After my wife and I had a two week split in January, I went back to her, because there was change in both of us. After about a month she started back to her old ways of complaining about everything. I go to work, come home, cook diner and check the kids homework. Here complaining got worse and worse over the next six months. It got to the point of her hitting me and pulling my hair just because I was smoking. She knew I smoked since we were dating. She then throws me out. So I left. And now she is blowing up my phone begging me back. When I say give me time, she yells and screams, and says stuff about me easly being replaced. Its not easy leaving a four year relationship, but should I go back to her even though I know it's going to go back to the yelling and screaming? Thanks
2007-10-11 06:09:48 · 15 answers · asked by moto1361 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Two weeks is not enough time for anyone to make a major change in their life, so your little separation in January, didn't help anything.
If your wife is abusive, call the police. Domestic violence is a crime. Maybe she needs to learn the hard way?
And may i ask: WHY are you putting up with an abusive woman? Yelling and screaming are just as abusive as hitting and pulling hair.
Yes you can probably be easily replaced, by someone else who puts up with abuse. WHY BOTHER!???
You are not taking care of yourself at all, but rather letting her moods and craziness dictate your life.
Maybe she could start counseling. If she does, give her 6-8 months of weekly counseling sessions before you make any decision to go back... she has to be CONSISTENT with counseling and WORK the program in order for any change to take place. And no one changes when they don't want to.
Take care of YOU...
2007-10-11 06:16:09 · answer #1 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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After my wife and I had a two week split in January, I went back to her, because there was change in both of us. After about a month she started back to her old ways of complaining about everything. I go to work, come home, cook diner and check the kids homework. Here complaining got worse and...
2015-08-18 06:01:11 · answer #2 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard when you love someone, and you could eventually go back, but for now, make her think you're done. Her talking about you being replaced is her way of trying to pull you back in quicker; ignore it. If she actually does it then you know what to do for sure!
Have you considered that she might be going through depression on top of being a bit bipolar? That's what it sounds like from a friend of mine whos wife was the same way.
Have her go see someone for herself. It might offend her but tell her you only suggest it because you want things to work and they clearly won't work like this. And also, you guys have children - they don't need to be subject to that.
Hope I've helped...
2007-10-11 06:16:16 · answer #3 · answered by shellj_foxy 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You both need to be adults and have a serious heart to heart conversation. Both of you need to rationally tell the other one what bothers you and what you are struggling with.
If you can't do it on your own you need to go to a good marriage councilor TOGETHER. If you go to a church. Sometimes they even do consulting for free. It takes 2 to tango, so try not to blame her for everything. Be a man and accept some responsibility.
Divorce is the last option. Try your hardest to work it out first.
2007-10-11 06:23:13 · answer #4 · answered by Kim 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
before you go back, you need to get some counseling to see if that helps but you should not have to work, cook dinner and all without her doing at least some of that. It may be that she has trust issues or a low self esteem and the counseling should help with both of those things. Hope you can work this out for the kids sake but if not, the fact that she was physically abusive to you may mean that you should throw her out and file for custody unless she goes to counseling and gets herself back together.
2007-10-11 06:18:57 · answer #5 · answered by Al B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's a ******. She's like Eyore on those "Winnie the Pooh" movies on a fair day, right?
Attitude: it can take up to 2 years to determine what a person's attitude is when dating them if you are looking for red flags, and then if you marry them anyway, well...I guess you like that sort of thing.
How long did you date?
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2015-02-09 06:30:07 · answer #7 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You donnot seem to be in control of this marriage and you're not standing up to her and being a man. If it was bad before and you left and went back and it was bad again....what makes you think its going to change. You have to both want to make a change and she doesn't seem to want to. Why be miserable in a relationship? You can do bad by yourself and will probably be better off.
2007-10-11 06:17:50 · answer #8 · answered by concernone 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No!! Not unless you get some marriage counseling and she goes to the doctor to see if she has a hormonal imbalance. No one should tolerate emotional and physical abuse and if she does this to you I would be carefull about my own children here. She needs to control her anger issues and get help. I would never stay with someone that has no respect for me. You either forgive someone in a relationship and move on or you do not.
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2015-02-09 05:50:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋