they have never spent real time with him and do not know what he is like. yesterday they made a list up of things bf's should not be like and he dont match any of the things on the list but they still insist he is bad for me. i nearly got kicked out of my house last night beacsue they dont want me to be with him, what do i do. they wont change! do i go and live with him, i really do love him or just get rid of him to be with my parents who dont even know him?
2007-12-17 23:55:16 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If i could read that list then i could help you better, but for now all i can say is that if you think he's good and you love him, then you have to explain to your parents that you have to move out, ( which, one day you will anyway) cos you love him and you want to spend the rest of your life with him. and moving out dosnt mean that you are leaving your parents, its just living in a separate place. do not cut ties with your parents, if things dont work out with your bf later, then at least you got your parents.
2007-12-18 00:04:00 · answer #1 · answered by cherry babe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents will be parents. If they see something is bad for you, they'll make a point of you knowing about it. It could be that they're the controlling type, which means there's probably little that you can do to change them.
It seems that you do love your parents, so the only real option you have is to make them all get along. Going to live with your boyfriend or seeing him behind your parents' back is not really solving the issue, and it'll probably just make things worse over time.
I don't really have any decent suggestions for resolving the situation, I'm afraid, but it is important that you try everything you can to make them get along, to show your parents that you want to be with him, that you really do love him, and to show them how much you care about them, and that you want the all to get along.
Maybe a nice night out at a restaurant, all 4 of you, wouldn't be a bad idea, and you have to keep the conversation flowing in such a way that your boyfriend is constantly seen as a good person. But these things need to be well thought out, human behaviour is massively unpredictable!
Hope that helps! Let us know how it goes.
2007-12-18 00:04:57 · answer #2 · answered by Shaf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your Parents are trying to look after you, remember Love is a word used far to much now days, and I bet you are still a bit young,
It could be that your boy friend is older than you or it could be that they just do not think you are ready just yet to have a steady boyfriend,
Remember your parents are trying to do what they think is best, as they may of made a mistake in the past and do not wanbt you to make the same mistake,
keep them both happy by staying home 3/4 of the time and see him at school and weekends only
Give it time and as they say time heals all wounds
davo
Western Australia
2007-12-18 00:07:36 · answer #3 · answered by davo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's kind of hard to answer this question with little information about your man. Could be that your parents are worried and concerned about you. In your question to us we don't know if your man has a job or is into drugs or etc. There could be a wide range of things why your parents don't approve of him. There must be a number of factors why your parents don't like him if they made up a list. If you carefully read the list that they made you will find the reasons they don't approve of him.
2007-12-18 00:10:02 · answer #4 · answered by clayton M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would your parents dislike your boyfriend so much? Has he done something terrible to them that would make them dislike him so much? My advice is to invite your boyfriend and his parents over to your house for Christmas so that they could get to know you and your parents better. Just because you have a nice boyfriend that loves and adores very much doesn't mean that your parents should stop loving you because of you having a beautiful, healthy, loving relationship with someone who loves you unconditionally, and would never ever do anything and everything dangerous and harmful to you.
You can very well indeed have a loving relationship with both your parents and your boyfriend, regardless of what the world says. Always follow your heart and your instincts.
GOOD LUCK AND BE SUPER DUPER POSITIVE!!!!!
2007-12-18 00:06:28 · answer #5 · answered by Louise Smith 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should talk with your bf about the situation and see what is his opinion and then you should have a talk with your parents again and ask them why they don't like them. If he makes you happy then your parents have to accept that fact, and if they dont' maybe your bf can talk with them alone.
best of luck!
2007-12-18 00:02:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Live seperately but continue going to your parents now and then. Although your parents don't like him, you ask him to respect them as usual. A time comes when they start liking him. Don't worry.
2007-12-18 00:00:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him, your parents have no right to stop you. HAve your boyfriend take you all out to dinner, so your parents can see what you see in him. If they don't, then go and live with him. They'll come to their senses eventually.
2007-12-18 00:00:08 · answer #8 · answered by ~aShLeY~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your age may have a lot to do with this and thus my answer, and as you don't give any-ones age, I refrain from answering.
I begin from the premise that the Parents do tend to know more than their offspring.,
Sash.
2007-12-18 00:02:11 · answer #9 · answered by sashtou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your parents don't know him, I think they are being unfair...maybe they are the kind of parents, that no matter who it is, they will never be good enough for you...living with him if you aren't ready could be a mistake, but so couldn't leaving him to please your parents...tough call!!!
2007-12-17 23:59:15 · answer #10 · answered by madsmaha1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋