I'm thinking about moving abroad as my partner of 2 years has been here for 8 years and says it is now time to move home.
My mother says its wrong as I have a child of nearly 7 and its a big upheaval for him. She says its also wrong to deprive a grandmother of her grandson.
2007-12-17 21:39:00 · 7 answers · asked by Victoria P 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It is also wrong to live your life to please others and not yourself..Sweetie, you have only one life... Live IT!!! If moving abroad is something you want to do... go for it. Life is an adventure, go out and explore what it has to offer while you are young and healthy!! Your little one will survive and will probably look back on the move favorably when older. Be sure to prepare him or her well in advance and make it a fun, positive experience. Help him or her learn about the new country before the move, help him or her make a "pen pal" list of friends etc. Good luck to you whatever you decide.
2007-12-17 21:46:38 · answer #1 · answered by Miss Delanne 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your mother is scared shes not going to see her son or grand son any more. people move all the time even when they have children . Yes its hard, but it might be harder if your household has to split up. Children are usually more accepting of their situation than we give them credit for. But make sure you let your child be part of the planning, and make sure your child is able to stay in contact with any family or friends that he or she hold dear. And make visits possible even if it can only be once a year or something. Just make sure that this partner is worth all this effort and your not making decisions trying to hold onto something that's fading away.
2007-12-18 05:48:11 · answer #2 · answered by loquitaamericana 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is not your mother's decision and the child is yours, not hers. I am sure there will be contact if you go. She will have to accept it if you decide to move. Children are very resilient and though it will be a big change for him, as long as you and your partner are raising him in a loving home and protecting him as any responsible parent would, then it should not matter where you choose to live. Sounds like mommy has some attachment and control issues. What she should say is, "I would hate to see you go, and miss you terribly, but you must do what makes you happy." Best of luck to you.
2007-12-18 05:45:29 · answer #3 · answered by NinjenWV 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You should get the opinion from your child. Not a decision, but an agreement. As for your mom, of course she has a right to an opinion, but her position to influence your decision should be weaker than yor child's.
2007-12-18 05:57:47 · answer #4 · answered by Wintermute 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Well you should take your children in consideration, but you have to make yourself happy before you can please others...
Maybe sit down and write out the pro's and con's on this one....
2007-12-18 05:45:40 · answer #5 · answered by Radertastic 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i dont think ur mother has any rite for ur life... but then again she is just worried about u... its actually up to you...
2007-12-18 05:52:59 · answer #6 · answered by SomeJunk 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
everyone has to put water in his wine.
2007-12-18 05:43:12 · answer #7 · answered by May 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋