Marriage & Divorce - 11 October 2007

My wife is waiting for me at home! Should I take her on the living room sofa, kitchen, or somewhere else?

2007-10-11 07:04:16 · 22 answers · asked by Julius4U 3

Note: I am very interested in hearing from people who have given someone 'space' and saved the relationship. We are currently seperated.

My wife says that getting back together is not out of the question but she needs time and space right now. I usually call her and text her everyday and tell her how much I love her and how much I want the marriage to work. This always seems to exasperate and annoy her.

Also, she plays online games and talks to other men. Sometimes I call and ask a million questions about that. Still, we are physcially separated. Can someone tell my why "giving her space" (i.e. NO CONTACT) would be a good thing here? In my mind, it just increases the void between us.

2007-10-11 06:56:36 · 24 answers · asked by screenwriter_usa 1

having only been married 5 years, and who brought nothing financially to the table. Linda will be rolling in her grave.

Your views??????????????

2007-10-11 06:54:07 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous

ok my mom and dad are always fighting especially since my dad lost his job and my mom is the only one working. but my dad hasn't even got up to go get a job or try to go looking. my mom is sick of it and wants to do something about it but i am truly scared about the ending result. i am only 15 and this will be her second divorce if it happens. i love my step-dad but i don't like it when they fight and he is always yelling at me and my brothers for no reason and he has cheated on my mom. please help me to see if i can get themto stay together or help them in some way.

2007-10-11 06:49:41 · 11 answers · asked by Kylee B 1

At that time, we were separated, since he was cheating on me with several women. He asked to come back home. I did under the agreement that we'll work things out. I gave him each month money for the mortgage payment, then he asked his parent for some money. He asked me for some money too, for a bussiness trip. I agreed and told him then, to considered it an advance for next month's mortgage payment. He left and for more than 2 months I didn't know his whereabouts.I went into deppresion, but forced myself to keep going...Then, I found out, early Sep, than the house was on foreclosure. I must move out around 22 of this month. That day would be our 14th anniversary. Early, this month, me and my little daugher went to the beach, and I made a promise to myself, that I'll forget him, never look back and move on. It was so emotional...Now, I'm looking for a new place, and out of the blue, I got an offline IM from him, that he wants to talk. Am I right to not want to?

2007-10-11 06:47:19 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous

My wife is 4 months pregnant and has brought up the idea of possiably using the backdoor to get in to her house ... (if you know what I mean) Since the door has always been labeled exit only makes me wonder if i should try slipping through the door . Shes says she is always ready for anything now..... I'm having trouble keeping up with her. I'm wondering if this door is breached if there will ever be any closing it?? Ladies any thoughts???

2007-10-11 06:47:06 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous

I did a lot of reasearch and found her a good new position- but she point blank refusedy. I pointed out it would allow her to finish far quicker, everything would be much closer, she'd be less tired and far more fulfilled- but no. I even said she'd now be able to bring her girlfriends round for some fun- one of them could even swap roles if wife was keen. Again no.
Any ideas why she's so tied to her job?

2007-10-11 06:44:45 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-11 06:41:59 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have had a bad past with relationships meaning I always fall for men that are nice at first then turn out to be controlling and male pigs after a while and now that I am with someone that doesnt act like that and always tells me that he is all about me, why can I not believe him when he is telling me that when he sees other women that he is not thinking nothing about them like she is hot, and such.. he just sees them and thats it.. what can i do to relax and trust him.. I really need some help.. thank you..

2007-10-11 06:38:56 · 15 answers · asked by Please help... 1

We are both previously married and divorced. he is 41 I am 38. I love him more than I knew was possible and he feels the same way. He spends the night 2-3 times per week. I am in a situation where I will be losing my room mate in Dec. Do you think it is to early to ask him to move in?

2007-10-11 06:36:08 · 15 answers · asked by glbenner 4

What do you do to keep yourself busy when you just ended a 5 year relationship and one year of marriage? You move back to your parents and try to rebuild your life. Please give me some ideas.

2007-10-11 06:32:30 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

I AM A 25 YEARS OLD GUY AND WHOM I WANT TO GET MERRIED IS 17 YEARS OLD AND NOW THE CIRCUMSTANCES R NOT IN OUR FAVOUR.PLZ TELL ME CAN WE MARRY OR NOT WHAT IS THE RIGHT AGE FOR GETTING MERRIED?CAN WE MARRY WHEN SHE IS 17 YEARS OLD?IF YES THEN PLZ TELL ME THE PROCEDURE OF COURT MARRIAGE.

2007-10-11 06:32:19 · 5 answers · asked by ARN 1

2007-10-11 06:27:17 · 6 answers · asked by ☆miss☆ 3

Tomorrow is my daughter's 4th birthday and I want it to go over well. Although I have to work, I am sending in party favors and cupcakes for her daycare class to celebrate with and then I am taking her out to dinner with my family to celebrate. My ex-husband wants to either stop by my home before I go out to dinner and give her the gifts he bought her or stop by where we are having dinner to do it but I really don't want to see him. I know it is selfish but already this week he never showed up to pick her up at our meeting spot (claimed to have but that was about a half an hour after I was to be at work) and then when he eventually called never even offered to come pick her up ( I ended up taking the day off to spend with her bc I didn't want her to be dropped off at daycare after thinking she was spending the day with him so I spent it with her) and also bc it is very awkward bc well he will most likely be stopping by with his gf who I have found out he is cheating on...

2007-10-11 06:25:09 · 8 answers · asked by serenity113001 6

we were married for 13 years her mother was living with us the whole time andit drove me crazy.in the end her mother said she would back my wife up right or wrong and that was the final straw there was a blow up argument and they told me to leave tha house. i have a gfriend but i miss my family very much what should i do

2007-10-11 06:22:49 · 11 answers · asked by Rob J 1

Me and my wife have been together for 8 yrs. For most of them we had sex 2-3 times a day (on average). But since the birth of our son (19 months), it has been 2-3 times a month. I already do all the nice stuff (because I want to), so answers like "clean", "compliment", "back rubs", etc. will not work, she won't even let me give her back rubs anymore. Also, oral is a problem now, she used to do it fairly often, but in the past year in a half, it's been 1 time, and that 1 time was really quick and had no love in it. If someone could please help, anything that can get her going. Thank you.

2007-10-11 06:19:08 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ok.
We have been married 3 years and have a 2 1/2 year old.
Kinda hard to go do stuff that's fun like dating and hobbies.
Anyway, not a problem for my husband. He always finds a way to have fun. He has a lot of friends and goes to watch football at a bar all day on sundays. He'll go camping and out with his friends.
I don't do that much. I don't really have many friends. I'm more of a homebody. That's my choice.
HOWEVER, I may want to go out about once every 6 months. like last night I went out for my sister's bday. My husband gave me a curfew and we got into a big fight over it. He didn't even want me to go. ANd, this morning he didn't even ask how it went. HE totally ignored me. So, I said aren't you gonna ask if I had fun? he said no. I said you don't care. He said no.
SO, my question is why is he such a jerk about it? Shouldn't he want me to have fun and enjoy myself since I never do. I mean I ask if his team won, and who was there and I listen to everything he has to say.

2007-10-11 06:17:48 · 41 answers · asked by ☆miss☆ 3

I dont shack up and all that I decided that men think why buy the cow when they can have the milk for free... Do you think Im doing the right thing???

2007-10-11 06:16:10 · 10 answers · asked by londonwprincess 2

After my wife and I had a two week split in January, I went back to her, because there was change in both of us. After about a month she started back to her old ways of complaining about everything. I go to work, come home, cook diner and check the kids homework. Here complaining got worse and worse over the next six months. It got to the point of her hitting me and pulling my hair just because I was smoking. She knew I smoked since we were dating. She then throws me out. So I left. And now she is blowing up my phone begging me back. When I say give me time, she yells and screams, and says stuff about me easly being replaced. Its not easy leaving a four year relationship, but should I go back to her even though I know it's going to go back to the yelling and screaming? Thanks

2007-10-11 06:09:48 · 15 answers · asked by moto1361 2

Well, I'm boring....My marriage is suffering because of this! I love my husband I don't want to get divorce. He has friends.(women) He likes to talk with them ...better than with me!! I have maybe1 or 2 friends. All my friends are in other country I don't like to try new stuff. But I want to change. What do I do? How I start?

2007-10-11 06:05:04 · 49 answers · asked by NELP G 3

2007-10-11 06:04:04 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

she has two kids the place is three bed room. she has 1 dog and 7 bunnys. I have 1 kid and 1 dog. Help what should I do. NEED TO KNOW ASAP

2007-10-11 06:01:54 · 18 answers · asked by C F 1

My boyfriend and I have dated for over 5 years now. We started dating in high school and dated through college. I graduated this past May and he graduates this December. We did kind of live together; we shared a four bedroom house for three years with other roommates but had separate bedrooms in college. Since graduation I have gotten a job and am living by myself. We did great sharing a house together and worked through a lot of big issues (money in particular). I wanted to live on my own for myself; something I never wanted to look back on and say I didn't do.

We've now hit a crossroads; do we move in together once he gets a job this January? Do we get engaged first? Is 23 too young to be engaged? Should we just keep living separate for another year or so? We both always wanted to get married at 25, but its starting to feel like we're being absurd discounting getting married at 24 for the sake of being married at 25. Any advice? Thank you all for any help you can give!

2007-10-11 06:00:57 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I have been married for 5 years. No kids involved. After the first year of marriage, he started to act weird, avoiding sex with me, always with a headache or complaining about pain. We always talk about this subject and he says he just don't enjoy having sex. He said it was like that with his ex-girlfriends too. He gets all mad when we talk about it, sometimes being rude and showing dangerous behavior. In the other hand, he is my best friend, supportive and loving husband. I am lost :( Please help.

2007-10-11 05:55:33 · 23 answers · asked by LLN Babe 1

put up with in my relationship.
been married over 4 yrs, together over 5. Things were great in the beginning but have deteriated over time. I feel no support, get no support either emotional, mental or physical (financial)
I more than "earn my keep" around the house as I do everything here, I am the housekeeper, laundress, gardener, cook, secretary, security guard and organizer of his life. In return I get a roof over my head, thrift store clothes and money to buy groceries so I can cook dinner for him every night. I am left alone all day, cannot afford to go anywhere as I get no money to spend on myself. I dont have friends, the ones I had before I got married are afraid to come down to where I live now (city with crime). I am studying for a degree now and hope that I can get work after I am done. The husband ignores me for the most part, unless he needs me to do something for him and that is depressing. I feel used, abused and taken advantage of. Problem? I still love him!

2007-10-11 05:53:14 · 10 answers · asked by flyingdove 4

So the guy im inlove with says to me I don't know why this is so hard for me to say to you but your ...your beautiful, ok well the truth is your drop down gorgeous ..then he says I don't telling you that because im sure you hear it all the time and I don't want to sound like a broken record. This is what struck weird..he then goes to say instead of saying your the most beautiful I have seen which I know is not true but you know how guys are..instead he said your the most beautiful girl who has ever looked at me. Is that odd? He says things like you make me feel special , I feel important when your around,I love the fact that you want to be with me and touch me, you care about me like no one else does..he says all that but hardly says how he feels about me..He also said he likes bringing to places and around his friends to say hey I got "her"....it all seems to be about how I make him feel about himself..is this striking anyone else as odd?Or am I just thinking too much?

2007-10-11 05:46:36 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-11 05:42:16 · 7 answers · asked by DaughterOfZion 1

IN AUGUST OF THIS YEAR MY EX WAS ORDERED TO PAY CHILD SUPPORT..IT'S OCTOBER NOW AND STILL NO MONEY...I KNOW HE IS WORKING AND HE SAIS THAT THE MONEY WILL BE DEDUCTED FROM HIS PAY CHECK AUTOMATICALY...ANYBODY KNOWS HOW THIS THINGS WORK ?
thank you

2007-10-11 05:32:12 · 14 answers · asked by Juliet 5

She left and is now living at her 18 year old fiance's parents house. These parents let her stay at their house with their 17 year old high school kid overnight and buys him alcohol. He also has an arrest record and wanted to be a police officer but was dropped from the police academy when they found out he had an arrest record. Neither her or her fiance have a job that could support them but they are getting married anyway and he is going to join the military to support them.

She says she doesn't need her parents anymore and hasn't included us at all in any wedding plans and had me drop her from all insurance and even decided she didn't need scholarship money that she would have gotten from my work... "I will go to school free once I am married and my husband is in the military as a enlisted man" "We need ot get married because I had an auto accident and we realized I need insurance"

Since when is it ok to let your kids shack up with the opposite sex in your house?

2007-10-11 05:27:19 · 18 answers · asked by frogman_007_2000 2

All together now : "I don't care too much for money , money can't buy me love"

2007-10-11 05:26:50 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous