Is it unreasonable to want dinner waiting for me when I get home?

Question

I work full time & my husband is a student. In fact, he's in his last year , and herdest year of nursing school. He studies his butt off when he's not at school, which I of course want him to do so he can graduate. That being said, is it reasonable for me to expect dinner to be made when I get home from work? He's at school 3 days a week & even on those days he's home way before I am. Should I not be asking him to take away from his studying to cook dinner & cook it myself?

Answer 1

you can ask him 2 cook sometimes. you can prepare the meals in the morning or overnight by cutting up the meat, vegetables and asking him to do the actual cooking, so it does not seem you are forcing him to. even if he does not agree to cook ti will be easier for you.

Answer 2

I'm sorry but most of the answer's above are pathetic and 1 sided , isnt it amazing , if the guy's working 12 hours days and his wife is going to nursing school AND if she had kid's to look after the guy would expect and so would everyone in here that the wife cook , clean , do magic tricks because the GUY WORKS.....

But here you are workin your rear end off and he's home what 4 days out of 7 just studying ? I know what nurse's have to do during their training and I'm sorry this guy need's his rear end removed .It is not a hard thing for him to spend 15 mins cutting up vegetable's , I can prepare a meal for my 7 kids and myself in under 35 minutes and thats with us sitting down on the 35th minute and eating and that's healthy meals like chicken / fish and water vegetables or salad .So these people need to look at it from a realistic side.

You work all day you shouldnt have to cook period.

Answer 3

Not unreasonable..... but maybe not very realistic to hope for him to cook EVERYDAY....... He's not just lying around and being lazy so you can give him some credit, but it'd be the same if he was working already and you were too..... why would only ONE of you take responsibility for the house work?? It's something that should be shared equally between the 2 partners. Both are doing something for the household, both contribute to the house duties as well. One cooks, the other one does the dishes; one mops, the other one does the laundry... it's just fair. So it's not different now that he's home more time than you are, he can perfectly help you with dinner or with something else. Communication......... just tell him what you want, hear what he wants, and compromise..... he shouldn't have a problem with this.

Answer 4

Nursing school is tuff, but not more difficult than psychology, sociology, engineering, architecture, and on and on. Many, many people in all of the other courses of study find time to live and work and take care of their family.
You are being way too nice. Tell him to get off is lazy A S S and help out. He cannot devote that many hours to study. I completed a masters degree, worked full time, cooked dinner two or three days a week, mowed the lawn, helped clean the house, etc.
There is something wrong if he cannot budget his time better. I have no sympathy for him if he says he can't.

Answer 5

After going through nursing school myself I know how difficult it is. The studying time you have is never enough. He may be studying right up til the minute you come home so that he can spend more time with you.

You may find that if he stops studying to make dinner he has to go back to studying after dinner.

I know you work hard but since you say it is his last year maybe you can be patient just a little longer. When you get home he can stop studying and you can make dinner together. That is time spent together, sharing your days and it can be relaxing bonding this way.

Whatever you decide, good luck to you both.

Answer 6

I understand how u feel. I was working full time. My boyfriend was home not working and expected me to cook for him daily, clean everyday and do all the shopping. These men are living in the dark ages where they think women have to do everything. I think he should cook Monday to Friday and you should cook on the weekends. He doesnt have to prepare gourmet meals. He can make you grilled cheese or a bowl of soup. The point is he should be more considerate. He should start studying earlier so he has time to be more a part of the household and help cook!

Answer 7

I think he should cook full meals on the days he is not in school, and if he does house work then you should cook
quick or take out dinners on the other days. If he does not
do house work. He should do all of the cooking.

Answer 8

A student has a number of contact hours for study and for each contact hour, another two should be added for study. If this adds up to less than 38hrs a week, it would be nice if he cooked dinner. If it adds up to around 38hrs, share the cooking.

I work part time and my husband works full time, I have dinner cooked for him to make life easier and also to show appreciation to him for working more.

Answer 9

Why can't he cook for both of you... it will save time. What you could do is reach some sort of consensus. Lets say he cooks on workdays, so that you have dinner when you get home, and you cook on the weekend.
Oh, and if he's living on your expenses, you are right to expect something more from him - like cooking you dinner.

Answer 10

Dont' wait for it...LOL. When I was married I worked longer hours than my ex. I left for work an hour earlier and got home from work an hour later than he would. The minuite I got in the door, before I could put down my handbag and kick off my shoes I would hear..."What's for dinner and when will it be ready"...