why does my dad keep thretening to kick me out of the house but when it comes to it dont let me go?

Answer 1

He's telling you that he's frustrated with your behavior and knows that you can't stand on your own two feet. Parents aren't perfect, and they make mistakes by saying things first and then realizing its the wrong thing.

You on the other hand have no excuse for pushing him into making idle threats. How bout you knock it off and actually become someone he wants around?

Answer 2

That is the "big gun," so to speak. He says it, when he can't think of anything else and he wants to scare you into doing what he wants or cleaning up your act.
The bottom line is Dad doesn't want to have to kick you out. What he wants is for something to change.
Sounds like the two of you need to sit down and have a long talk and try to work things out.

Answer 3

He must have his reasons for getting upset and threatening to kick you out, how valid they are well who knows. It sounds like he cares too much for you to kick you out but do not take advantage of his love for you. For whatever reason he reaches his wits end and needs to tell you he is going to kick you out, why not try not to give him a reason? Work on whatever you are doing to have him tell you this for example get back home before a set curfew or do homework or chores without being asked do not mouth back. I am not saying that you are doing anything specific I am just trying to give you a direction to try and improve your relationship. He seems to love you enough not to put you on the street, try and return that love and I bet things get better both ways!! Good Luck and Best Wishes!!

Answer 4

1) If you are an adult then the answer is that perhaps he feels that as an adult you are just as capable as he is of earning a living (perhaps more so as you are young and strong whereas he is getting older and--inevitably--physically declining). Perhaps he feels that it is unfair that he is expected to continue to shoulder the burden of responsibility for an adult child, depleting his resources, draining any funds he might be trying to set aside for his old age so that he won't be a burden on YOU later on. He may have any number of reasons for wanting you to leave. Why he wants you to leave you will have to sit down and discuss with him. He is frustrated with you.

2.) If you are a minor, you are most likely behaving poorly in his estimation; likely you are not complying with his household rules [He who pays the bills / owns the house makes the rules]. Again he is frustrated with you.

WHY HE WON"T LET YOU GO:

He is your father. He feels a sense of obligation toward you. He loves you and--even though you are clearly on his nerves--he is concerned about your safety, your well being and does not truly wish any harm or suffering to befall you--his little snookums!

I know this ALL from firsthand experience. I've survived frustrating children, teenagers that drive your blood pressure through the roof, and now a 21 year old daughter (who has a 9 month old baby) who refuses to get a full time job--much less on that pays more than minimum wage--or to assume responsibility for supporting herself and her child!!!

I am the mother of 3, grandmother of one. If it wouldn't harm my children, I would love to strangle, throttle and beat them all WITH EXTREME PREJUDICE!!!

Then I would like to crush them all in the biggest bear hug, smother them with kisses and bake them cookies.

Then I would like to boot them all out and say sink or swim...but the world is hard and I could never bring myself to actually do that because they might get cold, be hungry, get hurt. Sure, I left home at 15 and faced all that myself...but I would never, ever wish it for them.

Do you understand now?

Answer 5

Your making this man go crazy by your behavior and he doesn't know what to do!!
Look long and hard at yourself in the mirror and ask yourself why your being such a pain in the old a%s!! Grow up and act like a decent human being!