I am in my 20's, and newly married. The thing is, I recently found out I am pregnant with my 1st baby- and I don't know how to break the news to my dad. My mom already knows, and she is happy for us. However, my dad is always a little apprehensive about new things, and especially about things that make him realize I'm not a little girl anymore. I want to break the news gently, but I also am not going to apologize for being happy about my pregnancy. How should I tell him?
2007-12-18 02:55:09 · 12 answers · asked by ~*Felicity's Mommy*~ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Just tell him.
Your mom, who has had many years experience dealing with your dad, is probably the best one to ask advice from on this matter.
2007-12-18 02:58:52 · answer #1 · answered by Scotty Doesnt Know 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I suggest you wait until after the first three months to tell most people. The reason being, if, God forbid, anything should go wrong with the pregnancy it occurs during the first 3 months. After that the chances go down significantly.
When you do tell him, I suggest something cute that says World's Greatest Grand Pa, like a mug or something and put a sonogram picture in it.
The main thing is that Dad is worried and concerned about you. Being young, a newly wed and now pregnant would concern any caring parent. What he needs is reassurance that you have thought this through, you have a plan and that you can handle this.
Congratulations!
2007-12-18 12:21:00 · answer #2 · answered by wondermom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like you said, you're in your 20's, and you're MARRIED!! I'm pretty sure your dad knows you're not a little girl anymore, and I think he will be so pleased to hear he's going to be a grandpa. And why shouldn't you be happy about your pregnancy? You're certainly old enough and you're married, so why would he have a problem with it? I could see him being upset if you were 16, or maybe if your baby wasn't going to have a father, but if I was your dad I would pretty much almost expect to hear good news like this in the near future. Go ahead and tell him and watch his face light up! (And if he acts like a kurmudgeon about it, have your mom straighten him out.)
2007-12-18 10:59:59 · answer #3 · answered by fizzygurrl1980 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is your dad, of course he is concerned for his little girl.. thats how it works! Sit him down and tell him, he will love you AND he will now have a grandchild to love as well! Let him know right away you dont want to hurt his feelings but telling everyone else first. He knows that you arent a little girl anymore, just be honest with him.
2007-12-18 10:59:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm very confused about this. You are a grown woman, not living in his house and married. At this point in his life he should be overjoyed at the birth of his first grandchild. You will always be your dad's little girl in his heart, but in your life, you have every right to expect him to be overjoyed. Don't accept anything less.
2007-12-18 11:14:18 · answer #5 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's already dealt with the marriage, so I have a feeling he'll understand that is what comes along in marriage!
He may feel off handed awhile, but I bet once the baby is born, he'll be the most loving, careing grandpa!
2007-12-18 11:19:29 · answer #6 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congrats for both being marriend and pregnant. Girl, you need to toughen up! If you are out on your own and married, you just need to tell him. He will have to accpet that fact that you are growing up. Tell him he is going to be a grandpa, it will be the best thing in the world!
2007-12-18 11:00:30 · answer #7 · answered by buckeyefever7 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him...its not like hes going to get mad cus your having a baby...hell probaly get all happy anyways...babies bring joy into the famliy when everything seems to go wrong.
2007-12-18 11:04:50 · answer #8 · answered by Jazzy-J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just let him know that you are on your own and married now. he clearly loves you dearly but needs to understand that you are your own person now. keep reassuring him that you will always be there for those "little girl" moments together and will still be able to go visit with him often.
2007-12-18 10:59:14 · answer #9 · answered by Amelia T 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You better think of a way fast because soon you won't be able to hide it.
Why are you so afraid to tell your father good news?
2007-12-18 11:20:31 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋