I am sixteen years old and my mom still treats me like a baby. I cant even cross the road without telling my parents!!! People say its because I am the youngest that she treats me like that.
My sister had a boyfriend at age 15 and did something with him (you know that three letter word) my mom was hardly mad at her at all. My mom wont even let me out to have a boyfriend.
Please help I need advice
2007-12-18 09:00:08 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I get the Honor roll every marking period, I asked to get a job and I'm looking, I got her to say yes to babysitting, I just started getting interested in boys (i've been to focused on school to worry about dating)
2007-12-18 09:22:31 · update #1
Well you're 16 so you're SOL technically. Honestly why don't you look at it for what it is? Your mother loves you and that's why she wants to know what you're doing. And frankly you don't need to be dating, concentrate on school.
I do have to ask what you've done to show her though that you are responsible enough to not make the same mistakes as your sister? Do you have a job? Have you asked if you can get a job? How are your grades in school? Do you do work around the house? You have to show your parents that you are responsible and perhaps they're loosen the reigns a little.
2007-12-18 09:05:57 · answer #1 · answered by pamalalauren 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Although parents try to treat you all the same, you find you have to readjust some rules to suit the individual. Your mum may still see you as a baby - perhaps there are things you do or say that make her think you are not ready emotionally for boys and that sort of thing? The best way around this is to up your maturity outlook and start to look at your behaviour more objectively - do you help around the house? Do you offer to take on more responsibility for yourself e.g. getting your own clothes ready for school and that kind of thing. All parents are waiting for 'maturity indicators' to go on. When these start flashing - you start to get more freedom. With freedom comes responsibility to yourself and those around you. As I said, maturity is looking around you and taking on board what sort of things you could do to make life easier for your family and show an interest in how the home is run. I hope this helps a bit. Good luck.
2007-12-18 09:28:20 · answer #2 · answered by AUNTY EM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried talking to her one on one without nagging or complaining?
I made things hard for my little sister by getting pregnant as a teenager. My mom never let my sister out of her sight after that. But because I'm a mom, I understand why. You need to let her know that you are not your sister, and that you have learned from your sister's choices and that you need some independence, just like she had. Start reasonable. Ask to go to a friend's house if you'll be home by 7. Then the more often you do it, the more comfortable she'll be as long as you follow the guidelines that you guys discuss beforehand. The more comfortable she gets, the more freedom she'll give you.
2007-12-18 09:06:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you keep doing things the right way so that they know they can trust you. Try sitting down and talking to them like an adult. Let them know how you feel, what you have observed and ask can you come to a good medium! Good Luck and Happy Holidays
2007-12-18 09:04:42 · answer #4 · answered by brandi91980 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The reason your mom treats you like she does is because she sees where she went wrong with your older sister.She isnt going to let you make the same mistakes.
2007-12-18 09:54:14 · answer #5 · answered by Joe F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just talk to her. Tell her that she's upsetting you and you need some more freedom. And, just remember that she's treating you like this because she loves you.
2007-12-18 10:06:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋