Family - December 2007

I have been married for 10 years. My in-laws were okay before I gave birth to my daughter (9 years ago). The disrespect started when she cussed me out because I went to run an errand when she told me not to go anywhere and that she would handle my errands. When my daughter was about 3 months old she todl me that she was surprised the baby wasn't dead because I took her out too much in the cold weather. My child was a perfectly healthy baby. I have a problem with my child eating pork so I would send her to my in-laws with food so that they wouldn't have to go to any extra trouble. They would feed her pork anyway and tell her not to worry about your mother, we'll handle her. They have told my daughter not to listen to me. She is no longer allowed to be at their house. Most of the contact they have with my daughter is either on the phone or on holidays. Sometimes I feel guilty about that but I feel they have given me no choice. How would any of you handle this?

2007-12-18 05:48:05 · 29 answers · asked by cheryl h 3

i call my stepdad, dad, but i really dont feel right about it. hes not really being a real one to me. its so hard to really love him like i should because hes done good things for me like a real father should. but now hes being downright mean and harsh to me and my siblings. and yeah, weve gotten in trouble, but he shouldnt treat us unfairly. i really want to respect im, but i dont know how.

so my questions are: i dont want to call him dad anymore, but how would he react to it? would that be a mistake and/or disrespectful? any advice?

thanks in advance!!!

2007-12-18 05:46:50 · 11 answers · asked by *sportygator* 2

My son is lazy , wont go to work , 25 years old , cant chuck him out cos mummy loves him,,,, its starting to get to me ?

2007-12-18 05:46:31 · 5 answers · asked by The Groover 2

My daughter is 15 and has to spend a few days over the Christmas at my parent's house. She is not looking forward to it. My parents make funny comments and try to drag her into doing things that she does not like.

They are very excited because its the first Christmas in a long time that she is spending with them. She lived with her Dad in another state and he never sent for Christmas.

She is not at all excited and does not like my mother's rude, weird comments or the way my Dad keeps trying to give her advice regarding making friends, etc.

I am taking a few days off over the holiday, but have to work for a few days also.

I don't know if I should try and pacify her or just let it be. She has to learn to tolerate situations that are not to her liking. But, I had seeing the long face when I pick her up.

She is not able to get her homework done there in the evenings because my mother talks to her, etc... and then she gets upset because her time got wasted.

2007-12-18 05:41:37 · 15 answers · asked by Stareyes 5

MY QUESTION IS REGARDING FAMILY INVOLMENT, HE HAS 3 BROTHERS ( INCLUDING MY HUSBAND ) AND A SISTER AND ALL ARE LISTED AS GUARDIANS AND YET HE LIVES WITH US AND WE ARE 100% RESPONSIBLE AND IT IS GETTING TIRING AS 1 BROTHER DOES NOTHING YET BRAGS HOW HE DOES SO MUCH ...IS IS SICKENING AND I AM FED UP ............

2007-12-18 05:19:05 · 6 answers · asked by joanne b 4

She is older than me and we have the same in laws. She is very artistic in cooking, sewing, painting, etc. And I'm not. I am more artistic in things I like to keep private like writing and poetry. Everyone from my parents to my in laws always compare me to her and ask me why I don't know how to do the things she does, and they always tell me to learn the things she knows. I'm not interested in the stuff she likes, I'm a different person and have different interests. It gets so annoying... why don't they understand that I'm an individual?

2007-12-18 04:52:27 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

She had a baby 8 months ago and has continued to live with us. We have provided all she needs for her son and herself and feel totally let down by her stealing but do I really want to get the police involved

2007-12-18 04:40:32 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous

My boy friend is 50 yrs old and insists on cuddling with is daughter in her bed. He sleeps there sometimes. He said only when he falls asleep. He said it is part of having a close relationship with her and there is nothing wrong with it. I feel she is too old. He was in there for over an hour last night, I think this is strange. Tell me what you think!!

2007-12-18 04:37:46 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

Right i want people to tell me what they think is right! Mum's Dad's a Kids.

Right I’m 17 and my boyfriend is 18, with have been going out for 2year and only see each other at week ends as we live 2 hours apart train rid.

He always comes down and stays at weekends (Friday night Saturday and goes home Sunday) for 2 years this has been fine.

But now my mum and dad want him to start paying 15 pound a weekend rent for showering here, although we buy our own food and drink mostly and some weekend we are never in.

I’m not sure if this is right or wrong, and its coarsen a lot of trouble between me and my boyfriend I need some really help let me know what you think

thanks for reading Candy x

2007-12-18 04:25:29 · 25 answers · asked by Candy 4

Years ago, the man my mom was married to molested me. It was more like rape really. I was 11 years old. After I told my grandma what happened, my stepdad went to jail for this. My mom said I put her husband in jail.

My mom blamed me for what happened and for years we can't talk to eachother. I have tried to reach out but it is noticably strained. She told me she feels bad about not being a good mother to me and my brother.

But I am now 25- and it is still the same way. My mom has gone down a path of drug abuse and we still can't talk.

Any sugestions? I love my mom and wish we had a relationship.

2007-12-18 04:21:07 · 10 answers · asked by CaliGirl 5

I talk to my mom everyday, she is my best friend. My husband doesn't really like this, and says it isn't normal, and that he doesn't know of anyone who does this. So we're just trying to find out if it is a "normal" thing or not. Thanks!

2007-12-18 03:47:05 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

hell and I didn't even know it until my body started breaking down.What did it contribute from?I understand the cycle of abuse,negligence,how depression contributes to wrong doings , ignorance of parents to know to get help.(When your own mother treats you different from the other siblings ,So much bad was done to me)I do not Rub it in and Give my Mother a Guilt trip. I don't recall ever blaming her for the Hell I have lived.Why would she slip me news paper clipping from Ann Landers(Parents should stop blaming selves for kids)I totally disagree with the clipping It hurts me that it was sent to me,.And I think it was unappropriate to give it to me.My situation was abuse Landers is talking about lack of emotional nourishment.
And it hurts me because I lived Hell and I Do Not give her blame.Why Did She Feel The Need To Send This To Me.I have done nothing wrong.I should get credit for handling it as well as I have.Landers states shes sick of childern blaming their parents get over it.

2007-12-18 03:44:04 · 11 answers · asked by glenda w 4

This is a very long story and I will try to make it as short as possible. Please note, this will be longer than 1000 characters allowed, so please be patient as I keep adding details below.

I was a widow at 35. I was married to a man with severe bipolar and he was also an alcoholic, his name was Jamie. Jamie had a huge heart and would do anything for anyone when he was mentally healthy and not drinking. The problem was the mental illness was present a majority of the time and so were the alcohol issues. We were married for 5 year's and had one son who is my late husbands namesake but we call my son James, he's is now 7, was 4 when his dad died. So now let me get to the story, just had to give a little info so this could be followed easily.

I met Jamie at a bar. He was on the dance floor being goofy with some coworkers. I was sitting with my friend Mary Jo watching Jamie dance because it was funny.

2007-12-18 03:39:46 · 12 answers · asked by maryannmccarthy2003 6

Okay, so long story short..My mother and my boyfriend got into a disagreement. I don't agree with either side, I think they are both wrong, and have told them so. My mom refuses to apologize to my boyfriend, and vice versa. My boyfriend said that he is upset with my mom, and refuses to go to any family event that my mother is going to be at. Also, my mother told me that she does not want me to spend Christmas with my boyfriend and his family. She wants me to spend Christmas Eve with my immediate family, and then Christmas Day spend the entire day(11am-5pm) with her extended family and my grandparents. I told her that I agreed to spend xmas eve and xmas day with them but I was not staying the entire day since my boyfriends family has asked me to come to their house on Xmas Day too. I have bought gifts for my boyfriends family including his 2 yr old nephew who I am extremely close with. They have also bought gifts for me. I feel bad not showing up for their ONE christmas celebration when

2007-12-18 03:39:12 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-12-18 02:59:53 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

what you do if you were gettin ready to move, and you have enough ppl round to help and they dont, and they r trying to make u pack their stuff to, what would you do and how would you feel, because that is what is happenin in my life right now!

2007-12-18 02:58:09 · 8 answers · asked by Marina 1

Please help, I am in desperate need! for my family and my sake.
I have a 9 year old sister who really drives my whole family insane, she is putting my mum and dad under so much pressure, she is a manipulative and very demanding girl, I will list some of the annoying and distracting things she does

1. She always hits me when i'm in the car, scratches me, makes loud noises, parents tell her too stop, she said she has stopped, though she just continues to do it again and she gets away with it.

2. When I am in charge and have too take her too places. she will never listen to me or my mum, she says too me "Your not the boss of me" and I have too drag her out and yell at her in PUBLIC places, which is such an embarrassment. For example once I was at the beach with her and it took me 3 hours too get her out, I pretty much was stressed out and almost cried in annoyance.

3. Also when I want to watch my programme on TV and I always watch it every week, She yells to mum then she get it. HELP!

2007-12-18 02:57:44 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am in my 20's, and newly married. The thing is, I recently found out I am pregnant with my 1st baby- and I don't know how to break the news to my dad. My mom already knows, and she is happy for us. However, my dad is always a little apprehensive about new things, and especially about things that make him realize I'm not a little girl anymore. I want to break the news gently, but I also am not going to apologize for being happy about my pregnancy. How should I tell him?

2007-12-18 02:55:09 · 12 answers · asked by ~*Felicity's Mommy*~ 3

i just do not know what to do -i am being bullied by my uncle and mother -emotionally bullied- in my house ; they telling everybody in my neighbourhood that i am s and and ick and its not true and they nick pick at everything - they are 68 and 69 years respectively - i feel so emabarrased as house is like an open book to everybody - i do not know who to speak to as i do not know who to trust as they may punish me more - i do not feel at ease around them since i do not know how they will lash out at me. i have looked 4 reasons why but i cant think , they also say that i am gay too behind my back too.

I hate them both , i really do -sometimes i have thought about ending my life since i do not know how to cope.

if i say anything to my uncle , my mother always makes it into a big drama , like for instance slamming the doors which i find annoying - she says to him to keep on slamming the doors if he wants - its like he has something over her.

please advise.

2007-12-18 02:43:41 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I were married last December and we lived alone until February when my husband lost his job due to circumstances beyond his control which was really a shock to us. Thankfully I had a few thousand in savings and we were able to eat and pay all of our bills, but a month and a half later we moved to Houston to stay with his Mother until we could get back on our feet. We were so grateful (and honestly still are!), but the novelty has worn off and we are in a major dilemma. His mom and dad are going through a divorce and my husband now plays the role of her husband/son and my husband at the same time. She still treats him like he is 12. Also, her 3 daughters come to visit periodically and when they leave they eat all of my husband and my food and don't clean up after themselves. I got along with my mother in law so well before, and we are wondering if we should go into cc debt to move out or just continue to silently endure the miserable living conditions. What do you think?

2007-12-18 02:42:56 · 9 answers · asked by LadySairah 2

Moms out there I plan on giving this letter to my mom or emailing it to here tell me what you think...(Jesse is my ex whom broke up with me 3 weeks ago)

Mom-

I’m writing this too you because I am frustrated. I’m 23 years old almost 24 and living at home, and it is not fun. I think that is one reason I miss Jesse, because I had that place away from home I could go to. I appreciate you and all you do for me and I love you for caring so much, but there comes a time in a child’s life that the child needs to start feeling not controlled by their parents. I know it is your house and I need to respect that and take care of my room better for you, but please stop telling me what to do and when to do it. I’m just trying to be honest with you, I’m not trying to hurt your feelings, but I need to get these feelings out to make me a better person. I need to learn to make my own decisions, and stop listening to everyone else’s suggestions on my life, it is a thing I need to do to grow up even more, it is something I need to make myself better for my future. I love how we have gotten closer mom, but I need this from you. I need to start seeking approval from myself instead of you, this leads me to be more self-confident instead of self-sufficient in what your opinions are. Please work on this with me, just so I can start being a better me, more self-confident, more self-sufficient, I need to feel like I have control of my own life. I have been reading a book by Dr. Phil about getting out there and dating again, and the first thing is to start loving yourself, and being your whole self, so that is what I’m trying to do. I love you and appreciate you caring so so much about me, I’m doing this also so we are closer. Thank you for everything you do.

Ashley

2007-12-18 02:25:13 · 9 answers · asked by ashieannie 2

Last January my mother in law was diagnosed with cancer...the disease took her quickly. She passed on in July. We have had the same neighbours for 5 years. In my panick to get the funeral organized, I asked our next door neighbour to please pass along the necessary funeral info to other neighbours that may want to show their respect. THEY ALL CAME which surprised us b/c some we didn't know as well as others. The only ones that didn't were our next door neighbours. At first...we were hurt and thought "well, maybe they don't know better...maybe they have issues dealing with death...maybe this and maybe that...." but at the very least...would it not have been appropriate to AT LEAST acknowledge it. "Sorry to hear about...." they have avoided us as if WE did something to them! I can't even say hi to them at this point b/c they showed my husband NO respect. What do you think?

2007-12-18 01:16:20 · 6 answers · asked by laura 4

Alright, My moms is dating this black douche (nothing wrong with black people but hes a douche) and last night they were driving home and that douche had opened beer in the car. They got pulled over and long story short car got impounded.
I had to take a Taxi to work and spend $40 just to get there so today I made jack ****..what should I tell this douche? I'm definetly asking for my money :-D

2007-12-18 00:16:54 · 7 answers · asked by Crazy 2

I have a 14 yr old daughter and she's very close with her 18 yr old cousin recently. They usually stay overnight at granny's place once every 2 weeks. They stayed in different rooms of cause. The 1st incident, i accidentally saw both of them hugging on the bed. But it seems like they were only playing as they had pillow fights. We adults usually would chat downstairs. So we do not know what they were doing. 2nd incident was the maid told me that my daugher fell asleep in her cousins room. Both of them were sleeping together. I asked my daughter if she had any boyfriends lately, she said no. I told her what i saw and scolded her angrily. She started crying and said she love to be with her cousin cause they were happy around each other.

I told her im not gonna separate them or something but just warned her that she's too young to enter a relationship. Furthermore, its her cousin and he's 4 yrs older. I asked her to confess what they have done or im not letting her stay there overnight

2007-12-18 00:12:30 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

they have never spent real time with him and do not know what he is like. yesterday they made a list up of things bf's should not be like and he dont match any of the things on the list but they still insist he is bad for me. i nearly got kicked out of my house last night beacsue they dont want me to be with him, what do i do. they wont change! do i go and live with him, i really do love him or just get rid of him to be with my parents who dont even know him?

2007-12-17 23:55:16 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

We are committed to each other and building a life together, but we are not living together or married, because of the feelings of 2 of his children. They are almost out of highschool and we are waiting for that. That's not the problem. Every year I spend Christ. with his family at his parents. No one really talksto me, except for his sister. They all open gifts, he has 5 brother/sisters + grandchildren, etc. while I just sit there like an idiot. Noone ever asks about my son (who spends Christ. with his Dad). It's not really just Christ.. I always make a point to invite his parents over for dinner a few times every summer when they are home, but not once have they invited us over. His ynger brthr got married this year and they have embraced his wife, but I feel as though they look at me as just his "chick", his "lover" his ....I don't know. At the wddng during pictures his mthr said FAMILY only. It was the whole tone you know? Anyway should I go there for Christmas this year?

2007-12-17 22:43:38 · 17 answers · asked by klojkb 2

My brother is 25 & shes 20 they only been together for about 2years now & she absolutly pisses me off shes one of them girls that wants to be ''PERFECT'' she wont eat NO food thats got fat in it she wont eat a touch of suger all because she doesnt want to put on weight & shes already a size 10? she reckons she wants to be a size 8? I think she thinks shes ''all that'' she acts like she knows EVERYTHING i meen she is nice i guess but she can have her moments i HATE girl that want to be soo skinny & i hate girls that are skinny but say their fat they just say it to hear us say ''no your not fat your have a nice slim body'' GRRRR also she is REALLY nosey like for an example iff i go out & then come back she will come up to me & asked where i went & then i would tell her & then she will ask did i go anywhere else or did i do anything else like WTF? Seriously shes just one of them girls she kind of sends it off to us that HER family is better than ours what do you think of her guys & girls?

2007-12-17 21:59:39 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

She has made me get up and wait for a parcel while she pops out. I got up .....and waited...fully dressed so I don't shock the postie....and then she (my mum ) comes home and claims she has been ringing the doorbell for the ages!!!! I did not hear anything. I heard the key turn in the lock ...so saw her come back in and start to shout it me. I said either she was not pressing the doorbell hard enough or there is something wrong with doorbell....and asked her to check it. She goes outside presses the button ....and lo and behold it works! She walks in all prim.....saying 'at least say you didn't hear it....not that i didn't press the button'

2007-12-17 21:47:54 · 9 answers · asked by Blue_Bell 1

today my boyfriend asked me if i was on his computor had this bad feeling almost felt like he was hideing something cause I did'nt mess with his stuff . my older son shares his e-mail address asked my son to check out my bfriends mail later heard the phone ring my son was telling him that I had asked him to and he better get that off there or she might catch it

2007-12-17 21:45:38 · 7 answers · asked by song Bird 3

I'm thinking about moving abroad as my partner of 2 years has been here for 8 years and says it is now time to move home.

My mother says its wrong as I have a child of nearly 7 and its a big upheaval for him. She says its also wrong to deprive a grandmother of her grandson.

2007-12-17 21:39:00 · 7 answers · asked by Victoria P 2