Family - July 2007

my mother in law takes the child behind our backs all the time and treats her like a 3 year old she is infact 9 and is a grandmother to another 4 other children., she lies to us and very selfish my husband because its his mother says nothing

2007-07-09 03:27:13 · 17 answers · asked by sandra f 1

…is this morally and ethically correct?
The story. My parents are divorced and my father pays $1200 in child support payments a month for me and my little sister. When I began college last year I had asked my mother to help me out in school. I told her since I wasn’t home for 8 out of the 12 months I should receive some of the $600 when I am in school, to help me pay for expenses. (This was one of the very few times I have ever asked her for anything. Since I was in high school I paid for everything I used, needed and ate because she said we were too poor.) She said no because without all the money she wouldn’t be able to pay for the rented house in an upper middle class neighborhood. I brought up the fact that she gave $200 to the church every month. I asked her to cut down on her spending to help me up at college because I had nothing. She cried and asked me if I wanted her and my little sister to live in some hole in the ground and asked me if I wanted my little sister to get...

2007-07-09 02:49:46 · 9 answers · asked by dumdum4eva 2

Im 13, mom makes wear bras w/ much support and coverage, she says I need them. But I don't enjoy them, especially now in the summer. But mom is stubborn. I fought a lot w/ mom over this, got grounded a few times for being disrespectful. Last week I lost my temper, got a pair of scissors and in front my mom cut up the bras she gave me. I know this was wrong, apologized but my mom got REALLY mad at me. Punishment: She took me to a lingerie store and got me those bras called long line that covers all of your torso and back have 10 hooks in the back, all of them made of very thich material. I'll have to wear them till Oct 1st, EVERYDAY,They are kinda uncomfortable, much worse than my other bras. I gotta wear all the time, except in bed. Dont you agree this punishment is too harsh and unfair? What do I do now? They make me sweat, I HATE them! Those hooks make me MAD! but it seems mom won't back off. And if she doesn't back off? How can I live with them, the sweat, and those hooks??

2007-07-09 02:47:11 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband got drunk at a family partner and did lots of things that were out of character. He pecked my sister on her ear and told her he loved her and kept dragging her on the dance floor. Both of which are usually unacceptable in the indian tradition. He scratched my hand when I asked him politely not to drink any more and told me to **** off in front of my family. He was drunk to his eye balls and insulted me deeply. He slept all the way home and when I asked him not to get into the clean bed he told me he wished he could be a single man. He then slept until 9pm and went up to sleep more. He then got up at 2am and disturbed my sleep by repeatedley shuffling into me. I had to resort sleeping in the spare room. He didnt say goodbye when he went to work in the morning and wouldnt answer his calls when I tried to call him. Today he kisses his sister in law,.,,,,what would happen if my brother in law kissed me one day?

2007-07-09 02:40:37 · 17 answers · asked by stars 3

2007-07-09 02:24:14 · 9 answers · asked by emz 2

My husband moved out on me and my two kids over a year ago. I am moving on and dating. However, my father in law recently took me to dinner. He said that he wanted to apologize for his part in this. I asked what did he mean. He said that over 20 months ago, his son told him that he was going to start having sex with someone else (he had probably already started by then). My father in law just took the "Heh heh, guys will be guys" attitude because his son was turning 40 and "Well, men sometimes think that they have to prove they still have it. I didn't think that he would take it this far."

I believe that I should not have much contact with them (in laws)anyway but they want to stay friends even though they have the other woman sitting in my chair at their house. What? Why apologize to me?

2007-07-09 02:04:13 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

yesterday i was painting my house and i finish so i went to took a bath but didn't have a towel so i had to walk thur the livinroom but my two cousin walk in so i had to sit down without a towel and they wouldn't let me go and they took all my clothes and anything i can wrap my self with what should i do

2007-07-09 01:06:14 · 9 answers · asked by kenisha H 1

seeking, ohio shawnee indians re: adopted twin girls of late 1950's. biological mother was last seen at a crooksville, ohio church in 1992. was told that biological family lived in the outlying area of shawnee, ohio. possible work place for biological father was at congo, ohio. this is where he was last seen being hit over the head in the early 1960's. i did see him in a hospital bed sometime after that though. that leads me to believe that he survived the attack on his life. i saw my bio. mother at shawnee, ohio christmas giveaway when i was about eight years old. this was held in an auditorium. i no longer have connection with adopted parents, one of whom has passed away. i and my son need family medical history for inherited epilepsy which only affects native indians, probably my bio. mother. i grew up in fairfield county, lancaster, ohio area. bio. mother would be about 5'2", thin, brown hair. driving a brown chevy car in 92 at crooksville. please help.

2007-07-09 01:04:13 · 3 answers · asked by calligraphy1019 1

I've been with my girlfriend for 2 months now and she's amazing. Basically we've talked about moving out together in the future - but we want to save up enough money for a deposit on a house first which will take a while.

Her parents have said I can move in with her to a spare room at their house in the meantime but I'm not so keen on the idea and my girlfriend doesn't understand why. I want to move out with her... but I'm not so sure about with her family... in September 2007!

My Dad is elderly and has problems health wise after a few strokes and heart attacks. My Mum is disabled with an unknown condition and my brother is a slow learner. I know I'll move out eventually but I just feel torn between so many things at the moment and I'm not sure what to do. My girlfriend gets upset that we talk about moving out together but when we have the opportunity I go cold on the moving in with her family' idea. I'm a lil afraid my family will think I'm abandoning them too for her family!

2007-07-09 00:42:12 · 9 answers · asked by Finding_Scotty 2

When was the last time you went up to your Father and hugged him? Or your Mother and kissed her? When was the last time you told them how much you loved them? How wonderful and special they are. Has it been a while? A day? A week? Maybe a month? A year? Two years? You say it's been longer than that? Well what's stopping you?Go to them! Go to them right now! Tell them how much you love and care for them! How much they mean to you! Kiss and hug them, squeeze them tight and never let them go! Please it is so important that you do this while you still can. I want to share a very sad thing that just happened to my boyfriends Mom not more than 2 hours ago, and how he wishes he would have told her more times that he loved her and how much she mean't to him, but he can't, she died an hour ago, by a careless and reckless driver on her way walking home from the store, not more then 100 yards from her home she was struck and killed, and she won't be coming home tonight or ever, and that's sad!

2007-07-08 23:46:02 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

Id done something wrong to upset my bf and i didt know what it was, my bf started messin around pinnin me down and my bedroom floor and then after bit hed get more aggressive and hed start to have this weird look in his eye, i finally got up from him pinnin me down on my bedroom floor and moved to my bed, he then grabbed hold of me agen and pinned me down on my bed for 40 mins, he was touchin my face, and belly, i actually thought he was goin to do somet, but he didt. he let go of me finally after i started cryin cos he was hurtin my arms, sqeasin them more and more if i tried to move, i screamed at him tellin him i didt want him near me and leave me alone. i ran out of my room and into the bathroom, where i cried, this was the second time hed done this, the first time was at his house, but i gave him another chance.

2007-07-08 23:43:48 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

GF is worried her 21 yr old brother who
has a strong interest in fashion
never seems to have a g-f (despite being date-material)
has a close friend who is very suspect in fashion-design
constantly dyes and changes his hairstyle
is totally pre-occupied with his appearance & very vain
quite feminine
has almost no male friends (all close friends are girls)

and is having a 21st party soon (his invites & the venue are plastered with own baby/childhood photos)?

She's very confused and upset. Her close, very traditional family has drifted apart since her mum passed- her brother was very close to mum- but she wouldn't have tolerated his preoccupation with himself.
GF has gay friends- but having a gay bro is something else.
She's worried it will crush her dad- and we think dad is in denial (eg convinced son is a lecturer- but actually he just marks papers)

Pls useful answers only- I ask again because of so many PC trite answers yesterday.

Do you think he IS gay?
How to soften blow to dad?

2007-07-08 23:27:06 · 30 answers · asked by B.o.B 2

Well im getting married in 5 days and my fiancee is going to his mothers house the night before wedding? We have a child together and he has a son that is going with him too. My mother in law is not taking our son together. Im not very happy about it. He has two kids not one.Please help????

2007-07-08 23:18:53 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

My mom treats me like I am nothing.She talks to me like Im her worst enemy.I can't take it I tried to leave but she threatens to call the police on me.Im only 17 what are somethings I can do to leave.What could I do to fight back.I know it sounds horrible,but sometimes my mother pushes me so far and taunts and bullies me so much that I just wanna crack her in the face.Everytime she screams at me I clintch my fist.Im a horrible son,I know.She makes that point everyday.

2007-07-08 21:57:06 · 9 answers · asked by Travis T 1

Please help me! My in-laws are staying with us for a while and my mother-in-law completely disrespects me and undermines my rules of the house! She allows her own children (the same age as ours) to disobey my rules and I'm tired of picking up after them. They are rude and I feel like I'm trapped in my own home. My husband says I'm petty, but I shouldn't have to change just because they're here. I have rules for a reason and they should follow them and respect me, but they dont! What should I do? I'm depressed and having panic attacks everyday from the stress. I'm about to give up and just sit in my room while they take over my house. I want them to leave, but I'm also not rude as to just throw them out with no place to go. I can't take it anymore. Please someone help....

2007-07-08 21:04:56 · 9 answers · asked by leafmistress 1

Luckily I have siblings. I don't believe that ailing parents are my responsibility. It wasn't me who chose to have them like they chose to have me. I really hate that idea that I should give back to them because they gave me life and raised me, oh please, that was their choice and responsibility. I had no say in that one and if I did, guess what I'd choose. I'd go back and get my mother to abort me.

I'm asking because I was talking about this with my husband and he may one day agree to take care of his aging parents. I don't understand the drive is it a guilt thing or what because he agree with me, if he could go back, he'd ask his mother to abort him too!

And don't tell me to commit suicide, I've got life, now I'm stuck with it for what little it is worth. Even in moments of joy and love, that is my burden.

2007-07-08 20:34:29 · 24 answers · asked by qwertatious 4

My fiance and I have set our wedding date as June 7, 2008. When we were making our guest list, I chose to leave my grandfather out. I have never had a good relationship with him, and most of his views I do not agree with and he makes a point to argue with me about them every time we talk. He's hinted to me (and actually told my mother) that he does not support me marrying my fiance. My mom called me a few days ago and told me that he called her and is very upset that he didn't get an invitation. I calmly explained to her the reasons for me not inviting him, and she's angry. She told me that if I don't send him an invitation ASAP, she, along with my father (who is supposed to walk me down the aisle) and my 15 year old brother, will not be attending my wedding. Should I give in and invite him to avoid drama, or should I judt ignore it and not have my immediate family attend my wedding, even though I'd really like them to?

2007-07-08 20:17:33 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ok so my parents used to be together. Now they’re about to get divorced. They can't stand each other. So they don't live together. My mom, my brother, and I live together. So my dad comes over occasionally and we go places. My mom gets annoyed.. And my dad is a truck driver. My mom will have a drink every so often. and sometimes if she's really pissed then she'll start drinking and get really drunk.

So like I said my dad is a truck driver. So I went one of the trips with my dad. We went to Texas. And it was a lot of fun. My mom stayed home. When we came back, instead of driving me back to my house my dad drove me to his house. Which I've never been to before. He lives with the woman who he lived with when he came to the U.S My family is Polish, we used to live in Poland. My mom and I didn't know about this. Neither did my brother. So when I went to his house she was there. And I didn't say anything. I mean I was a couple miles away from home and I didn't have a cell phone. What if I got kicked out for saying something stupid. So I just stayed quiet. When I got home I didn’t tell my mom. I mean if I told her she would get depressed. The woman supposably stole my dad from us. But technically if my dad cared he would have stayed with us. So I’m just angry with my dad.

Now one day my mom was drunk, I hated when she was drunk. I couldn’t stand it. I mean she acted stupid and she kicked the doors and it was a mess. I cried sometimes and it was horrible now its not that bad. I got a phone call asking if I want to go to my dads house so I look at my mom and I just wanted to give her revenge. I mean I looked at her, she was drunk. How could she be drunk?? I just went for the heck of it. But then I got home. She wasn’t drunk anymore. I felt awful about it. But then I went over there regularly. Like it was o big deal. Now its all starting to bug me.

Now this is what’s bothering me. I’m hurting my mom. If I told her I’d hurt her more…..

2007-07-08 20:04:54 · 14 answers · asked by HEARTLESS 3

I was left in tears and depression tonight. My son has been spending a lot of time with his birth father and he is acting more and more like him. Very critical, hostile accusing me of living in the past when I clearly don't. I believe my ex does and has put this in my son's head. I listened to a one way conversation really a lecture in politics from my son. He got faster and more wound up. just before he left I gave some advice about his boss my husband left that boss recently. He said I didn't trust his intelligence I live in the past I can't believe I lived in the same house with you etc. I said yes I trust your intelligence I'm sorry if you take it that way no one is perfect and I feel the boss is sneaky. He said he knows about business I know nothing. I said I think your attitude is because you're around your father so much. He said I knew that was coming. He left mad no kiss hug nothing. I was crying my husband came hugged me and he heard it all and said he was disgusted with him.

2007-07-08 20:04:53 · 9 answers · asked by detour 4

My two sisters got into a big fight. The older one is 20 while the other one is 15. The 15 year old asked the 20 year old to help her with the laundry because she doesn't know how. The 20 year old got really pissy but was willing to help her. While they were in the laundry room, me and my other little sister heard the 20 year old degrade and insult the 15 year old by calling her names such as "stupid, dumbass, I hate you, you're soo dumb." While Me and my other little sister were outside of the laundry room, we told the 15 year old that we would help her because we felt sorry for her. Right when the 20 year old heard our offer, she slapped/punched the 15 year old in the face. Then they got into a big physical fight. I tried to break the fight up but it was too vicious. As a result, the 20 year old left with several minor scratches on her face, two BIG scratches on her neck/chest area, a bite mark that was open-wounded. While the 15 year old got away with nothing.

2007-07-08 20:02:00 · 15 answers · asked by fabulous101 2

Ok so my arrogant, and highly annoying attitude sister comes to visit. At first i'm like yes, and was happy. As soon as she shows up and starts her bragging, than cutting down on me when i'm 5 years younger, and have just yet become to have important stuff going on in my life, she than feels the need to compare how successful she is ( or thinks she is) and how i'm not compared to her. I of course am like kiss my *** and yeah i start a fight with the self centered *****.

She then has the nerve to come into my room, look at pictures and play with my dog roughly to were my dog throws up. I'm in the bathroom and what do i hear? "Adam come clean this up"...like what the hell? You did it, but it's my fault? I than get mad after her and my mom laugh about it. I ask her to leave and she says no, it's not your room it's mom's and you don't own it. I than freak out after the defiant little ***** thinks she can come into my house and not listen to what i say. Am i wrong or right?

2007-07-08 19:47:56 · 17 answers · asked by Curious mind 2

I knew a family years ago that did just that. The dad would walk around naked in front of his teenage daughters, the mom would walk around naked in front of the son, the kids would walk around naked. I even seen the kids run outside naked a few times.
I find it strange - the last thing i want to see is my mom and dad walking around naked. YUCK.
Am i just a Backwards American?

2007-07-08 19:39:56 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

my sister has a myspace and so do i. i asked if i could be her buddy and sent her and invite online. she replied and said that she's not my sister but her picture was her and i took the picture that she put online. i asked her in person if i could be on her buddy list but she said she deleted her myspace and doesnt go on it anymore. i know she still goes on it because it said that she was online today! i've seen her myspace before and it's kinda bad. i just want to be apart of her life a litte.

she's 19 and i'm 11.

2007-07-08 19:38:35 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-07-08 19:20:04 · 6 answers · asked by oscar l 1

My mom is starting a new job really soon and my dad has a job that pays $600 a week. We just bought a new house and we have to pay morgage and everything still. I'm 14 years old and I really want allowance. I have 3 other sisters who ALSO want allowance. They are 12, 9, and 7 years old. I haven't gotten any new clothes at all this summer and I'm mad about it b/c I'm wearing the same FEW clothes I had from last yr. I want to get allowance and my mom is condsidering it. Is there a chart you have that my family and I can use?

ex. of what I prefer:
1 load of laundry (washed, dryed, folded, put away)= $ ??

Please don't say anything like, "You're too young to get allowance." or "You should do it because you guys are a family." I make my bed and that stuff everyday, but when I do extra I haven't gotten anything in return really. PLEASE HELP!!!

2007-07-08 19:09:56 · 11 answers · asked by ? 2

My dad is going to kick my 18 yr old sister out of the house because she's rude & disrespectful...( I'm 20yrs old)....He also works a swing shift so he's ALWAYS stressed out. His stress level is getting higher & higher & he said he feels like he's dying. Plus my mom always seems to take up for my sister when she's wrong so my mother is NO help. I'm worried. How can someone destress themselves, & do any of you know how I can find a good therapist to help my dad deal with stress?????

2007-07-08 18:39:48 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-07-08 18:14:14 · 22 answers · asked by PuppyLove 2

Ok I had an observation the other day for a position at a doctors office and it was between me and this other girl who got hired. Well they hired her in the end only because they said she had more medical experience what they call it b/c it was only a high school program that she went to and "observed" surgeries in he hospital. that is NOT experience!!!! i think it is BS! i had scrubs, she didnt. I was early, she was late! and they still picked her! also, she goes to a university for pre-med and they want to focus on school schedule AROUND work schedule. I dont think she will be able to do it b/c its like from 8-12 two days of the week and then 8-5pm the other 2 days. And in medical usually the only classes offered at a school are in 2's, meaning there aren't many hours of the day you can pick from so she wouldnt be able to take them. Im going to school part time for radiology and they did xrays there. Do you think that girl will end up quitting???? what do you think about this?

2007-07-08 17:52:23 · 3 answers · asked by pink_flamingo1211 1

I recently confronted my girlfriends racist parents. Yes I am a mixed, and proud of it. Anyway It was the 4th of July and I had plans with my girlfriend. Her mom had messed up our plans and really pissed me off. So I marched up to her parents house hand in hand with may girlfriend and confronted her mom. I was very respectful!! I told her how I felt about her daughter and how much she means to me. All while she was yelling at me. At the end of this dillema, her mom agreed to meet me over dinner with my girlfriend and her father and mother and also me. I thought everything was good to go and I actually go through to her mother. She actually asid that she can see how much I love and care for her daughter. My girlfreind and I made plans to go out to the a theme park and she told her mother and she filpped out. Asked my girlfriend why is she going with me, and she shouldnt. Did she TOTALLY forget what she said to me? Its like we are back at square one again...What do I do?

2007-07-08 17:46:53 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

ok so my uncle just passed away and i cant get over it at all..next weekend is his birthday and i just dont think i can take it..i have tried to stop thinking about it but i cant!!..i never got to say goodbye..we were very close!!..what should i do to stop thinking about it?

2007-07-08 17:00:17 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous