Time heals everything, as you start a new exciting day.
2007-10-15 13:55:58 · answer #9 · answered by ej3dval1 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why waste even more time that you can't get back on him?
You already know he's a worthless, cheater just move on. Try to meet new people, become closer with your current friends, try harder in studies, like I said, just move on.
2007-10-15 13:53:29 · answer #10 · answered by Cassiopeia 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋