sparing you guys all the details...
Grandma is negative, and likes to get pissy with my 2 year old sister and 6 year old brother., sometimes the 14 year old as well (I am 16). Grandma lives with us, but it was originally her house (perhaps why she feels like she owns us?)
She just seethes, 80% of the time. My mom (her youngest daughter) has bluntly told her so, and told her to calm down or whatever, but she ignores everyone. What can I say to make her calm down when she just wants to sink everyone's ship? I am her granddaughter, and a favorite, but She gets angry very easy.
I try to keep the house clean, i do everything she asks of me, but its never enough.
I am at my wits end. I cry almost every night, and I wasnt like this before we bought the house and moved in. I jsut want to be normal again.
2007-12-18 11:57:28 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It is difficult to keep everyone happy in a home with three different generations together. I'm sure your grandmother still feels somewhat like it's her house. It probably was hers in a time when she was more active, happier, and healthier. It's a hard adjustment for her to make and quite possibly she hasn't ever been a positive person or one who gave in easily to change or to anything that went against the way she wanted it to go. Also, being constantly around children as young as your little siblings is not easy on older people who tend to enjoy peace and quiet. I doubt if there's much anyone can do to get her to change. Has she had a recent physical to check for any changes in her health, either physical or mental? A lot of times dementia comes on gradually and is often attributed to forgetfulness or just old age. Then before the family has figured it out, it's out of control. She's most likely just as stressed out as she's making everyone else. Is it possible for you to do what you can to help, to please her, and then to disappear into your room before you melt down? Or perhaps you and your mother could each take "time out" from Grandma on a regular basis and let the other one deal with her. If you could each look forward to some time away from her, you might deal with her more easily. Good luck and blessings to you; what you're doing is not easy!
2007-12-18 12:12:57 · answer #1 · answered by missingora 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your Mom has said something to your Grandma then she knows the score too. Have a heart-to-heart talk with Mom and try to brain storm some ideas. I am sure your Mom is as lost on this one as you are. There is something that is making your Grandmother unhappy and you may or may not be able to figure it out. But, heavens, what Grandmother wouldn't love to be around her grand kids!! She should be happy but isn't. I have no idea why.
2007-12-18 20:23:29 · answer #2 · answered by Grandma of 2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
imm sorryy:[
wellll you could alwayss comfronnt her u noe shes ur grandma shell understand ask her if shes feeling okay and hoe youve been feeling these dayss :]] i hoppe i helped
stay strong through thiss
2007-12-18 20:04:15 · answer #3 · answered by ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋