my husband gets mad when i talk to my friends on the phone or even my family. He always complains if i go do anything with anyone besides him. Hes a truckdriver and he wants me to talk or text on the phone all the time when hes over the road. I dont wnt to sit on the phonelike that, but when i tell him that he says ,you dont care to talk on the phone with your mom or your friends. I dont even talk to my friends that much anymore since i been with him, is he controling?
2007-10-15 05:28:43 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He sounds very controlling. You have lost your friends and now you are losing touch with your family, I would suggest that you get into counseling, to see why you are allowing this to happen. If he is willing to inter into counseling with you there is a chance that your marriage can be saved. It seems to me that he has a fear of loosing you if you have lost contact with your friends and family. And he is pushing you farther away in his control. I hope that you either get out of this abusive marriage because the kind of control that he has over you is abusive as surly as if he had punched you. He is damaging your spirit, your self esteem. I hope that he will go to therapy with you.This control needs to stop!
2007-10-18 03:28:04 · answer #1 · answered by Pamela V 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Good, no offense, but that line: "in order that he can do what i want him to"... It looks as if you're seeking to control him. In regards to the work predicament, persons have dangerous days...Unhealthy things happen. The pleasant thing for you to do is to be sensitive about his emotions. For those who had a job and some thing dangerous happened and you got here residence upset, would you need your husband to inform you to recover from it? Folks get annoyed when they believe like they've a colossal difficulty and others disregard it as petty. And you have to understand that if he has to do your chores and it takes up his time then he has relatively of a proper to *****. And he desires to understand that you simply must go out with you acquaintances every so often. How you got here to the conclusion that your husband would not want you to have acquaintances appears just a little exaggerated. You are making him out to be a cynical individual. You each must be trained find out how to see each and every others' views considering correct now you're handiest focusing for your own...And that is egocentric.
2016-08-05 21:15:25 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not only controlling he is insecure. Try to reassure him that he can trust you. He probably feels like he is neglecting you when he is on the road and you will look for someone else to be there when he is not. Reassurance is the key, and cell phones batteries do die. Set a specific time of the day to talk to him routinely and only call if there is an emergency at any other time. Set boundaries. Just because he tries to control you doesn't mean you have to let him, he will respect you for it. Good Luck.
2007-10-15 05:38:49 · answer #3 · answered by Len 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he may be, but him wanting to talk to you on the phone all the time means more than likely there is no danger of an affair here..
He needs to learn to give you some space, find a level that is comfortable to both of you and go with it.
2007-10-15 05:33:28 · answer #4 · answered by I tell it like it is 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He is manipulating you, Sweetheart.
That's the "guilt trip" tactic.
The more you buy into it, the more he'll do it.
Find your switch, and TURN OFF the guilt gene.
When it ceases to bother you, you'll learn to go on with your life.
Let him know you have a LIFE to live and while you love to talk to him, you have to LIVE too.
Sounds like he's really jealous of you having any support whatsoever, whether from friends or family.
That's not good. YOU need to change that. I say YOU because he's NOT going to change, so the only thing you can do is change how YOU react to him.
2007-10-15 05:58:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, very. Maintain your relationships with your friends and family. Then, let him know that you will only answer his calls and call him when you feel like it. Tell him that being in love is about making each other happy, not terrorizing each other. If you stand for this, he may leave you anyway claiming that you were weak and you shouldn't let people control you. It is important to set boundaries and expect him to respect them.
2007-10-15 05:50:01 · answer #6 · answered by oh really 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is but maybe you just need to explain to him that you have other things to do sometimes. And compromise talk or text him as often as you can, but say I need to do some things now and will call you when I get back.
Marriage is about give and take so talk to him about it..
My wife wanted to go out and party until early hours in the morning when I had to get up early for work. Now we have a compromise, we do it when I have days off. At first she was unhappy about it but now says she is glad we worked it out and can see it was selfish for her to want to do that.
2007-10-15 05:37:16 · answer #7 · answered by PokerPlayer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No dearie, He is not.
We men have a very real need to be fawnd over and given attention.We need to feel like the most important thing in our womens' lives (surprise , surprise)...sadly most times, we find it hard to say these things.:(
Your husband just wants to feel number 1 on your priority list. He wants to know he is missed when on the road.
I suggest you read a book called "The five Love languages", you should read it together...it'll help you understand how to better make your man feel tops and vice versa
Love
2007-10-15 06:01:19 · answer #8 · answered by awon_eleyi_intl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is on the road go out with ur friends and after a way call him and talk but then make up something to get off the phone with him. If that was me i would leave him. but i hope u found a way to figer it out.
2007-10-15 05:37:45 · answer #9 · answered by crissy20062007@yahoo.com 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most definitely! And he's insecure because he's on the road all the time and can't control anything that happens back home because he can't be there physically.
2007-10-15 05:39:31 · answer #10 · answered by angeleyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋