ok my mom and dad are always fighting especially since my dad lost his job and my mom is the only one working. but my dad hasn't even got up to go get a job or try to go looking. my mom is sick of it and wants to do something about it but i am truly scared about the ending result. i am only 15 and this will be her second divorce if it happens. i love my step-dad but i don't like it when they fight and he is always yelling at me and my brothers for no reason and he has cheated on my mom. please help me to see if i can get themto stay together or help them in some way.
2007-10-11 06:49:41 · 11 answers · asked by Kylee B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
As a 15 year old, I don't think you have a place in trying to fix your parents relationship. It is for them to resolve. If you have a good, close relationship with your Mom maybe you could suggest that she should talk to someone just to alleviate her stress and help sort things out.
You can help out around the house with chores to help your Mom out but avoid getting into the relationship issues.
2007-10-11 06:55:57 · answer #1 · answered by Martin R 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like they don't need to stay together. Not working is a major issue and one that would take a alot of work, and the fact that he has cheated is not a good issue. In my opinion, this relationship needs to come to an end. It might be hard at first, but I think it will be for the best. Maybe you should talk to your mom and tell her that your and your brothers are not happy with him. That is not a healthy environment for children and you should not be subjected to violence. Talk to your mom.
2007-10-11 14:02:00 · answer #2 · answered by anon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, so first off, if he cheated on your mom, dont you think it would be fair to her to find someone who will want to be with her and only her? as far as finding a job after you are fired, that takes time, not too much, but you have to find one that pays good one thats close to home, and possibly, if your lucky, one that you like, it can be a tough process, just stick in there, and definetly be there for your brothers, and if anything worse happens, dont hesitate to talk to someone at school, it really does help, trust me, good luck, and stay strong!
2007-10-11 13:57:54 · answer #3 · answered by Amanda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u are much to young to be able to comprehend what is going on around you at this point just be there for your mom when the fighting stops and if she does divorce him that doesn't mean that you have to stop loving him or seeing him you are 15 and you can make your own choices at this point just be careful and try not to get into the middle of things
2007-10-11 13:59:12 · answer #4 · answered by oh_jo123 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well its a hard situation. because he is shoutin to you its better not to interfear. but what u can do is to talk with ur mum and give her patient and power to go on and not get desperate. u can help at thebouse as much as u can. and ur brothers too. if u have an older brother then its better he would talk to ur step dad about gettin a job but with a calm way like a sujestion good luck
2007-10-11 13:55:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are a child and these are grown up issues.
I don't blame your mom for wanting to get things to change. You can't do anything to help or keep them together so you need to stay out of it.
2007-10-11 14:43:26 · answer #6 · answered by Spring 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my mom and step dad went through the same thing and i was in the same situation that you were what i did was sit down and talk to my step-dad about it and told him how i was feeling about the whole thing then i did the same thing with my mom and it seemed to help alot they sat down and talked about things and got it all worked out so you could try that k good luck!!!!!!
2007-10-11 13:54:23 · answer #7 · answered by Courtney S 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your step dad may be feeling depressed because of losing his job and once he realizes that it may help. Try to talk to him about getting some counseling, and it might help if your parents get counseling together. It is probably a feeling of depression that causes him to yell at you so counceling will help all of you.
2007-10-11 14:26:21 · answer #8 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for what you and your brothers are going thru.Try to talk to your mother and see what she plans to do.If he cheated on her then he really doesn't sound like much of a man.She is probably worried about the kids and money.I hope things get better for you.Good luck.
2007-10-11 13:59:49 · answer #9 · answered by notagain49 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately there is not much you can do. You should find someone to talk to about it with you. Grandmother, teacher or someone like that. Good luck. It will be ok, just focus on your own stuff.
2007-10-11 13:53:28 · answer #10 · answered by biller29 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋