Well, I'm boring....My marriage is suffering because of this! I love my husband I don't want to get divorce. He has friends.(women) He likes to talk with them ...better than with me!! I have maybe1 or 2 friends. All my friends are in other country I don't like to try new stuff. But I want to change. What do I do? How I start?
2007-10-11 06:05:04 · 49 answers · asked by NELP G 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hey, first of all I should start by saying he should love you for you... you can't just BE funny - it will seem to - strained. Interesting? well, maybe just read the paper, so you have some stuff to talk about with him. Try new stuff... well, I know you said you don't like to - but maybe start small. Maybe try a new restaurant for lunch, or go home a different way, and tell him about it. Go into a new store that you never saw... It's really hard to just change. It's what you are to be who you are, not someone he wants you to be. Don't say you're boring! What are your interests, hobbies... what would you like to do, if you had no boundries? If you had a weekend to yourself, what would you like to do? start from there in finding things interesting to do, and talk about...... good luck! and I'm sure you are a wonderful, interesting person right now!!!
2007-10-11 06:10:41 · answer #1 · answered by wfhlembo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So does your husband hangout with more women or men friends? I think that is part of your problem. Don't give him a reason to look outside your home. Take the bull by the horns and ride that SOB.
With that said, did you know your husband before you got married? I mean, he knew what he was getting into right? I don't think you really need to change for him, he may need to change for you. Maybe if he communicated more with you, you could do stuff together. That's what I would suggest. Do things together. Try some of the things he likes to do with other women. Just don't invite any of those women into your bedroom. Unless you are into that kind of thing.
2007-10-11 06:09:22 · answer #2 · answered by Scarecrow 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunaly, they don't sell funny pills, so you have to do some homework.
Being fun is a big part of a relationship. Think outside the box and be adventorous, Lossing up a little. It's ok to have a a glass of wine, go out and try something different, it's ok to go to a resturant when you have food in the house and make love somewhere else outside yoru bedroom or you house.
Spice things up by trying diffrent things, go to an amusmet park, a karaoke bar, a novelty store. Do things that you will normally don;t do with yoru partner. Get jokes from the internet and text them to his phone.
Good luck
2007-10-11 06:10:09 · answer #3 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never heard of any marriage vows that said you had to love, honour and amuse! Seriously, though, why do you think you're boring? Does your husband say that, or does he make you feel that? That's really not fair, especially if English is not your first language.
Does he want you to be 'funny' (do and say things to make him laugh at you, be like a comedian) or does he say that he wants you to be more 'fun' (relax and spend time together doing things that are enjoyable and pleasant). There's a big difference in meaning.
It's reasonable to want to have fun with your husband or wife, but your husband needs to help you with this. If you're feeling lonely and insecure, in a foreign country, with a man who makes it clear that he has more fun with other women than with you, then of course you won't BE any fun because you don't HAVE any fun.
When you start to have some fun, then you will be more fun, and it's up to your husband to help you to have fun. And, by the way, anything that you don't feel happy doing, or anything that makes you feel uncomfortable, is NOT fun.
If your husband is a good man he will never try to make you have 'fun' doing something that you don't want to do, or anything that is against your moral or ethical beliefs..
2007-10-11 06:27:06 · answer #4 · answered by bernieszu 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes humor is very important in a relationship or marriage..start conversations with him get to know what makes him laugh, talk more then when you get comfortable more humor will come that is very important, my husband was a little boring but he is much better when sing together on trips he calls leaves messages, we talk nasty to each other so that helps alot you dont want these other women to have your husbands attention. Work on yourself try to find friends where you leave ones you can try to trust. Good luck!
2007-10-11 06:15:50 · answer #5 · answered by hershey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women aren't very funny by nature. I'm sorry, ladies. Whether it's from evolution or from intelligent design, when it comes to humor -- women are all about being entertained by men, as opposed to entertaining men.
Face it.. Not that many stand up comedians are women. There's a few, sure. But it is dominated by men.
Why is that? Women don't need to be funny. They have breasts, hips, and a nice round butt. Men don't have these beautiful things; so they have had to rely on other mechanisms in order be attractive to women. Like being clever and funny.
Better to find another route than being funny. Try being unpredictable. And less talkative at the same time. your words carry more weight if you don't say as many of them.
But if you must be funny; watch the comedy channel as much as you can; and you can at least parrot the jokes you've heard on TV.
2007-10-11 06:14:50 · answer #6 · answered by LuckyLavs 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
LOL. I think you asking is funny. You seem like a good person how to be a funny person is hard. most males accomplish this by being retards. My husband and I always are laughing with each other I dont know why we just enjoy each other and tease the hell out of one another. Maybe he means he wants you to be more fun ? Try going out to am amusement park or watch a funny movie.
2007-10-11 06:09:09 · answer #7 · answered by What Up! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start off with trying to know a little bit about the things that interest him and his work. You do not need to be a pro just enough information so that you can have a good conversation. Ask him questions etc... Men like to show off their knowlege and love to talk about themselves. Ask him about his youth, tenn years and adult life .... Ask him to show you how to do some of the things that he likes to do. Not everything but some things that might be a little fun for you to do with him. Be his buddy too.
Be more fun and the humor will fall in place.
2007-10-11 06:11:48 · answer #8 · answered by orcarius 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be suspicious of anyone who wants you to be someone you are not. Your husband married you the way you are, what is all of the sudden different that he wants you to be different. I would think that if you changed your personality to fit what he wants, where will it end? Will he then require that you change the color of your hair? Will he want you to wear clothes you are uncomfortable in? This doesn't make sense. It sounds like you and your husband need to sit down together and figure out what is going on.
2007-10-11 06:14:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Funny - like a clown? I think you should read some books, or maybe get some hobby, then you will have something to talk about. Learn how to talk lightly, to tell about something in 10-12 sentences, so as not to overburden the hearers, but most - learn how to listen.
I bet your husband does not bother a bit about your talking, he wants to hear himself talk. He is just boring and does not know how to start. Read an article or something on something he likes to talk about, retell it to him concisely, and then be ready to listen and exclaim: oh! yes! You are so smart! Wow. Don't tell me! And you will become funny as well.
2007-10-11 06:12:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋