I just want to know, even if you've never cheated how often do you check out other women and to what extent? Just thinking they are hot or thinking about having sex with them? Also, do you do it when your wife is around? If you had the chance to cheat with one of these women would you do so? Also do any of you not do it?
2007-10-15 04:25:49 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Of course I do. Honestly the best policy is to take your glance and move on. People notice "hot" people...whether you're a man or woman. Even a man will notice another "hot" man...of course in a much different respect than he would a woman. It's just human nature. I don't think it's healthy or respectful to stare or gawk or have sexual thoughts about the person, so a glance is really what I try to do.
2007-10-15 04:36:42 · answer #1 · answered by TB28 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I check them out every chance I get.
Since I have an art background, I not only think about other women being hot or having sex with them but also consider how they would look on film or in a painting.
Yes I do check out other women with my wife around but also I'm very discreet about it. As a general rule I try not to embarrass her. Keep in mind my wife and I have been together for 25 years and we don't have many secrets. Often she'll point out a woman that she thinks I'll like and ask my opinion of her.
If I had a chance? -probably not. I've had a few chances before but past on them. Wanting sex and having sex are two different things and I have a real good deal with my wife. She's not jealous, restrictive or smothering, why ruin a good thing for just a little extra on the side.
I do have several improbable sexual fantasies that my wife knows about. She said she'd give me a free pass if I succumb to temptation to any of these unlikely events. Of course I have better odds winning the lottery and at this point I might just turn that too, one of those grand gestures of love. Why not? -she deserves that and I know by now even my best fantasies aren't half as good as my real life.
2007-10-15 04:54:29 · answer #2 · answered by brianjames04 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just want to know, even if you've never cheated how often do you check out other women and to what extent? I "check out" other women every day of my life. By that, I mean that I look upon them with a sense of attraction, admiration, and/or lust.
Just thinking they are hot or thinking about having sex with them? For me, just thinking they are hot. However, I do accept that I seem to be a little unusual in that regard, because I know that a lot of men do think specifically of sex when they see attractive women. All I'm doing is enjoying the view -- sometimes, enjoying it very much.
Also, do you do it when your wife is around? Over the course of our 21 years of marriage, I have become much, much better at looking discreetly than I used to. I still look, albeit less when she is around, but I try to be careful about her feelings. Unfortunately, I had a relapse last year when we went on our cruise. I couldn't help it -- gorgeous girls in teeny, cute bikinis everywhere! I think I gained 10 lbs just from the eye candy. If we ever go on another cruise, I am going to invest in mirrored sunglasses so my wife can't see which way my eyes are looking!
If you had the chance to cheat with one of these women would you do so? No. Like I said, for me, it's all about the view.
2007-10-15 04:38:03 · answer #3 · answered by Happy-2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have to be 100% honest with you and say that yes indeed I do observe other females. I have looked at other attractive females in front of my wife and have mentioned that I find them attractive to her also. But I have to be truthful also and let you know that just last night we were watching an autobiography on this actor and I let my wife know that this fella was a very good looking man also. Certainly I have wondered what it would be like to spend a few hours with some of these ladies to spend some sexual time with them, but it is just imagination and would never ever follow through with these fantazies. If the opportunity was ever there to cheat on my wife would I do so, not in this lifetime. I am blessed with a loving and loyal woman who I would do anything for and the same is true also in reverse. Do I think this is normal, yes I do very much for both sexes. Is it dangerous, if it becomes obsesive I suppose it could be dangerous. But reality is that we as people are naturally attracted to people who are good looking in our eyes. And beauty is different to each of us. Some people are tuned on by big breasts, others by brilliant minds. So communication I suppose is most important and letting the other know how you feel.
2007-10-15 04:35:08 · answer #4 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how you define "checking them out". If I see a pretty girl I'm going to notice and think "what a pretty girl". No I don't stare, or even make it known that I have noticed. No I am not thinking about having sex with them, and no I would not cheat on my wife. If my wife is there I'm still going to see the pretty girl, and do so as discretely as I do when she isn't there.
The funny part actually comes when my wife & I go out and someone hits on one of us. The other just laughs it off because we both know that we are going home together at the end of the night.
2007-10-15 07:36:51 · answer #5 · answered by D D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I have been married for two years and he checks out other women all the time and does it in front of me. Sometimes he will ask me what I think about them. If I think they are hot or not. He even has me "check out" the ugly girls. My husband is very loyal and just because he got the chance to cheat he never would. Trust me, he has had pleanty of opportunities. Im a lucky lady. Its kind of a thing we do together and its fun!
2007-10-15 04:37:11 · answer #6 · answered by jenluvslife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, check them out all the time. When my wife is around I just do it discretely (otherwise it would be insulting to her). Think about having sex with them? Well, yea. I fantasize about being with them but would never actually do it. I've been happily married for 14 years and I feel like I have a normal sex drive. My wife is hot too, I check her out all the time. :)
2007-10-15 04:43:26 · answer #7 · answered by Dean 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and the extent of it depends on the strength of the marriage at that time. If ive been sex deprived for a week it may be a little longer in depth look. If Im knockin my wife on a daily basis and im happy I dont even look twice. best thing for a women worried about her man is to keep him empty. HInt Hint
2007-10-15 04:30:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I could never say that I do not notice how other women look. I like to see how beautiful they look.
My wife asked me why and I told her this. If I plant a flower garden on my property, does that mean that I no longer look at anyone else's flower garden?
I would never cheat on my wife and I would never want to. I have no desire to be with any other woman.
My wife sees that other men are attractive and she notices that other women are attractive, so why couldn't I notice the same.
Take care,
Troy
2007-10-15 04:45:04 · answer #9 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say it depends on a man's age and character. I believe both sexes are attracted to each other married or not. The question is how long or how far one allows one's thoughts to progress. Personally when I was married I turned off my thoughts when I started considering another woman over or in a place that my wife should occupy.
T4
2007-10-15 04:36:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋