We are both previously married and divorced. he is 41 I am 38. I love him more than I knew was possible and he feels the same way. He spends the night 2-3 times per week. I am in a situation where I will be losing my room mate in Dec. Do you think it is to early to ask him to move in?
2007-10-11 06:36:08 · 15 answers · asked by glbenner 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
first, make sure it's not just because you need to replace your room mate. second, make sure you and he are on the same page where your future is concerned - and that means everything, marriage, money, family, etc.
as long as you and he agree and are headed towards a life together, who's to say what is too soon? my parents dated 6 weeks then got married - and they've been together 25 years! it's different for everyone, but i think that the two of you are mature enough to know where you stand in life and with each other. talk about it, and make a decision together. if he feels it is too soon, don't be upset. it's his right to take more time if he needs it.
2007-10-11 06:44:23 · answer #1 · answered by hh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say it is too soon. Much harder to end things. Have him semi-move in, so he is around the house a lot so you learn his habits. Staying over for sex is not the same as having him have his stuff there and helping with work etc. You might try a tad of that. Plus your relationship is still pretty new. There is always the chance (post-divorce syndrome) that are feeling a need for companionship and security and are moving too quickly on this one.
2007-10-11 06:43:47 · answer #2 · answered by Wolfithius 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is definitely not too early. Make sure you are doing this though because you feel it is the next step in your relationship and that it is not where he is just the easiest replacement for your roommate. My wife and I moved in together at about 8 months. I don't think we would've survived if we hadn't lived together before our wedding. To each their own though. Good luck.
2007-10-11 06:43:23 · answer #3 · answered by No one 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it now. It is too soon. It is too early in the relationship and thinks just might not work if you jump the gun. Give it a little bit longer. You will do whatever you want to anyway,so good luck!
2007-10-11 07:19:44 · answer #4 · answered by lvbrdy4vr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you two comfortable with that? I moved in with my husband after 3 months of knowing him - by then, I was sure that he was the person I wanted to be with, simple as that. It happened naturally, and we were comfortable with the decision. It's not the length of time, it's your own feelings about the issue that matter most.
2007-10-11 06:47:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, that sounds alright, specially since he's already been staying the night a few times a week.
It would just make it more practical, but... no more breathing space! Careful. Are you ready for that?
Good luck.x
2007-10-11 06:42:05 · answer #6 · answered by Kc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps not too soon but by the same token, if you are that compatible, why not just get married unless you have doubts that a marriage will eventually take place.
2007-10-11 06:43:30 · answer #7 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to eplain the situation to him asap and see how he feels about moving in. he amy want to or he may not. some people like to have someone to hold at night but still like sthere space. thats why he sleeps home some nights
2007-10-11 06:44:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes! don't ask him to move because you're losing a room mate. that is the wrong ideal, just get yourself another room mate.
2007-10-11 06:39:45 · answer #9 · answered by Thomas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, find a new roommate! Then continue your relationship as normal. Take it slow. You still need your space.
2007-10-11 06:45:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋