Please help!!!!!!! my sister is insane please help! i really need your advice!?

Question

Please help, I am in desperate need! for my family and my sake.
I have a 9 year old sister who really drives my whole family insane, she is putting my mum and dad under so much pressure, she is a manipulative and very demanding girl, I will list some of the annoying and distracting things she does

1. She always hits me when i'm in the car, scratches me, makes loud noises, parents tell her too stop, she said she has stopped, though she just continues to do it again and she gets away with it.

2. When I am in charge and have too take her too places. she will never listen to me or my mum, she says too me "Your not the boss of me" and I have too drag her out and yell at her in PUBLIC places, which is such an embarrassment. For example once I was at the beach with her and it took me 3 hours too get her out, I pretty much was stressed out and almost cried in annoyance.

3. Also when I want to watch my programme on TV and I always watch it every week, She yells to mum then she get it. HELP!

Answer 1

she is just a spoiled brat.
break this habit now.
next time she wont get out of the car. just shut it and walk around the corner or something.. then she will come. if she cries in public, let her cry. and if she keeps scratching you, your parents need to do something.
she needs to be sent to her room and yall cant give in to her no matter how much she cries and says she will be good.
tough love. discipline is what this girl needs.. and LOTS of it.

Answer 2

your sister sounds just like my niece.....very spoiled!!!
unfortunately for you, as a brother, there is not a whole lot you can do. if you react to her, fight back, you will get into trouble, more likely to be more trouble than she would get into, because your older and are supposed to set a good example.
Have you tried to talk to your parents privately, without your sister around? I think you need to explain to them how you feel and why, calmly and as much like an adult as possible. That would also be a good time to ask your parents to begin looking for an alternative to leaving you in charge of your sister,like a babysitter.
You should (as the older child) sit your sister down for a little heart to heart talk. Dont think that just because she is so young and badly behaved that she wont understand or listen to you. Dont tell her that her behavior makes you angry or upset, tell her it is embarrassing for you and your parents, and that it makes you want to go places and do things without her including her......if you back that up by ignoring her and leaving the room (whenever possible) as well as refusing to babysit her (asking your parents to find someone else to watch her while she is right there listening, basically says you don't want to watch her or spend time with her).......then she will soon begin to change her behavior for the better, it will take some time for this to happen, but it will work.

Answer 3

Josh, I understand this is very frustrating. I don't think your sister is insane. However, I do think that she is spoiled and that she lacks discipline.
Although you are the one who is paying the biggest price, the bottom line is that you are not her parent and your parents need to start being the parent. It isn't your place to drag your sister around or to make her behave. Just back up off of it and let your parents deal with it or not deal with it as they choose.
If she is scratching you, hitting you etc.., keep telling your parents until they do something about it. She gets her way because she is the most verbal and annoying so you have to compete with that. I am not saying to act out but to just be as verbal as she is.
As for your parents I strongly suggest that they read one or both of the books by Jo Frost who is Super Nanny. She has wonderful ideas.
Good Luck!

Answer 4

Honestly it sounds to me that she is in need of some positive attention. She sounds like she is only getting negative attention. I think that your family should make it a point to do something just for her once a week at least. My daughter did this and the reason was she wasn't really getting the attention she needed so she acted out. This way she was at least getting some attention. So once I showed her that she was getting some that wasn't just yelling and screaming she stopped. Just give her compliments and ignore her when she acts out and I'm sure that will help. If she sees that only good things she does gets her attention, then she will stop the negative things. GOOD LUCK!

Answer 5

To be honest with you she needs more disclipine. Where I come from we dont get whooped or spanked. But WE never did no stuff like that. I think your parents need to tough up on her. Maybe use the belt a time or 2. And if they dont feel comfortable doing that. Then they need to sit her down. Yell at her and get it through her mind. And if i was you I would do the same thing. She isnt taking no one serious. And until she does nothing is going to change.

Answer 6

If ur parents see how she really is. Tell them they have to be more stricked with her. If she is acting like that, tell them to send her to her room. Sounds like she thinks she is the boss of the family so ur mom and dad needs to let her know who is incharge. I would take away things everytime she is bad (EX: if she yells at ur mom, take what she likes away. And tell her that once she is good again yall will give it back. But if she is still bad, take something else she loves away!)
I have evil little 7 year old brother who is like that!!!! Except in public he knows that I will embarass him so hes good then, but not behind closed doors!

Answer 7

I think your parents need to take car of their own kid. You shouldn't have to watch her.
I think you shoud try to take sugar and pop out of her diet. If that doesn't help.
She should get her butt spanked. She should be put in time out and told if she can't act right in public then she can stay home all the time.
If that all doesn't work. Take her to a mental health clinique for children or call Nanny 9-11
http://www.supernanny911.com/

Answer 8

Sounds like a spoiled brat. Luckily its not your child. This is your parents problem, not yours. You can tell her that her behavior in public isn't acceptable so you will not be taking her any place until it is. If your parents force you to sit with her, then do it at home. Don't take her anyplace.

Answer 9

she sounds like a spoiled BRAT! Tell your folks it's time they get her some help and put tough work into their parenting skills! Their the ones who have allowed this behavior so it's all their FAULT. UNLESS they do something about it, I'm sorry, but your stuck with this situation.

Answer 10

first off its not your job to deal with your sister, its your parents. apparently she is quite the brat and needs to be put in her place as child not parent. what you can do is just ignore her. it will be a test of wills, all she wants is get a reaction from you. and your parents can do the rest.