Family - December 2007

My husbands grandmother currently lives near her daughter (my husband's mom), about 2 hours north of us. No one really takes care of her. She has a serious heart problem and needs someone around. I would LOVE for her to move close to us. I am a stay at home mom (so I could see her daily), and I love her like she was my own grandma. I was talking to her tonight and she said she would like to live in our town. I told my husband, and he agreed that we are better to take care of her than anyone else, but he's really worried about starting drama with his family (partly because his mom doesn't like me and would be jealous, and partly because people will be angry about her moving and won't want to help financially since my husbands aunt pays his grandmas mortgage, and she won't like the idea of her moving), and since my husband works for the phone company there is a chance of him being transfered in the future. What should we do? I hate the way the family is treating her now.

2007-12-18 13:31:37 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

...it's really late for him to be out. He takes the public transportation back home and my mom's been waiting for hours at a station just waiting to pick him up. He should've came home at around 7 PM which is the latest he's ever come home. He's not answering his cellphone and he's not answering my texts. What should I do?

2007-12-18 13:21:17 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

my cousin is a mess, shes 18 shacked up with a 36 yr old who helps her keep a steady supply of drugs and booze, she likes to get drunk all the time, but she cant handle it and breaks down into a sobbing mess and/or becomes really violent, she blames all her problems on her mum dying 10 yrs ago, and the whole family have 'babied' her since then, she acts like a child, sometimes when im with her, her behaviour reminds me of my 4 yr old sister who has learning difficulties, shes alienating all of our family, and she's aggravted them by telling me a family secret i was never supposed to find out, she can't hold down a job for more than a few months or weeks and thinks the world owes her a favour. she's gradually destroying herself she doesn't want to give up the drugs or alcohol, i can't go out anywhere with her, i was almost arrested the last time we went out because of her, i don't want to turn my back on her like the rest of our family have, but i don't know how to help her

2007-12-18 12:57:14 · 5 answers · asked by mimzy 3

My really close friend has a big problem. Everyday she's really sad and cries because of this. Her mom and dad are divorced. Her brother is always hitting her, he is about 10. Every time he does something mean or bad, he gets her in trouble and her mom yells at her and punishes her. She never listens to her and there is nothing she can do. I've tried to tell her what to do but nothing works. I even sent her mom an e-mail. Help :'(

2007-12-18 12:45:20 · 2 answers · asked by poop 2

Do you think it's fair that my grandparents bought my seven year old cousin a wii game for christmas but when they asked me what i wanted and i said "a cross necklace from james avery." they told me they "didnt have that kind of money." Now my mom is all mad at me for asking for such an "expensive" gift. She says i have too many cross necklaces (i have two but they they are from middle school and look childish. i am a jr in high shcool now!) Do you think i'm being unreasonable?

My grandparents aren't poor and they used to buy me nice things like that but last year for christmas all i got was a five dollar gift card to American Eagle. I bought a pair of socks!

Am i being unreasonable this season?
Or are they being too stingy?

2007-12-18 12:40:36 · 28 answers · asked by MissSamanthaAnne 1

I don't like my grandmother or anyone from my father's side of the family. My father and my mother are seperated bc he was abusive and so was his family (especially my grandmother). Years of emotional and mental torture was enough. This past weekend was my birthday so my grandmother sent me a card in the mail. I didn't open it bc I knew that it was money that my father usually gives her to give to me, bc she wouldn't even have bothered if it weren't for him. I didn't even bother opening the envelope and sent it back to her through mail. Was I wrong to do so?

2007-12-18 12:37:08 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

My parents are older and will be needing help in the very near future. My husband and I have offered them to move in with us. We live in a nice, warm area, and we both have decent jobs. My parents refused. They both feel they will be a burden, even though we stressed to them they will not and we will enjoy having them with us. My father seems to be somewhat open to the idea but my mother just keeps saying NO. She is attached to her house. My mother wants me to move back to their area. The area my parents live in is so bad that there are shooting and stabbing on their block. The weather is cold and they are currently snowed in. We could move back, but a decent area to live would be about 1hr drive away from their house and the jobs in my and my husband's profession do not pay as well so we would both have to take a serious pay cuts. What do I do? I want them to move, that would be the easiest and best thing. How do I convince them of this?

2007-12-18 12:32:51 · 4 answers · asked by Su 2

well this is actually a really complicated story and long story, but i will cut it short. my brother married his wife, she turned out to be a *****, he kept saying he was going to leave her and then he never did. we didn't talk for 2 months, then one day i decided to try and talk to him again, so we went to lunch. after that his wife disconnected his phone so we had no way to get hold of him, but he could have called us. but we never got a call. so its been a good 3 months since the last time we talked, so i saw him at the movie theater on sunday, i ran up and hugged him and my eyes started tearing up, and it didn't even face him. he acted like he didn't care at all. all i want is my brother back. but by the way he acts its like he doesn't want to come back. (when i say we it means my mom, dad and i) so do you think he cares about me still, or would he rather live with his piece of **** wife and her bitchy kids and not be able to contact us.

2007-12-18 12:06:12 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

sparing you guys all the details...

Grandma is negative, and likes to get pissy with my 2 year old sister and 6 year old brother., sometimes the 14 year old as well (I am 16). Grandma lives with us, but it was originally her house (perhaps why she feels like she owns us?)

She just seethes, 80% of the time. My mom (her youngest daughter) has bluntly told her so, and told her to calm down or whatever, but she ignores everyone. What can I say to make her calm down when she just wants to sink everyone's ship? I am her granddaughter, and a favorite, but She gets angry very easy.

I try to keep the house clean, i do everything she asks of me, but its never enough.

I am at my wits end. I cry almost every night, and I wasnt like this before we bought the house and moved in. I jsut want to be normal again.

2007-12-18 11:57:28 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm sick and very exhausted. My mamma is in Pasadena I live all the way in LA near Inglewood. I'm in glendale, so my moms is closer. Well I'm wondering if I should go to my moms or to my place. We live with his parents so I would really get some quiet at my moms.
It's raining and I would have to go on the traffic jam on the 110.

which hand?

Moms- warm, quiet, nourishment. Closer, maybe safer to drive to. Fold out couch.

My place- not so quiet, my hubby would be there, further drive. My own bed? Hubby wont get home till 9pm which I expect to be in bed by then.

what do you think. one night only

2007-12-18 11:37:32 · 7 answers · asked by MS.veronica 3

My cousin wants to find out information about her dad, who died when she was 5, she doesn't know anything about him, except for his name. She is now 33.
She gets different stories from the family about were he's buried.
How would she go about getting information.

2007-12-18 10:59:58 · 10 answers · asked by Chey_18 3

I want to go to london or Paris this summer instead of our usual trip to Virgina Beach, My dad is considering it but my mom is saying no. Ive tried saying EVERYTHING i can think of and i want to go like sooo bad. Please give me things to say to get them to take me. I dont think the money is a problem, my mom&dad are scared it will get bombed or something. Give me ideas!! thanks so much!

2007-12-18 10:51:27 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

My next door naighbors are deaf; the mom and dad. I heard that the older sister tourtures the little brother. She was once SEVERLY hitting him and he was screaming and crying for his mom and dand but they couldnt hear him. And another time she locked him out of the house at 2:00 in the morning! And he was crying and scrwaming bloody murder and my mom witnessed this. He was locked out of the house once when he was in his underwear but it was in bright daylight. I hear screaming at night when I am trying to sleep. I am young and I can not really do anything (that I know of) so I want my mom to do something. Or I want to et over this fear of him getting severly hurt! I am scared!!

How can I get over this fear? Or what can me or my mom do? But I want to know how I can get over my fear!?

2007-12-18 10:49:20 · 4 answers · asked by ReeseElizabeth 1

I have been with my partner for 6 years and are both very happy and my mother used to think she was wonderful but for the last 4 years has turned against her for no reason.
my mother is getting on in years and has always fallen out with family but my problem is with my father as he has to live with her bitterness.
I love my father dearly but have not visited in months as my partner is not welcomed by my mother.
my partner is a good and loving person that does not deserve this treatment and if I dont visit my mother turns on me and as this is not the first time she has done this to her will never return to visit and I more than agree but I cant contact my father as it causes my mother to give him hell
what can I do as I miss my father so much and am afraid will never see him again as he to is getting old
I feel I cant win as at family gatherings my partner never comes and my mother gets it her way(she won)I back my partner and dont go anymore although she says I should what do I do

2007-12-18 10:37:15 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous

my mom, my stepdad, n my dad all say they dont need or want anythin 4 christmas. but they have said tht b4 n once christmas passes by n i havnt gotten them anythin i feel bad and they end up gettin annoyed.

my mom is 45 but nt like old lady at all. shes one of those party moms n has mad parties n friends n stuff n likes what moms like plus anythin ppl in their 20s n 30s would like?

my stepdad is 43 n hes always liking the new gadgets n technology n stuff. like hes one of the normal dads who acts like hes still n his 30s n thinks technology is cool. likes cookin shows (4 some reason i have never understood) n he likes like family guy n boondocks n all tht stuff. hes nt rly a sports guy.

my dad is 45 n hes also wit the technology stuff but hes a huge sports guy. hes head of marine core rugby, a coach on the national rugby team, a player himself. rly likes baseball, red sox in particular. he watches like all the war movies, law n order stuff like that.

what do i get them?

2007-12-18 10:30:34 · 2 answers · asked by Chip 2

2007-12-18 10:28:44 · 2 answers · asked by phoebe w 2

well all my friends that i know say that i should pearce my ear i mean i want to but the only problem is that my parents dont think its a good idea BUT one time at red lobster my dad said i could but then my mom was like oh no and so my dad was like u know i was just playing right it was just a joke
how can i convince them to let me pearce my ear?

2007-12-18 10:17:37 · 3 answers · asked by hollister 2

Right now I'm feeling so upset because three people in my family are dying right now. One is dying of leukemia as we speak, one has lung cancer and Alzheimer's, and the other has a rare form of liver cancer. I know neither of them are going to live much longer, but I just can't deal with it. They're all so important to me and I've known them my entire life. What's even worse is that I know that their deaths are coming and there's nothing I can do to stop it. What do I do? How do I deal with this?

2007-12-18 09:34:35 · 10 answers · asked by Ellophante 4

I have been married for a while now but I can't remember the date it happenend. For years now I felt so unwanted but now that I don't work its worse but when I did all he did was spend my money. For many years I carried this man when he was jobless and in between jobs, I provided him with support. Now that I longer can't provide that extra money I am no longer useful.Over the years I have just lost the urge. I don't feel like a woman anymore. I have packed on over one hundred pounds due to stress and other things...lazyiness. He has the kids call me names like Cindy Bear, rolliepollie, and lardass. I am currently in school but once I finish I plan on leaving him and the kids. This man has caused so much pain. I have even thought of hanging him...I have so much hate for this person until it makes me sick. Its so bad that I have an imaginary place where I am wanted, respected and loved. I hate to see him come home for I know all he will do is cuss at me. Why me ?

2007-12-18 09:08:31 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have a basket ball coach who both of my parents are close friends with, im nice to all of her little children, im really good friends with her daughter (my age), like ex. her and her 5 children will come out to my house is East Hampton for the weekend. I'm also a really good basket ball player like i get tons of shots in a game. well today i was upset and didnt feel good.Also at times I have problemss breathing. So today i got hit with all 3 of those things. So i wasnt playing good like i usually get tons of shots in but by half time i had none. so my other coach who same thing really close with really good friends with daughter asked me why i wasnt playing good and i said i was having trouble breathing today. but that doesnt mean i want out. so my coach starts the second half and guess what im not in with the usual starting 5 some sucky girl is in for me. so i was like ok whatever im annoyed but thats ok. We were losing majorly. So then she decides to put me in for this different g

2007-12-18 09:07:58 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am sixteen years old and my mom still treats me like a baby. I cant even cross the road without telling my parents!!! People say its because I am the youngest that she treats me like that.

My sister had a boyfriend at age 15 and did something with him (you know that three letter word) my mom was hardly mad at her at all. My mom wont even let me out to have a boyfriend.

Please help I need advice

2007-12-18 09:00:08 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm getting married in 6 months and my fiancé and his father are at eachothers throats. I have ask my fiancé if he wants to invite his dad and he says no, blah blah blah...you know how stubborn men can be. And since he isn't very active in planning the wedding I don't know if not inviteing him is the best thing to do.
Now his father did call him at work on his birthday and he is being stubborn and saying no he called my work not me. He didn't end up talking to him.
So pretty much should I invite him if they are not getting along?
Oh and his mom passed away 4 years ago so no parents at the wedding just seems not right.

2007-12-18 08:46:11 · 4 answers · asked by *~♥Mrs♥~* 2

2007-12-18 08:38:10 · 5 answers · asked by ubah a 1

I had a maths test, I am year 8 set one (12 years old) and it was our X-Mas test. I got 64% and the average was 60%. I told my mum this and she said "You should do better."

I guess I was just born stupid.

2007-12-18 07:50:23 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

My father and I used to be close, but have not spoken since he remarried because my stepmother and I were never able to see eye to eye.
I recently found out he is suffering from kidney failure, and that I am a perfect donor match. The waiting list would take about 2 years, and might be too late. At first, I told him no, because he is old and won't live long anyways, and I have a long life ahead and would like to use both of my kidneys.
This holiday shopping season has really made me look at things differently, though. I called last night and offered to donate my kidney afterall, with the understanding that he would make me the primary beneficiary in is living will. I did not and still do not think this is to much to ask from a person willing to give you their organ.
My stepmother became very angry and has called me several times last night and this morning telling me that they would rather wait on the list.
I think she's more worried about my half-siblings and her getting all the money than she is about my father's chances of survival!

2007-12-18 07:46:06 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

My wife and I moved our family from one city to another (500 miles away) and we both left good companies and took jobs with other good companies. One of the companies paid the relocation. We are now realizing things that make us feel like we may have been better off where we were. Homes are much more expensive. We miss our friends and are not happy. We haven't found a house that we want to committ to moving into. Our toddlers are misbehaving here...where they didn't before. It seems difficult to get our kids in to see a doctor here when they are sick..etc...etc. My wife and I both love our current employers and feel that there are great opportunities here. We are in our late 30's. Should we move back in a year or two? The grass looked greener on the otherside, but now that we are there, it isn't. We fixed some things with the move and hurt other things.

2007-12-18 07:27:23 · 11 answers · asked by BAM 7

she always has somethin to say about me
im 15 years old i try my best to be respectful to her n **** but she juss always putting me down...ive been to counseling ive tried everything to see if im the wun contributin to the problems in our house hold...she calls me names
she gets mad wen im on the telephone she calls me a hoe because i talk to boys i kicked her one day because she was making me soo mad and i went to jail so now im involved in the court system she never lets me go anywhere so i dont come home from school sometimes she hits me
she doesnt give me my space or privacy...
she took custody of me wen i was 2 years of age because my mom abused me i think id rather take physical abuse over the mental abuse my grandma does
sometimes i juss wanna beat da **** out of her but i cant
i try to ignore her but she always has to be the first wun to start an argument wit me
she says she loves me but i dont think she does because of the stuff she does HELP ME WAT SHUD I DO??

2007-12-18 07:20:26 · 37 answers · asked by prettykiki 2

Hi, my sister has always been jealous of me and wants to copy whatever i get in life. When i told her i was pregnant i knew she would have to do sumthin about it. She never likes being left behind & now is pregnant too. She recently stayed with me for the weekend and everything was about her and her unborn baby, nothing about me or my baby which was nearly due! I also got engaged recently and now she is pestering her boyfriend for the same thing!My mam said that my sisters attitude is "anything you can do,i can do better!". Other family members have also commented on this.
It bothered me at first that she was pregnant because she will take some of the limelight away from my baby,but it will be nice that there will only 6months between them.
It just seems that whatever i do,she has to copy me and try to outshine me by doing it in a more expensive way.
She is eight years older than me & only back with her boyfriend 8mths after a split of four yrs
Would someone like this bother you?

2007-12-18 07:01:10 · 9 answers · asked by stef s 2

Ever since I was small, my parents have always called me a liar. I never lie when I can and I always tell the truth when I can. My sister used to lie to get me in trouble when I was little so my parents used to think that I was a big liar whenever I tried to insist the truth.

Now my parents never believe I tell the truth. Its very annoying as I just get angry and argue with them. This is now leading to my parents never believing a word I say.

Eg. I found a photo on my dad's camera of my sister smoking. I showed it to my Dad and then just about to show it to my mum and my sister takes the camera and lies to get herself out. Whenever I tried to tell my parents that she smokes they used to tell me to go away.
Then they caught her smoking 2 weeks later.

But even with revising as my GCSE's (national exams) my parents tell me I lie when I say I HAVE revised. They say I lie about everything and when I protest they say I always lie and to shut up.

Any advice/help?

2007-12-18 06:35:13 · 8 answers · asked by Chrisicus 3

Seems as if this year has been hard on alot of people out there. We are a family that ultimately has 5 children (2 full time and 3 part time) We will be spending this christmas together come hell or high water. What things could we do to try to make up for the lack of individual gifts under the tree? we have boys ages 6, 9, 11,13,16. I was thinking gifts like games to play as a family, outside sports stuff (they are all athletic) things we can all do together and then a small somethign personal for all of them? since they are all just really getting to knwo each other on this level it might be a good way to interact. does that sound corny? We are going to possibly have to pay for all the travel expenses but we still want to have something for them to enjoy.

2007-12-18 06:02:33 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous