Me and my wife have been together for 8 yrs. For most of them we had sex 2-3 times a day (on average). But since the birth of our son (19 months), it has been 2-3 times a month. I already do all the nice stuff (because I want to), so answers like "clean", "compliment", "back rubs", etc. will not work, she won't even let me give her back rubs anymore. Also, oral is a problem now, she used to do it fairly often, but in the past year in a half, it's been 1 time, and that 1 time was really quick and had no love in it. If someone could please help, anything that can get her going. Thank you.
2007-10-11 06:19:08 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
take her to go shopping....lol
sorry to hear that.. I never had problem after I had kids.. I love sex all the time.. never refused my hubby's needs..
good luck!!!
2007-10-11 06:27:43 · answer #1 · answered by back2future 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I kinda had the same problem after the birth of my daughter. I was tired all the time. So you dont want to hear clean or cook, but those are usually the ones.
Send the baby to the grandparents...or some other relative or friend for the weekend. Do the whole romance thing.
Breakfast in bed, watch sappy movies, hug and kiss a lot. Go on a walk. Give her oral sex to remind her of how she used to do it for you. Be real relaxed. Let it flow. Get some wine, soft music, candles. Buy her some lingerie. Cook dinner. Take her out of her element of the home. Get a nice hotel not a cheap one with a jacuzzi tub. Put some powdered milk, rose petals and some light oil in the tub.
Talk about things that you used to talk about before the kids. Tell her she should have a girls night every week. I go out with friends on Friday and that usually leaves me really horny for the weekend. I get the companionship of my girls and the loving from my man.
Try it.
2007-10-11 13:39:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Slip some Viagra into her food.
Tiny amount of testosterone will work well too- don't overdo-it cause she'll end up with a willy.
As for foods- these work:
ginseng
chilli
cinnamon
But to really romance her and get her running- I'd recommend champagne and chocolate with ginseng slivers hidden in the choccies or viagra mixed into the champers.
Hey- we men have to be a tad cunning at times.
Here's a 'cock'tail for ye:
50 cl of White Dry wine
25 cl of cognac
Vanilla (a pod - not vanilla essence)
25 grams of cinnamon (in sticks)
35 grams of fresh ginger (grated)
2 tablespoonful of liquid honey
1 egg yolk
Preparation
Grate 35 grams of ginger root (fresh)
Put the vanilla pod, cinnamon and the ginger in the white wine and let macerate 2 days
The day of its consumption, pour the cognac, the egg yolk and liquid honey in a container
Mix vigorously until dissolution of honey
Then put this mixture with the white wine
Filter the preparation
To drink 30 minutes before your evening in love.
Hope it works
2007-10-11 13:32:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋
real effort.
ask her about her day, dreams , hopes...... and care enough to listen.
wink at her
send her one flower....
tease her...
high school date. Run have fun no expectations kind of crazy night out
making me feel like I matter is all it takes.... call her princess
look amazed when she walks by.
get her a beer...lol.
seriously forget all the romantic crap because we KNOW what you are doing! We know why you are doing it..... so be real........make her feel wanted and important.
2007-10-11 13:26:40 · answer #4 · answered by jailie 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to parenthood!!!
However, I would recommend reverse psychology. You need to get her to miss you. Get a hobby or something that takes up your time and she will be quick to use sex to make you focus on her.
2007-10-11 13:31:17 · answer #5 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly.. kids change everything, especially for a mom...
2007-10-11 13:30:23 · answer #6 · answered by wenwen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
show her a large amount of money. that always does it
2007-10-11 13:23:25 · answer #7 · answered by BT_HMS is my messenger id 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋