I hate my grandma!!?

Question

she always has somethin to say about me
im 15 years old i try my best to be respectful to her n **** but she juss always putting me down...ive been to counseling ive tried everything to see if im the wun contributin to the problems in our house hold...she calls me names
she gets mad wen im on the telephone she calls me a hoe because i talk to boys i kicked her one day because she was making me soo mad and i went to jail so now im involved in the court system she never lets me go anywhere so i dont come home from school sometimes she hits me
she doesnt give me my space or privacy...
she took custody of me wen i was 2 years of age because my mom abused me i think id rather take physical abuse over the mental abuse my grandma does
sometimes i juss wanna beat da **** out of her but i cant
i try to ignore her but she always has to be the first wun to start an argument wit me
she says she loves me but i dont think she does because of the stuff she does HELP ME WAT SHUD I DO??

Answer 1

That sucks.

what should you do?

Talk to her and be honest with her.

Answer 2

Ok first i will say that i do not condone any minor hitting an elderly person PERIOD. its extreme disrespect and not to mention UR GRANDMOTHER!

And for all u out there who say sue or call the cops or that her grandma is an abuser?... i have just one question: Are you stupid??? Thats crazy!

For one, excessive hitting of a 2 year-old is abuse. Hitting a 15 year old WHOM U ARE IN CUSTODY OF IS CALLED DISCIPLINE!!! Since when are u not allowed to discipline ur child???

And dont try to make this poor girl act like she is write for wanting to kill her Grandma, She said herself she will take the EMOTIONAL abuse of her Grandma over the PHYSICAL abuse of her mom. Big difference.

I believe that she TRULY AND DEEPLY loves you. Just shows it by being extra protective. But honestly can u really blame her? She is very old school and back in the day just talking on the phone with a guy was considered dating and no1 dated until old enough to marry. Wanna know why? Because this generation now has very loose morals and ur grandma is trying to protect you. She doesnt want u to be like Brittney Spears lil sister pregnant at 16.

She cares i know for a fact she does. Unless there is something else going on.

What u need to do is try talking to her, be honest bout ur reasons for anger. AND NO HITTING. Take care

Answer 3

Let me speak From experience
Grandma is old school her beliefs are from the early 1900's
she expects you to listen to everything she says with no back talk she was raised no talking to boys no dates till your 17 many things youngsters do now to them is bad bad bad so ofcourse she thinks you are bad lets see you are 15 you got three years to live there still So Just go to school everyday do well in school and get pretty good grades clean your room and what ever chores you might have and always be busy don't kick Grandma even if she deserves it... She really wants whats best for you or she would have left you with your abusive mom verbal abuse is bad ...But at 15 you know the difference and you can say to your self that you are better then all the things she is saying let her talk about you if she wants just do what you are sapossed to be doing until you are 18 I can make it on your own .It is hard But you can cope with it just go about your business and set goals for your self soon she won't have anything to talk about.... she could resent the fact she had to raise you cause your mom was the way she was... Plus she is old they think everything is screwed up it's just that they don't adapt to the times like we do.Concentrate on your life you got 3 years of shool left just dive into that and remember turn off your ears when she talks bad about you I know it might hurt the things they say but i Don't care what you do they are set in thier ways and are like old dogs you can't teach um new tricks ...Respect her as much as possible and keep your hands and feet to your self go to your room if you feel it's to much tell her you have an exam comming up you need to study for just give your self a time out and life is short just tolerate it for now but if she gets to deep you might want to live with an aunt or somthing but remember you got to try too.... and you can get passed it
good luck

Answer 4

Wow. That's a weird gma there. When you're calm and she's calm sit down and talk to her. Tell her how you feel about the way she treats you. Ask her why she acts the way she does. Try to come up with ways to deal with eachother. Tell her that you appreciate her taking care of you (she'll like that) but you will like to have some more privacy. Maybe help her out around the house a bit more. Make an agreement with her like for example, try cooking once a week and doing some chores around the house if you can and tell her that after you're done all the chores you will like to have your own free time.
I am the same way you are. Sometimes I can't even stand my gma...she's not even my real gma. One day she pissed me off so bad I wanted to kill her. It just takes time, PATIENCE and an open comunication. Trust me.
I hope everything gets better. If it doesn't ask for help in school. Okay?

Answer 5

YOU SAID

i kicked her one day because she was making me soo mad and i went to jail so now im involved in the court system

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sometimes i juss wanna beat da **** out of her

With your attitude, it's no wonder your grandmother is so strict with you, and I highly doubt she's guilty of all you're accusing her of doing.

I think it's high time that you grow up and assume responsibility for your own actions. You are 15 years old?? It's time! You have to live under her roof because you are not old enough to support yourself. You should be so grateful and thankful that she took you in for the last 13 years and has been taking care of you! She could have let the court system dump you in some foster home, and you could be jumping from foster home to foster home.

Answer 6

Wow i want to answer your question but I don't know how...it's like at 15 not much registers in the mind. I have a 12 yr old who is driving me crazy & I just let her because I'm scared I'll kill her if I touch her....This is such a sensitive age & the thing with old people vs. young is they try to apply every scenario to when they were young & things have changed alot since then..My prayers are trully going out to you & i hope you can cope & not get yourself into anymore trouble...There is a way out but unfortunatly sweetie it comes in time.......You can't change your granny, she is who she is.If you want you can email me if you need someone to talk too...And just for the record I promise that this can & will pass..pray!!!!! Ypu are getting very imachor not to mention awful advice.... don't run away, i agree that if your mom abused you she probally abused your mom too-- BE Careful who u listen too on here...What I would want someone to tell my daughter if I weren't around too "you are so loved, you are so meant to fulfill a purpose in this world & stay focused on tomorrow-forget yesterday,shake pain,& show the world that there is more to you than what people are saying

Answer 7

Try reading your 'explanation' here ... and then give your grandmother a BREAK. Try coming straight home from school, doing chores around the house/apartment without being asked, cooking with her, and asking her how HER DAY was ... and DO NOT USE VIOLENCE or YELLING to deal with your grandmother. She is both OLDER and WISER than you are ... and even if you are being 'verbally abused' YOU should be able to turn your 'bad situation' around by BEING NICER to your grandmother and thinking about how DIFFERENT HER LIFE has been since she 'took you in.' She's older, and she may be 'set in her ways' ... but she is your grandmother, and she'll be 'gone' someday (DEAD) and you WILL MISS HER then ... and you'll miss her more then if you don't TRY TO BE BETTER now than if you keep trying to REBEL ... take my word for it.

Answer 8

First thing, get over yourself. If she didn't love you, she wouldn't have took you in. Suck it up for another three years. I'm getting ready to turn 16, and my mom used to be the same way also. But now as I get a little bit older I realize she was saying things and doing it because she LOVES me. Second, explain to her how you feel. She will listen to you, but it may not seem that way. She hears everything your saying. Tell her how much she hurts you [if she does]. Don't be disrespectful when you talk to her though, because it's not worth it. Ask her exactly what it is you are doing wrong. It's so hard to raise a child, so maybe she is just a little stressed out.

Answer 9

first all i have to say girl is fight ur hardest to get custody with ur mom cause the way shes treating u is not right but also im Nigerian which means that if u get out of line with adults they will just backhand u but if ur not doing anything u have 2 tell someone but sometimes u are maybe going out of line just think about it she raised ur mom and now she has to raise u just get some counseling with her and by the way I DONT EVER WONT TO HEAR U SAY SOMETHING LIKE THAT ABOUT UR GRANDMA I GUESS U EXPECT PEOPLE TO BE ALL TEARY EYES BU IM SPEAKING THE TRUTH U BETTER UR ACT TOGETHER SO SHE DOES NOT HAVE 2 SAY ANTHING 2 U AND IF U WERE AFRICAN OR NIGERIAN MAINLY U WILL NEVER DISRESPECT UR GRANDMOTHER LIKE THAT THAT IS VERY DISRESPECTFUL

Answer 10

Well, if you know how she is, when you are around her, just try to be the way she wants you to be. Try not to get her angry. She may not live that much longer then you might feel bad that you were mad at her. She is old, and life was so much different to her than life is today.
Just try to over-look her. She means well, and thinks she's helping you.

Answer 11

For you to have the nerve to kick your grandma tells me a lot about you. How dare you! Your blessings are being cut off. She is only trying to help you. Obviously she loves you because she took you from abuse. What exactly are you doing. It has to be something. She is trying to save your life and you are trying to throw it away. You need to go to God and ask His forgiveness and apologize to your grandma too. Don't throw your life away. If she is strict, she has that right. Don't ever be abusive to your elders. God is definitely not pleased with that . Go to God. God Bless