we were married for 13 years her mother was living with us the whole time andit drove me crazy.in the end her mother said she would back my wife up right or wrong and that was the final straw there was a blow up argument and they told me to leave tha house. i have a gfriend but i miss my family very much what should i do
2007-10-11 06:22:49 · 11 answers · asked by Rob J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First, I can't even imagine a mother in law living with you or anyone for 13 years. She needs to have her own place, so the two of you can visit.
Second, you obviously love your wife, so it's time the two of you had a serious talk without mama around. This is your life, not the MIL's life. It doesn't mean you're totally deserting good ole mom, she just doesn't need to be in the middle of your life. If your wife can not understand that, then I'm not sure there is any hope....but you need to have a serious heart to heart talk and see if you can work this out.
2007-10-11 06:40:26 · answer #1 · answered by LAL 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very natural to miss your family after being married for 13 years. Your mother in law was probably no help in the issues in your marriage leading up to this blow out. Your current girlfriend is not going to replace your family, that's a given. But remember 4 months isn't going to heal as big of a wound as leaving a marriage is. If you think that you and your wife have a real chance, try to work it out with a mediator (not your mother in law). If not, go to counseling yourself to help heal. If you and the girlfriend don't work out just let her know the truth. You really need to take care of you and your needs, and if you have kids, their needs, to make it through this tough time. But you can and will if you take the proper steps. Best wishes.
2007-10-11 06:39:48 · answer #2 · answered by lavendercat84 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need some counseling for yourself and should see if your wife wants to save the marriage enough to go as well. If she doesn't want to do that, the marriage is over and you need to file for the divorce so that you can talk about the matter of visitation but that also means that you will have to pay child support for any children. After 13 years though, if the marriage was good, she may agree to the counseling and you will hopefully be able to work thing out. Good Luck!!
2007-10-11 06:40:16 · answer #3 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you let your mother in law live with you???? Is she an invalid? Throw Mama from the Train and Drop the Girlfriend and work on your Marriage.....
Son in Law and Mom in Law are two selfish people......wife caught in the middle of these two people who say they love her......
Look at this way she is like a mouse caught in a trap.....if you both don't grow up and start acting like adults the love that she has for the both of you will turn into RESENTMENT and bitterness.
2007-10-11 06:28:14 · answer #4 · answered by Been There Done That 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow after 13 years of marriage you wasted no time finding a girlfriend. I would dump the girlfriend and find time for yourself. If you missed the family that much why did you get a girlfriend? Have you talked to your wife about things?
2007-10-11 06:29:22 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you have a girl friend and you miss your wife?
your an @$$#0LE..
leave your girlfriend ..or kill her ...
go to your wife.. kneel down.. and beg her back..
talk to her about what you also feel about the mother thing..
and plan something for the mother like putting her mother someplace she likes.. like the sister of her mother, or her mothers hometown..
just tell her you love your family.. and that.. you want to be the MAN IN THE HOUSE.
and your mother-in-law should respect the fact that you are her husband. and you are the head of the family..
tell your wife her mother is pressuring you and is a pain in the *** for you..
and tell her your not comfortable with it and tell her what if you also let your mom live with you also, what would she feel..
2007-10-11 06:42:03 · answer #6 · answered by spontaneous 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go to court and ask for an order to see your children. You do not need a lawyer to do that. As a father, you have rights. You should have seen a marriage counselor before it got so bad.
2007-10-11 06:30:45 · answer #7 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try everything in the world to make it right with your wife. Go to counseling.
2007-10-11 06:27:58 · answer #8 · answered by kaybaby200688 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a girlfriend after 4 months, you don't miss your wife that much. Sorry I don't buy it.
2007-10-11 06:33:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
First mama needs to get her nose out of yours and her business. Then you two need to have a talk.
2007-10-11 06:29:15 · answer #10 · answered by Ashley 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋