Right now I'm feeling so upset because three people in my family are dying right now. One is dying of leukemia as we speak, one has lung cancer and Alzheimer's, and the other has a rare form of liver cancer. I know neither of them are going to live much longer, but I just can't deal with it. They're all so important to me and I've known them my entire life. What's even worse is that I know that their deaths are coming and there's nothing I can do to stop it. What do I do? How do I deal with this?
2007-12-18 09:34:35 · 10 answers · asked by Ellophante 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
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visit them
and read the book
90 minutes in heaven it really helps people get over death
i mean your emotions are very normal
and talk to your friends about it .
make sure you make the best out of them living and then when they die you wont feel guilty
if you can't visit them then call them
tall them how you feel about them
and always love them
hope you feel better!
2007-12-19 10:18:43 · answer #1 · answered by Chelsea W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry. Life can deal us some pretty hard times.
But, your loved ones have no way around dying. You can't stop it from happening and that can really suck for you.
It sounds to me like these three people are going through some harder times than you are though. Maybe it's time to let them move on to a time of less suffering.
You might want to say goodbye to them. Spend a lot of time with them and tell them you love them. However, it is possible that they can live longer than you expect. In which case, hold their hand as they suffer. Try to help them go gently.
And remember their dying is not about you.
I think you can also do something special for them, but only you would know what that is.
2007-12-18 10:51:08 · answer #2 · answered by Porch 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a lot to have to deal with, for sure.
I lost my mom this year. She had complications from a gastric bypass surgery. I literally watched her waste away and starve to death in front of me- the doctor left a hole in her stomach that the food kept falling out of- she wasn't getting any nutrients she needed and eventually contracted MRSA. She suffered a lot. It was hard, but I was there for her all the way to the end. That's all you can do.
Trust me, though. When it happens and they go, you'll be sad- but you will also feel a sense of peace. A person would think I would have got no sleep the night my mom died, but somehow I went home, crawled in bed, and it was the best night of sleep I'd had in ages.
Just love them. It's all you can do- and it's enough.
2007-12-18 09:38:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have no choice but to deal with it. I'm sorry for you. What you need to do is go to each one of them and spend time with them. Bring along a photograph album and talk about fun times you remember. Be sure you don't just ignore them because it is difficult for you to say goodbye. When they are gone (and they will be) you will be at peace with yourself for doing the right thing and telling them how much they mean to you. Crying isn't wrong.
2007-12-18 09:43:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, I am really sorry! That is a major bummer! Second, there is really nothing you can do but stick with the loved ones who are healthy and alive. They are probably feeling the exact same way you are. Sticking by eachother will only make you feel less lonely... plus, it is good to talk about what is going on. Don't keep it bottled up inside.
2007-12-18 09:38:05 · answer #5 · answered by Bella18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spend time with them
Pray that they die peacefully with minimal pain as much as possible
Tell them how much you care about them
Try to understand that you are in an unfortunate situation and calmy couping with it is the best approach
Seek professional Guidence with death therapy because these people study all of their lives on this subject and their main goal is to help you understand what to do and why you should do it in this kind of situation
best of luck
2007-12-18 09:59:47 · answer #6 · answered by Sanela D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People come into ours lives and leave. that is the nature of mortality. It hurts but we cope and dwell on the good memories. Now is the time to get in touch with your spiritual side. You may want to talk to a pastor and get some comforting counsel.
2007-12-18 09:38:39 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just pray that theyre right with the LORD .If you want to see them again you make sure your right too.Pray seek the LORD,
Read John 3:5 and acts 2:38.The LORD cares and can see you through this.
2007-12-18 09:39:41 · answer #8 · answered by Joe F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear this. You can try to spend as much time as possible with each of them. Creating memories is so important.
2007-12-18 09:44:01 · answer #9 · answered by shoes_717 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spend as much time with them as you can and tell them how you feel. Express what they've meant to you, what they've taught you and all the reasons why you love them.
I'm sorry for your loss.
2007-12-18 09:38:15 · answer #10 · answered by Itsa Secret 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋